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Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by Pepeye(f): 7:00am On Mar 28, 2009 |
a communication problem and insecurity |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by invisible2(m): 10:33am On Mar 28, 2009 |
Some women never even bothers to know how much their husband recieves. My doesnt care how much I make. |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by kearra(f): 2:15pm On Mar 29, 2009 |
I don't have that problem my N man not only tells me his wage i have access to his bank details we believe in sharing that side of our life we even have a shared acc that is used just for our trips back home to see his family we hope to do that this Christmas its been 2 years since hes seen his family I pray we make it he knows mine i know his I think its a man thing he earns more than me so hes happy to let me know that if he earnt less maybe his pride would hold him back from sharing |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by amaikama(m): 9:52am On Apr 07, 2009 |
Its because you women are very unpredictable that why? |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by sammyzacks(m): 11:28am On Apr 10, 2009 |
because they are not real men |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by tramuntanero: 11:49pm On Aug 15, 2014 |
Because she tends to buy things we don´t really need until the visa card is full and the our maximum debt capacity with the bank is reached. The more we earn, the more debt we have. I can´t stand this situation. I am just about to have a pay-rise and honestly don´t feel like telling her, I just want to pay off my debts. |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by damiso(f): 8:19am On Aug 16, 2014 |
tramuntanero: Because she tends to buy things we don´t really need until the visa card is full and the our maximum debt capacity with the bank is reached. The more we earn, the more debt we have. I can´t stand this situation. I can definitely understand why you might want to hide the payrise.Debt is a vicious cycle in the western world with (see me talking like I am better ) but jokes apart you need to have a talk with her about it.Its ok to treat yourself once in a while but fiscal discpline is highly highly important. My husband at a time more or less had to seize MY cards and even though I moaned I am a much better person for it. These days i see things on sale and think do I really need it and I don't buy it.I even leave all my cards behind at home when I go out to shopping malls.I ignore 'sale' emails from retailers and just send them straight to trash.Its doable if she is willing to NOT add to those debts.I know someone close to me in exactly the same dilemma the only problem is she keeps buying and adding to the debt so as she Is paying off she is adding to it. |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by pickabeau1: 10:17am On Aug 16, 2014 |
Damiso..well done In the west the economy is driven by debt Discipline is key but I feel the best option is for both of them to be on the same page Hiding info from his wife means they r not on the same page |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by beeevan: 12:27pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
If your spouse is a money burner, no need telling . |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 6:50pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
sade: I think this is an important issue because I still wonder up till now why a husband will not let his wife know his salary. To be frank, women always find it easy to tell their husbands the amount they earn and majority of men will not. I'm afraid, is it that we are too demanding or what?are you her ATM machine! shey you no know say women body dey hooot when dem hear money! |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 6:54pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Damiso..well donewhich page! is it Facebook or yahoo or twitter! this is money we are mentioning here. |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 6:57pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
amaikama: Its because you women are very unpredictable that why?I need an exact word that describes their character when they smell money!i |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by pickabeau1: 7:10pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
baralatie: OK.. Whatever floats your boat... |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 7:17pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
pickabeau1:yeah!can you give your guy a breathing space if you know that he has an accumulation. savings account running in pounds sterling! |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by egopersonified(f): 7:42pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
Seun: Of course she'll know how much I make, but it will be too much for her to spend, or my name is not Seun Hope this prophesy is being fulfilled. |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by pickabeau1: 7:47pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
baralatie: I don't have a guy but I expect my partner and myself to have financially compatible goals |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 8:00pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
pickabeau1:gbam!you are hitting it on the head,the about money is goals!goals!goals! financial goals are a lot bigger and highly influential than you think.I have seen split up coz the level of financial goal disparity was so high insecurities set in. when it is about money ,hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by Nobody: 8:12pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
To be honest, I will not marry a man who will keep his income a secret. Either we are a family or we aren't. I have my own money and I won't keep it a secret how much it is. Either we worK as a unity or we are not meant to be together. I am not the kind of woman who can accept to be excluded from family finance. Soemone who keeps such matters a secret, has fishy business going on, in one wy or another. |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 8:43pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
^^^^^^ is there anything you asked that he did not provide! |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by Nobody: 8:54pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
baralatie: ^^^^^^ First of all, I am not yet married. Secondly, how is your question relevant? Why should a HUSBAND keep his salary a secret ?Are we not one family? I fail to understand why our incomes should remain a secret. Is it something to be ahsamed of? 1 Like |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 8:59pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:if husband is fulfilling his duties why introduce open book technology.it was not the reason for the wife to marry her husband. |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by Nobody: 9:02pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
baralatie: If this is the way you want to live your marriage, then do it. This is not the kind of marriage I want to have. My parents used to have a joint account. They both worked, they both paid the bills, they both enjoyed the money and they were both responsible if any investment went wrong. And I am from a well-to-do family. |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 9:13pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:lmao! marriage is joy unlimited.I have no problems with couples operating joint account.what I am about is where the relationship is growing financially in leaps and bounds.discretion is the key,not open book technology. |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by Nobody: 9:14pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
baralatie: Why is discretion a key when it comes to financial matters? Give me one sensible reason, please. |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 9:25pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:hahajahahahahahahaha! don't you knoe the love of money is the root of all evil! |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by Nobody: 9:26pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
baralatie: Does it answer my question? |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by pickabeau1: 9:28pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
baralatie: OK...whatever works for you however financial compatibility is key |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 9:31pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:ash!I did! you obviously have not seen the impact of money with some people! |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 9:33pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
pickabeau1:define the boundaries of financial compatibility! |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by Nobody: 9:33pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
baralatie: Are you saying that it will have a negative impact on the wife to know how much her husband makes? |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by pickabeau1: 9:37pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
baralatie: Your post is not clear Boundary how? |
Re: Why do men find it difficult to tell their wives their salary? by baralatie(m): 9:44pm On Aug 16, 2014 |
pickabeau1:how would you describe what i s financially compatible! |
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