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Help guys!!! I am a 25 years old guy who is seriously addicted to pornography. I spent 5 hours watching pornography and masturbating yesterday. 2 hours in the afternoon. 3 hours at night.

It started 10 years ago with a porn DVD a friend lent me after I finished secondary school. Since then I have been in this mess. It affected my results in the University. During normal school days I miss some lectures due to masturbation. When it is exam time, I partake in it even more. Thereby I procrastinate reading till the day before exam or some hours before an exam starts. I was very brilliant in secondary school and even in my Part 1 days.

Even during my NYSC days, I continued.

I am a freelancer and I work from home. I was supposed to be working on projects worth hundreds of dollars with a various deadlines but I spent 5 hours out of that time watching porn. Working at home has been a sort of disadvantage like I have power on my laptop and I have access to good internet too.

I don't think working outside will solve it. When I was on 400 level IT. I wake up as early as 5 am to get to work early. Yet I can watch porn from 11 pm to 4 am. Valuable time that I could have spent perfecting my web design and programming skills. So, I sleep in the bus in the morning and the evening. I also sleep at work during my break time then. Getting an outside job won't solve it.

I am an introvert who hardly talk to girls. I am kind of shy and hardly look anyone in the face. But I am financially comfortable, average looking with taller than average height. I dress okay but not flamboyant. Girls try to talk to me at times but I don't respond well due to my shyness.

I feel like an hypocrite. Among my friends, I go to church the most and they have a kind of respect for me since I don't sleep around, drink or indulge in other vices. But I masturbate almost everyday. These guys may not sleep with their girlfriends for a week. But me, I hardly go without masturbating. Deep inside me, I know I am far worse than them.

When I gave my life to Christ, the urge went away for about 2 weeks and I was very happy with my life generally. But I fell back to it again. A lot of times, I feel so guilty that I can't pray. I was one of those mocking our chaplain in secondary school when he talked about the hazards of masturbation. This was because I hadn't engaged in it then and I didn't know the consequences.

Now I am so unproductive. I used to be very innovative and creative, brimming with several ideas that a lot of people look up to me. But now, I hardly have time for anything. It's just from one deadline to another. I know I can finish my jobs comfortably but pornography takes a huge chunk of my time. Plus after you masturbate, you get depressed and you don't have that deep motivation to work fast and accomplish lots of things in little time.

It's been 10 years now. My life is wasting away. I have started facing that marriage pressure from my parents. On the outside, I look perfectly okay and many people admire me. They come to me for advise and financial aid. But on the inside I am dying. I know I have a lot of potential in me. I know I am not meant to be mediocre. I don't want to live that average life of just earning some money, marriage and death. I know I am meant to impact a lot of people. I had a lot of plans that went dead.

Sometimes I even have suicidal thoughts. I feel death will be better rather than this misery. I have tried a lot of things but I can't just stop. The worst part is pornography make me see women as sexual objects some times. A lot of Nigerian men also hold this viewpoint but I know it is terribly wrong.

Sometimes after listening to Christian tapes and messages, the urge goes away for two days but it comes again and I fall. I don't to fall at all.

Maybe I will just start listening to Christian tapes and music 24/7. But I can't concentrate on work if I do that. Or I could just take 2 hour breaks to listen to Godly messages.

Guys please what do you think. I need serious help. You could be saving a brother from a miserable life or even suicide.

Thanks in anticipation of your response. Feel free to bash and insult me. I need it.

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Seun
Ishilove
Mynd44

First of all repent from your sin and accept Christ as your Lord and saviour and also ask Him for the grace not to fall again. Then watch your motives, actions and internet activities. I pray God will have mercy on you

I kwn u feel remorse dts why u say it out,i won't judge u bt trained urself to leave it.Anytime u feel like doing it take ur bible and read.God will help u

Go for counselling. You need to pour out your heart just has you have done here. God will deliver you.

1st of all understand that there is NOTHING wrong with masturbation... just like anything in life, its the EXCESS masturbation that is the problem here, to the point where you prefer wanking than earn money (job)...

as this is an extreme case, you need to do it COLD TURKEY... but as you are a grown man, its all down to your own will to sop, as there will be no one around you to tell you DONT DO IT. i suggest you stay around people, you get your mind off sex, maybe even get a girlfriend and get rid of all the SEXUAL FRUSTRATION that is bothering you, but as you said you are shy, then this is a tough one.

as for god/praying, this is useless because, as i said before, there is NOTHING wrong with masturbating.... but hey, if you think this is wrong in your god's eyes, then then why dont you ask him for help.

Google " convenant eyes" on your browser, enter the anti- porn site. Then start your therapy with their book and messages.

This is beyond me.
But before anything,you need self determination
Without self determination you cannot fulfill a purpose

watch porn jor

Share your libido with other gguyz

5 hours? Na series you dey watch?

Befriend Wale aka Born2fuck. He'll help you overcome your addiction with another addiction : live scores

Masturbation is a terrible thing and i have suffered it with pornography addiction for close to 20yrs.

The truth is that it has dealth with me terribly....both in adacemics,career and my marriage.

