Aloy+Emeka:

A Single Woman's Journal - Independence
By Éjire
February 24, 2010 09:01PMT



I discovered that many single women do not know the meaning of the word ‘independence'.

Those who do have no idea how it applies to their lives.

This is a recurring scenario:

A man shows interest in a single woman. Single woman does not even like him at first but somehow grows to like him,  a lot! So, she calls him all day - every day! Big Mistake! You see, men like the chase. So let's stop trying to switch the God-given roles,  at least when it comes to ‘The Chase'! When you switch roles, many men, not all, lose interest! You become a bug and they gladly tag you a Desperate Single Woman. Single Woman, please S.T.O.P. chasing after him.

Being independent encompasses going out to get what you want, and there are different strategies, an intense chase is not advisable in most cases, but I have seen cases when the woman made herself known to the guy - of course much rarer than those of us who just sit tight on our bud waiting to be plucked. This part is very contradictory in the sense, we are to be independent but in reality any action is overly agressive and intimidating. I have believed for a very long time that the whole idea of an independent woman is intimidating to many men actually. In a way you are advising us to be so independent that we get on with our lives, but then not independent enough to approach a relationship from any angle apart from the prey. Hmmm, interesting. I do agree though, I have found myself starting to like a guy who has made himself 'known' to me, but this is completely natural, I am usually too busy to go 'foraging' for potentials, so I just get on with life, it is only through spending time with someone do you notice their qualities and most men when they are pursuing a woman will only portray their best qualities - this is only natural.

If you can't help it, delete his number from your phone. You'll thank yourself for it someday soon.

I presume that one of the things men do when they gather at their drinking spots is to strategise about their getaway from single women who they think are out to tie them down. I have heard of that ‘Tie Us Down' concept many times. The last time I heard it was just a few weeks ago, courtesy of a friend who was planning his own Getaway.

Men, listen. No one is trying to Tie You Down. Most women are sensitive, but please don't crucify us for that. When a woman loves, the whole world has got to know! So, let's say you are lucky - she loves you and wants to marry you. Don't disrespect / disregard her feelings for this reason. She is willing to take on a lot,  for free! In today's society:

She will love you,

She will take care of you.

She will [/b]cook for you.

She [b]will clean up after you.

She will let you make love to her as often as you like and in many positions as it pleases you.

She will take in your ‘seed' and grow fat on it for 9 selfless months.

She will have your baby (maybe even twins) and then have two or three babies to care for (you being one of the babies).

She will respect and regard her in-laws (your family members) even if she finds them difficult.

She will pray for you.

She will worry for you. Urm. . okay, this seems to ignore the diverse personalities of women and roles they can hold in these modern times lol. State these as wills, any woman who doesn't to take part in any, may be seen as being a bad wife/woman whatever. .

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I presume that one of the things men do when they gather at their drinking spots is to strategise about their getaway from single women who they think are out to tie them down. I have heard of that ‘Tie Us Down' concept many times. The last time I heard it was just a few weeks ago, courtesy of a friend who was planning his own Getaway.

Aloy+Emeka:

Lol, na tie down na. Men like to be as free as a bird so they can hump as many puzzies as possible. They always feel they are God's gift to women when its women actually who are God's gift to men.

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