notttty:


A'a. Na zauna a lagos, duk rayuwata a lagos. Na rantse da yin aure daga kabilar na zai kasance mafi kyau amma ina son ba da latti ba tsammani.

Abun ya faru ko. Ka yi kokari ka karba yaron ka. Ai mama na ta gaya mani kada in kuskura in aure wanda ba southern Kaduna ba. Wallahi kabilu nan ba su da mutunci

notttty:

Don haka kai ne tiffany rubuta waɗannan labarun? Na ji dadin haduwa da ku. Wane bangare na kaduna ko ku ne daga kaduna?

Thank you. Baba na Bajju Zonkwa (fadiya) to be precise while mama ta Adara

TiffanyJ:

Abun ya faru ko. Ka yi kokari ka karba yaron ka. Ai mama na ta gaya mani kada in kuskura in aure wanda ba southern Kaduna ba. Wallahi kabilu nan ba su da mutunci

Wannan shawara ne mai kyau. Ku saurari ta don kauce wa labarun da ke ciwo

TiffanyJ:

Thank you. Baba na Bajju Zonkwa (fadiya) to be precise while mama ta Adara

Bari in dm ku. Da fatan za ku iya ba ni lambar ku don mu iya magana. Yaya game da wannan. Dan Allah

notttty:


Bari in dm ku. Da fatan za ku iya ba ni lambar ku don mu iya magana. Yaya game da wannan. Dan Allah

Haba,ba damuwa.

TiffanyJ:

Haba,ba damuwa.

Nagode. DM sent. Wannan lamari ne. Fata za ku iya lalata shi. Zero, takwas, zero, biyar, takwas, zero, biyar, takwas, zero, tara, takwas, ka samu nasarar juya maina zuwa hausa thread. Sannu da aikatawa.

Kaduna.You people marry so many wife's, more than we Igbos. why complaining. My.

notttty:

Smiles. Am from kaduna and she is kogi.

9japrof:


Do you know I actually enjoy your comments, walahi I gbadu them.

Buh why do we have terrible in-laws...

...because we have terrible people nah. Terrible people make terrible in-laws. That's the best I can come up with oo

Thanks

notttty:


Bari in dm ku. Da fatan za ku iya ba ni lambar ku don mu iya magana. Yaya game da wannan. Dan Allah

You wan kiss tiffanyj ba?

notttty:

Nagode. DM sent. Wannan lamari ne. Fata za ku iya lalata shi. Zero, takwas, zero, biyar, takwas, zero, biyar, takwas, zero, tara, takwas, ka samu nasarar juya maina zuwa hausa thread. Sannu da aikatawa.

Digits just rolled, OK you say you've divorced your wife? No wahala go ahead and mingle..

sauceEEP:

Digits just rolled, OK you say you've divorced your wife? No wahala go ahead and mingle..

OMG. OK not what you think tho but it's wit you see. #Eagleeye

sauceEEP:

You wan kiss tiffanyj ba?

Huh No ooo. No kissing there at all. Just when you meet someone new that speaks your language and live where your heart was nurtured . Tiffany come and defend yourself.

notttty:

Huh No ooo. No kissing there at all. Just when you meet someone new that speaks your language and live where your heart was nurtured . Tiffany come and defend yourself.

Even if I try defending myself, the guy would believe only what he feels like. Allow him to think whatever he wishes to, after all, he is entitle to his opinion.

notttty:

Huh No ooo. No kissing there at all. Just when you meet someone new that speaks your language and live where your heart was nurtured . Tiffany come and defend yourself.

I understand but you think say we no dey understand una.

sauceEEP:

I understand but you think say we no dey understand una.

Nope. Anybody can understand what's up there. If it's secret I won't put it up. Moving on

Richy4:


Maybe you should take it easy while flexing your fingers on the keyboard sir..that woman u called useless is the mother of his kid..A little respect is required no matter how inappropriate she may have behaved

you are right.... my bad... OP accept my apologies.

MrBrownJay1:


bro, pls answer the question (so we can at ;east understand you): what is good about this useless woman and her mother (oh yeah, mother is part of the package) that you would want to even try to get back with her?!