This thing is totally evil and there is nothing anybody can say to convince otherwise.

If you want to know how great the damage from porn is then read this

https://www.menprovement.com/masturbation-addiction/

Breaking away from porn is by the grace and power of the almighty God.Will power alone cannot it.

The very first step is for you to aknowledge the damage that has been done and know WHY you must quit.

Then the next step is to reboot your brain from porn addiction.

In my struggle to leave porn,i found this this article so helpfull

http://www.howtostopmasturbation.com/


Also learn to fast and pray and DO NOT STAY ALONE IN YOUR ROOM WIHT YOUR LAPTOP.
Ocassionally,rub your hand with pepper too.

God will see u tru

bebanky:
Masturbation is a terrible thing and i have suffered it with pornography addiction for close to 20yrs.

The truth is that it has dealth with me terribly....both in adacemics,career and my marriage.

This thing is totally evil and there is nothing anybody can say to convince otherwise.

If you want to know how great the damage from porn is then read this

https://www.menprovement.com/masturbation-addiction/

Breaking away from porn is by the grace and power of the almighty God.Will power alone cannot it.

The very first step is for you to aknowledge the damage that has been done and know WHY you must quit.

Then the next step is to reboot your brain from porn addiction.

In my struggle to leave porn,i found this this article so helpfull

http://www.howtostopmasturbation.com/


Also learn to fast and pray and DO NOT STAY ALONE IN YOUR ROOM WIHT YOUR LAPTOP.
Ocassionally,rub your hand with pepper too.

God will see u tru

arrant nonsense... if a man does NOT have a girlfriend then let him masturbate once a day (or less) and get the sexual frustration away, rather than have them walking around like a "sexual abuser ticking time bomb". masturbation is only wrong when done in excess, like the OP... so if he can control the urge and reduce choking his monkey, then its all good.

what makes you even think that masturbation isnt something your god created to alleviate people's urges?!

MrBrownJay1:


arrant nonsense... if a man does NOT have a girlfriend then let him masturbate once a day (or less) and get the sexual frustration away, rather than have them walking around like a "sexual abuser ticking time bomb". masturbation is only wrong when done in excess, like the OP... so if he can control the urge and reduce choking his monkey, then its all good.

what makes you even think that masturbation isnt something your god created to alleviate people's urges?!

Go and sit down....that is why people like you who want to continue in their addiction will not tell theirselfs the simple truth and end the addiction.

After years of indulging the the useless act,the young man has found out that it has made his life so miserable.Giving him low self esteem,burning out his energy and making him to lose focus and you are here talking nonsense.

When he gets married and start having seminal lekeage and inablity to sustain erection for long and then having issues in his home,the next thing you will foolishly prescribe will be a love toy for his wife.

If you know what porn does,you will not be spewing this trash you just spewed now

bebanky:


Go and sit down....that is why people like you who want to continue in their addiction will not tell theirselfs the simple truth and end the addiction.

After years of indulging the the useless act,the young man has found out that it has made his life so miserable.Giving him low self esteem,burning out his energy and making him to lose focus and you are here talking nonsense.

When he gets married and start having seminal lekeage and inablity to sustain erection for long and then having issues in his home,the next thing you will foolishly prescribe will be a love toy for his wife.

If you know what porn does,you will not be spewing this trash you just spewed now

again, there is a huge difference between someone who masturbate to get rid of the sexual urges, and one that does so excessively 5hrs daily (like the OP). that would be as crazy as saying that a person who smokes ONE cigarette a day is the same as one that smoke 5 packs a day. get real!!!! if a person does not have a partner to satisfy their sexual self, then let he/she use whatever tool to masturbate and come back to their sense, as we all know that sex can affect the way some think.

if you dont want to self-service then fair enough, but try to UNDERSTAND the issue before coming here with your rubbish religious deluded nonsense.

Bro,

I made some very good observations from your post.

The moment you involved God in the skim of things everything change even though it was for a few days.

I believe while you do everything withing your power to put it under control, i would recommend you go begin to listen to Christian tapes and also go for deliverance as Masturbation s best combated with Physical and Spiritual Exercises.

God be with you bro

MrBrownJay1:


again, there is a huge difference between someone who masturbate to get rid of the sexual urges, and one that does so excessively 5hrs daily (like the OP). that would be as crazy as saying that a person who smokes ONE cigarette a day is the same as one that smoke 5 packs a day. get real!!!! if a person does not have a partner to satisfy their sexual self, then let he/she use whatever tool to masturbate and come back to their sense, as we all know that sex can affect the way some think.

if you dont want to self-service then fair enough, but try to UNDERSTAND the issue before coming here with your rubbish religious deluded nonsense.

That urge can be tamed and the sexual energy transmuated into better things.
Go and read about how dopamine is release into the brain during masturbation and you will understand that people who masturbate gets dopamine without any hardword and this in turn becomes a very big problem go them.

Dopamine addiction is even higher than alcohol and nicotine addiction and it makes one mentally fagged out and disorinted.

bebanky:


That urge can be tamed and the sexual energy transmuated into better things.

if you have been able to tame your addiction, then clap for yourself, but dont automatically assume that all men are equal...

