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5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by magazineguy(m): 5:31pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
Breakups are never easy to deal with. Relationships can go wrong so fast. One minute you’re telling each other how much you’re in love and the next minute you’re lying in bed with a pillow over your head, sheets soaked in tears wondering where it all went wrong. Of course this only applies if you’re the dumpee and not the dumper. Just like there are stages of grief, there are also stages of heartbreak which any girl who has ever been dumped should be able to relate to. Disbelief This is the first stage. You get dumped and you really can’t believe it. If you get dumped via text, you read the message over and over again. If you get dumped in person or over the phone, you replay the entire scenario repeatedly in your head. Telling yourself that maybe you missed something, maybe you misunderstood…like the message wasn’t clear enough. Sadness This stage can come after anger (which is the third stage) but in most cases it comes before. This is when you sit in bed and cry if you’re a crier or you listen to songs that remind you of your now ex. You wear his hoodie, you read old text messages. You want to call but you really don’t want to feel pathetic so instead you eat and eat and eat and cry and eat some more. You cuddle with the teddy he bought you, you look at old pictures. This stage is usually the longest. It could last from a couple of days to a week or even more in some cases. If you can pass through this stage without calling or sending a text then you’re greater than most dumpees. Anger In this stage,you’re pissed that you got dumped. You want to know the reason or reasons. You want a clearer understanding of what went wrong. You delete pictures, delete text messages. Write a few hateful texts which you read and reread and then delete. Tempted to throw out his hoodie but then it’s really comfortable so you decide to keep it till you get a new one from the next guy. You call your friends and vent and you all hate him together. Acceptance This is the stage where you begin to accept that you’re broken up and there’s no changing what happened. You stop getting excited every time your phone rings hoping it’s him. You stop hoping he’ll text. You go about your usual activities without a knot in your chest, you breathe easier. You sleep better. This stage lasts the longest. You tell yourself you’ll remain single, take a break from relationships for a while and usually that’s what happens. This should be the last stage but no, there’s one more. Flirt Stages When you can finally go out and flirt meaninglessly. Give wink or two. You go out with your friends and meet new people. When you’re able to do all that without thinking of your ex then you have successfully completed one breakup cycle. After going through all the stages from disbelief to acceptance and finally the flirt stage, then you can start a new relationship whenever you meet that person. Most people take weeks to go through the stages, some take months and they relapse interchangeably going from sadness to anger and back to sadness again. It’s important to know that this is normal and a lot of dumpees go through it. Keep in mind that if the same person makes you go through all five stages more than twice, then that person isn’t right for you and you should not accept the next apology. source; http://tushmagazine.com.ng/5-stages-heartbreak-ladies/ cc lalasticala, mynd44, dominique |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by TrapHedges(m): 5:32pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
if it makes FP... I'll comment my opinion |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by tosyne2much(m): 5:33pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
Nice write-up. Permit me to add mine Condemnation Stage At the condemnation stage, all they do is to condemn guys, throw tantrums and call them all sorts of derogatory names. They become feminists and discourage their fellow ladies from being submissive and loyal to any man based on how they have been mayweathered by fcck boys. They are usually very pessimistic and are fond of saying, "guys are dogs, no guy can try nonsense with me, guys are not worth the stress jawe, never date broke guys" , etc Consolation Stage At this stage, they begin to console themselves with all sorts of adorable names due to how bad they have been treated by guys. They take to their social media page to heap loads of praises on themselves. You will see updates like "I know I am a woman of virtue, any man should be lucky to have me, any guy who loses me loses diamond, etc 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by VargasVee(m): 5:34pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
Nice one. Also this REBOUNDING As a guy, when a lady is at this stage, run for your life. You'll only be an item to make her forget about her ex. There's factually no way you can ascertain she actually cares for you. Usually at this stage induced relationships you hear the incessant comparison between you and the ex. Her ex does this, you don't. One day she'd probably wake up an tell you it's over for no concrete reason. 3 Likes |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Blackhawk01: 5:40pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
Flirt stage, my favourite stage. Blowing kisses, giving naughty winks... |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by ImDharay: 5:43pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
Uhm heart broken ladies? what happened to the guys... 1 Like |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Headlesschicken(m): 5:46pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Obodo999(m): 5:48pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
You can NEVER completely get over someone if a child is involve. Quote me anywhere 1 Like |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Nobody: 5:57pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
Haven't experience any of those stages!i broke up with all my ex bfs. |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Dillusionist(m): 5:58pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
it doesn't take some people anything to forget whoever that may be..and there won't be any need for the aforementioned stages 1 Like |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by subtlemee(f): 6:20pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
I don't ever want to experience heart break again...I never thought I'll live to tell the story,i was stuck in sadness stage for God knows how long |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by luminouz(m): 6:34pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
subtlemee:Really?? Tell me more!!! |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by hkidola00(m): 6:52pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
subtlemee:im serious,,,can u just brief it a little,no joke |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Nobody: 7:24pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
tosyne2much:isnt it supposed to be 10 |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by tosyne2much(m): 7:27pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
drunkcow:That will be like I hijacked the thread nah 1 Like |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Nobody: 10:54pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
That's not my stages o. stage 1-I try to change the person's mind for some weeks(if I was dumped o) Stage 2- I accept its over after many trials Stage 3- I stop giving a flying fuuuck Stage 4-I'm already over the person and maybe in a new relationship, that's how fast I move on. My sadness is not that the person left(I can always date another person), but the time wasted. |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by magazineguy(m): 8:29am On Aug 30, 2017 |
lalasticala, let's help get more ladies thoughts on this |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Lalas247(f): 8:34am On Aug 30, 2017 |
Nice one op so true 1 and 3 na my go to be dat lol After that I forgive and then you become dead to me like DEAD ( don't exist) Toysne2much u know it's guys that condemn u know most not mature ladies hardly do that only when pushed That's a guy thing even rejection does that |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by DarkMagic(m): 8:37am On Aug 30, 2017 |
The sooner u stop giving fvcks...the better No need to go thru all this |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by okabe(m): 9:45pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
trying to get back together I don't know the stage this happens but it almost always does being difficult (aka punishing the next guy) this one is a must! Na the last stage. E be like the trademark of naija girls just pray you're not the one. Na so funmi do me shege that year |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Nobody: 12:06am On Aug 31, 2017 |
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Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Nobody: 12:07am On Aug 31, 2017 |
1. Disbelief/denial I can't believe he broke up with me, I'm sure he will come back he just wants me to beg him 2. begging/trying to fix the relationship you start calling him 10times+ in a day crying and asking him what you did, always saying you are sorry when you see him. 3. Deleting his contact/details from your phone At this stage you will be forming I don't care, I won't call him, he can go to hell, he can die, this is also when u tell your friends not to speak about him again and you insult him to whoever cares to listen. you will actually slip up and still call him tho 4 Acceptance finally you accept he doesn't want you anymore and you slowly begin to heal and it doesn't hurt as much as before. The best step is to just find a rebound. find a guy to rebound on and your feelings for ur ex will go away faster/easier The best way to get over a guy is to get under another guy 1 Like |
Re: 5 Stages Of Heartbreak Ladies Go Through by Nobody: 2:12am On Aug 31, 2017 |
If all this stages won't fetch me money, abeg why stress myself, when niggas don't even date anymore. Chai , but i remember one girl like that , omo this girl cried eh, but i felt sorry because i only played her. We still friends till today, because she will call, text and do all kinds of things just to make me realize that breaking her heart is wrong and she's sorry. Omo , i come begin dey reason the matter self . But you know nah ...... |
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