How can you call somebody's mother 'useless' is that what you call your mother? What nonsense is this, I doubt you have sense sha

OP, as u be Hausa, I no wan comment as I don't really understand your culture but if you are a Christian then I'm sure you took a vow of "For better or worse" that vow is dangerous and must be honored. That said, I propose that both of you should live apart for a while until you both can agree amicably on how you will live together in peace and this might mean that both your parents shouldn't live with you at any point in time, be mature for the sake of your child.

Pidgin2:


How can you call somebody's mother 'useless' is that what you call your mother? What nonsense is this, I doubt you have sense sha.

are you saying that all mothers are GREAT?! stop writing rubbish online as we all can hear everyday about the many "great mothers" who gladly throw the newborn kids in bushes and dustbin.

... and as much as i have apologized to the OP, it certainly does NOT change the fact that some mothers/wives are indeed USELESS (and probably should have aborted)

MrBrownJay1:


are you saying that all mothers are GREAT?! stop writing rubbish online as we all can hear everyday about the many "great mothers" who gladly throw the newborn kids in bushes and dustbin.

... and as much as i have apologized to the OP, it certainly does NOT change the fact that some mothers/wives are indeed USELESS (and probably should have aborted)

Not all mothers are great, that's not my point. You are talking about the OP's mother-in-law; his wive's mother, you are also talking about his wife. He might even end up regretting why he posted if he still has some feelings for her(the mother of his child) and it wouldn't solve anything. Get to the point already, you made sense until you started name calling

Pidgin2:


Not all mothers are great, that's not my point. You are talking about the OP's mother-in-law; his wive's mother, you are also talking about his wife. He might even end up regretting why he posted if he still has some feelings for her(the mother of his child) and it wouldn't solve anything. Get to the point already, you made sense until you started name calling

this demon of a mother in law is INDEED useless, and the reason for the downfall of this union... so yes i will stand by the fact that she is indeed USELESS... and to stay polite, i will refrain to hurt the OP further by saying exactly what i think his baby mama (ex wife ) is.

its sad that people expect us to refrain from saying what we feel, and instead have to sugarcoat life and NOT call a spade A SPADE (as if this man doesnt know the type of ex wife he had). if that woman was "that" great, they wouldnt be where they are at today. let us be real people!

MrBrownJay1:


this demon of a mother in law is INDEED useless, and the reason for the downfall of this union... so yes i will stand by the fact that she is indeed USELESS... and to stay polite, i will refrain to hurt the OP further by saying exactly what i think his baby mama (ex wife ) is.

its sad that people expect us to refrain from saying what we feel, and instead have to sugarcoat life and NOT call a spade A SPADE (as if this man doesnt know the type of ex wife he had). if that woman was "that" great, they wouldnt be where they are at today. let us be real people!

Do you see why I suspect that you don't have sense? You haven't heard from the spouse or mother in law before passing your judgement. This is why every competent court of jurisdiction must hear from all parties involved before passing judgement except one party deliberately refuses to appear before the court but they will surely be invited because one account without physical evidence is not enough to crucify the other. Use your brain small na, the wife or MIL might not be demons or useless if you hear their own side of the story

Pidgin2:


Do you see why I suspect that you don't have sense? You haven't heard from the spouse or mother in law before passing your judgement. This is why every competent court of jurisdiction must hear from all parties involved before passing judgement except one party deliberately refuses to appear before the court but they will surely be invited because one account without physical evidence is not enough to crucify the other. Use your brain small na, the wife or MIL might not be demons or useless if you hear their own side of the story

if we needed to hear what competent court or jurisdiction had to say on the matter then thats where the OP would have taken his case, and not the online public forum of NL. EVERY issue on NL is solely based on one side, and we all make our findings based on that, and as i say again, based on the OP's story, my findings is that the MIL is useless. when the wife and MIL come to give us their own side of the story then i may change my stand but until then, i stand by MY humble opinion that MIL is useless.

but hey, since you do have sense (you answered the OP as well, therefore you must have a crystal ball) why dont you tell us all what the MIL/wifey version is?!

pocohantas:
You met her October 2012.
You got married March 2013.
Your son will be 4yrs, September 2017.