Go and read about how dopamine is release into the brain during masturbation and you will understand that people who masturbate gets dopamine without any hardword and this in turn becomes a very big problem go them.

alcohol, chocolate, food, drugs, cigarette, lovemaking and going to the gym etc all release dopamine into our brains, should we also stop these as well?! get real! as i said, there is nothing wrong with enjoying some acts, so long as it does NOT get into an excessive habits... in small doses.

Dopamine addiction is even higher than alcohol and nicotine addiction and it makes one mentally fagged out and disorinted.

if you know that then you should also understand therefore that it is not easy to get off any addiction.... trying to claim that you can just get off as if you turn light switch, is a joke!

MrBrownJay1:


if you have been able to tame your addiction, then clap for yourself, but dont automatically assume that all men are equal...




alcohol, chocolate, food, drugs, cigarette, lovemaking and going to the gym etc all release dopamine into our brains, should we also stop these as well?! get real! as i said, there is nothing wrong with enjoying some acts, so long as it does NOT get into an excessive habits... in small doses.



if you know that then you should also understand therefore that it is not easy to get off any addiction.... trying to claim that you can just get off as if you turn light switch, is a joke!

Go and learn more before comming here to spew trash and promoting a destructive habit like porn and masturbation.Instead of encouraging him to stop you are glorify the nonsens habit that has made mess of the young mans life.

bebanky:


Go and learn more before comming here to spew trash and promoting a destructive habit like porn and masturbation.Instead of encouraging him to stop you are glorify the nonsens habit that has made mess of the young mans life.

its because of failed state of mind (like yours) that most people who are addicted to masturbation, never find a proper solution.
there is NOTHING wrong with porn and addiction, so long as you dont do it excessively.

PORN, it can be a way to spice bedroom activities between a man and a woman. why see it as something bad?! is it because YOU couldnt control yourself?!

MASTURBATION, is a great way (for single people) to relieve stress and sexual urges. why see it as something bad?! is it because YOU couldnt control yourself?!

FIVE PIECES OF ADVICE FOR YOU
1. Get an office outside your house.
2. Get a day job that keeps you out of the house
3. Go out more, amusement centers, shopping malls, etc
4. Make more friends and hang out with them
5. Get a freaking girlfriend

What you said about porn is true. What i will advise is : identity the time u usually watch porn.
The medium u used for watching it.
After doing the above, You can block the site u visit most.
Don't stay alone for long.
stay off the medium u use for accessing the net when not in use.
Get female friends (not gf).

You are not alone. Most men indulge in it, even the married ones so don't think suicide my guy. Some have been battling this monster for decades. Don't let anyone fool you with rubbish list like advantages of masturbation. It's bullshxt.

Look up this thread that some guy has going. It is filled with guys with same issue; all wanting kill this depressing habit. Should be helpful.

https://www.nairaland.com/4019313/want-stop-porn-masturbation-get

Bros getting married will solve your problem I believe. Since you're okay financially get married asap.

ifyalways:
Befriend Wale aka Born2fuck. He'll help you overcome your addiction with another addiction : live scores

Madam, I always come to read your comments. Just you aloooone.

Interesting

JaffyJoe:
You are not alone. Most men indulge in it, even the married ones so don't think suicide my guy. Some have been battling this monster for decades. Don't let anyone fool you with rubbish list like advantages of masturbation. It's bullshxt.

Look up this thread that some guy has going. It is filled with guys with same issue; all wanting kill this depressing habit. Should be helpful.

https://www.nairaland.com/4019313/want-stop-porn-masturbation-get

Thanks for this thread. It feels good to know that there are guys who are willing to stop this poo too. I am powerfully following the thread

Everyone that replied. Thank you. I feel so grateful. Your comments are really helpful. I feel stronger and better motivated now.

Since I posted this, I haven't felt the urge. It feels like I exposed myself for the world to see and all eyes are on me.

Porn0addict:


Thanks for this thread. It feels good to know that there are guys who are willing to stop this poo too. I am powerfully following the thread

Everyone that replied. Thank you. I feel so grateful. Your comments are really helpful. I feel stronger and better motivated now.

Since I posted this, I haven't felt the urge. It feels like I exposed myself for the world to see and all eyes are on me.

the best advice I can give to you in addition to listening to Christian tapes and motivationals is that u should try and live with people for as long as possible. Don't live alone, if u live alone, temptation would arise.

Try to get yourself a girlfriend, who is sexually active.

truthsayer009:


Madam, I always come to read your comments. Just you aloooone.

Lmao.

Do you know Born2fuck? By the time that dude takes him round ashy joints, he will totally hate masturbation.

Op, I appreciate you for coming out straight.
After you have given your life to Christ, you said you still do it, bro, that is where you need self determination. Satan will always want to bring the idea back to you , but you to be fully determined not to say yes to satan.
Secondly, don't be lonely always, try to relte and work with people.
Watch and listen to Christian messages.
I pray that the power to say no to satan, sin and the flesh you shall received in Jesus mighty name.

watch no fap videos on youtube to quit porn and masturbation