What you didn't tell us is that, your marriage was a pregnancy induced marriage.

This is why I say, after orgasm comes reality. When you allow prick select wife for you...there'll be consequences.

I have no advice for you, I only have an advice for other young men and ladies out there. Youths these days are not very sincere, take your time to understand who you are getting married to, and the family he or she is from.

Analysis of life

pocohantas:


...because we have terrible people nah. Terrible people make terrible in-laws. That's the best I can come up with oo

Thanks

Sometimes terrible people change but this case is a bit different.
N. B my ex is right here on this thread. She has seen this but I was waiting for her to speak up so that you all can judge. Meanwhile case already hit the court. Just waiting for first hearing September 18.

Pidgin2:


Do you see why I suspect that you don't have sense? You haven't heard from the spouse or mother in law before passing your judgement. This is why every competent court of jurisdiction must hear from all parties involved before passing judgement except one party deliberately refuses to appear before the court but they will surely be invited because one account without physical evidence is not enough to crucify the other. Use your brain small na, the wife or MIL might not be demons or useless if you hear their own side of the story

The case has been filed already and waiting for first hearing September 18.
N. B my ex is right hear on this thread and she has seen it all. If she is deeply hurt about this or I said anything that contradict what happen she should come out and state her own side of the story. She has viewed this thread multiple times and constantly reminding me of what people said. Custody hearing is already loading. You all will hear the end if it. Just sad for privacy reason I can update with pictures.

Pidgin2:


Do you see why I suspect that you don't have sense? You haven't heard from the spouse or mother in law before passing your judgement. This is why every competent court of jurisdiction must hear from all parties involved before passing judgement except one party deliberately refuses to appear before the court but they will surely be invited because one account without physical evidence is not enough to crucify the other. Use your brain small na, the wife or MIL might not be demons or useless if you hear their own side of the story

No one is perfect and sometimes we make bad choices.. . My ex is great. She is a great person that on her best days, she is a woman anybody will love to her. One of the reasons I was seeking a peaceful resolution but in life , sometimes we Trust people and rely on them to help us make decision. She is as much victim as I am. Inexperience played against us. Immaturity and the psychological strength needed to sail thru the trying times was never there. I never want it to get to this point. I tried to avert it and right now she is as much as I am cos it's so much out of our hands already. Family on a wider scale seem to be driving everything. It's not about marriage again. Its power tussle. Family pride at play and unfortunately I have a son stuck inbetween. Please I will so much appreciate if we refrain from calling names. This is hurtful from beginning and it still does. No one will ever want to have it like this. Worst state of my life and I dont pray it to my enemies.

I need to hear from the other party too before commenting.

needful:
I need to hear from the other party too before commenting.

Lol. Used bitch. Werin you wan comment? Is it your type that solves case? Old cargo.

notttty:

No one is perfect and sometimes we make bad choices.. . My ex is great. She is a great person that on her best days, she is a woman anybody will love to her. One of the reasons I was seeking a peaceful resolution but in life , sometimes we Trust people and rely on them to help us make decision. She is as much victim as I am. Inexperience played against us. Immaturity and the psychological strength needed to sail thru the trying times was never there. I never want it to get to this point. I tried to avert it and right now she is as much as I am cos it's so much out of our hands already. Family on a wider scale seem to be driving everything. It's not about marriage again. Its power tussle. Family pride at play and unfortunately I have a son stuck inbetween. Please I will so much appreciate if we refrain from calling names. This is hurtful from beginning and it still does. No one will ever want to have it like this. Worst state of my life and I dont pray it to my enemies.

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Hope it has been resolved now

Get a lawyer, and fight for the custody of your son.

Then date again, someonelse. Shine your eyes well this time and the kind of in-laws u are marrying into next time . Then Remarry and have more kids with the new lady coming.

Why complicate your life further with going back to your ex wife?

notttty:

Don haka kai ne tiffany rubuta waɗannan labarun? Na ji dadin haduwa da ku. Wane bangare na kaduna ko ku ne daga kaduna?

Oga,tidy this story abeg.