babyfaceafrica:
hmmmmm..I am learning..thanks.. Marriage and money..and legs will be open wide

sekem:


As wide as river niger

Sapiosexuality:
How is it cancer?

lovelygurl:
I love the way you write, lol. The linking words were just flowing

I do agree with most of the things you wrote except you saying, there aren't many Adichies out there. It just depends on which country you are talking about. As for Nigeria, especially Nigerian women (this might sound harsh) but to me most of them are cowards. I have my reasons, I am just too tired to explain

jobaltol:
The sincere truth of the matter is that the society influences what the female gender counts as being important


Luckily adichie was lucky to be flown abroad at a tender age...if not we would not be celebrating her like how we are doing now

Afrobasic:


You're making me go round and round.

I already told you it's a movement that says one thing and does another.

A movement filled with man-hating lesbians and emasculated males.

A moment that's pretty much useless and dying in the western world and likewise useless in this part of the world.

Need I say more?

Afrobasic:


You're making me go round and round.

I already told you it's a movement that says one thing and does another.

A movement filled with man-hating lesbians and emasculated males.

A moment that's pretty much useless and dying in the western world and likewise useless in this part of the world.

Need I say more?

midehi2:

you don't need to be tired, seeing one coward doesn't guarantee you calling 'most' "cowards.

Don't stay in your cubicle and conclude

Afrobasic:


You're making me go round and round.

I already told you it's a movement that says one thing and does another.

A movement filled with man-hating lesbians and emasculated males.

A moment that's pretty much useless and dying in the western world and likewise useless in this part of the world.

Need I say more?

Apina:

When I got to that point(bolded) I stopped reading cos it simply meant there is no foundation to whatever u had to say.

JuneOctober:


na here I go find you.

HomeTutor1:
I wish to be one. Unfortunately, we woke up to find ourselves in a nation that has no regard for the opinions of the female gender

sekem:


Dignity wetin?

Dignity my foot!

Everyone has a price

For the right price, you won't believe what some ladies are willing to do or how far they are ready to go!!!

It's not necessarily money that can get these women tripping

For some, it could be the fame, it could love, it could be smartness and intelligence, for some it could even be as simple as honesty or trust

Thus as men, we always have our own bargaining chips towards getting sex from the ladies

But fortunately or unfortunately depending on how you see it, money is a universal language that most people understand.

amokeme:
Well, there are a lot of young women doing great things right now... many men don't just see it or rather they choose not to see it.

safarigirl:
thanks gir this


The society defines what a woman is. If you are unlucky enough to be in a patriarchal society like Nigeria, just know that you will never really be an Adichie no matter how much you try

America gave Adichie an opportunity rarely found in Nigeria. Even that Zuriel girl making waves, you think she would be so popular if she wasn't abroad?

babilicious:

When You make such assertions..then you should be willing to state/ give reasons to justify same...He who asserts must prove it....i believe your ideology is framed from the kind of women you associate with. I am a woman and i take it personal when anybody (man or woman) makes a negative general comment about Nigerian women . You CANNOT speak for the entire Nigerian women because you HAVE NOT met half of us. I AM A WOMAN, A LAWYER, AN ACTIVIST , A FEMINIST and NOT A COWARD.

PeacenLove2:


This is a perfect example why in a thousand years, some societies will remain trapped in the Stone Age. Good on ya! Enjoy this perfect arrangement that needs not progress.

If God made men like you Abraham Lincoln, I bet the blacks would have been left to rot in the Deep South. Folks like you could have ended up in one of those cargo ships below deck. Macho man!

These Feminists must just be greedy to denounce discrimination against them. The men who support them are the stupid men for wanting justice and fairness to thrive in an unbalanced society. You're sharp.

The same reason why you feel this is okay is how that politician feels it's perfectly fine to rob you blind. Why shouldn't he when he has the power to do it and get away it? If God didn't stop him from doing that, then it's because it's what God wants. No be so? I hope people can slow down and educate themselves, rid their minds of bias and prejudice that hasn't gotten society anywhere. Everything doesn't have to be competition. Respect, Live and let live. Stop looking for people to dominate. Look for ways people with differences can get the best out of life. Life is too short for nonsense. Grow up while you can.

Oysdam:
All these, as untrue as some, does not invalidate it. Majorly, the 'masculine' men cause the need for feminism.

lovelygurl:


To be honest, I really forgot about this thread.

But anyway like I said I have my reasons for saying that because I am Nigerian doesn't mean I'm blind to what is happening, not to the good and not to bad. Of course I haven't even met 1/8 of Nigerian women, it's even possible that I have met more foreign women than Nigerian women, this however doesn't change my opinion.

Because you are a feminist, doesn't mean you are not a coward.
Tell me, how many women in Nigeria even know the true definition of feminism? How many women in Nigeria really are capable of saying what's on their mind? How many women do not need a validation from Mr Society, (which I don't know, most do not realize involves them? )

When it comes to age, marriage which includes even the abusive one? Or ignore marriage advices which usually go by "How to keep your husband/ 10 reasons why your husbands no longer find you attractive etc". Do I even to explain the irony in this?

We are going to pretend that women in Nigeria can't be EASILY shut up just by saying "Your pussy smells/ it's wide" or just by bringing up the word "sex". Something as NORMAL as sex, can't really be spoken of because then you are termed a LovePeddler.

I am supposed to pretend that many women tend to stop climbing up the career ladder because it is time to get married, I'm clocking 25 this year and oh I might scare the man away if I'm too successful. Besides the man HAS to be richer I'd rather not be rich myself. He HAS to feel like the man of the house etc


There's a reason why feminism is needed in Nigeria. There's a reason why there aren't many Adichies because most women in Nigeria NEED a validation from their society and their society is a misogynistic society.

You are feminist but would you speak out loud when topics about the need of feminism are being discussed. I'm not talking about the internet and honestly I do not care, about your answer. Hell "feminist" is even an INSULT according to some.

Until women start letting their thoughts, pain, etc and start taking control, not needing any validation from people who don't give a f about them. Until then, most are to ME cowards.

You said I might be hanging out with the wrong ones but perhaps I just happen to see it MORE CLEARLY, growing up with 2 different cultures, seeing the difference between German and Nigerian ladies.

Midehi2

Kayceenaz:

I beg to differ. What about Prof. Dora Akunyili, Dr. Ngozi Okonji Iweala, and Mrs Oby Ezekwesili? This implies that any lady can be like and surpass Adichie if they choose to. A significant part of the problem is the indecisiveness of most ladies in this clime. Having men drool over them is just enough for them.

Kayceenaz:

I take exception to your view. The foundation of my contention is a sheer desire to see ladies embrace a perspective of purposefulness, difference-making and discard life-patterns that stiffle the maximization of their potentials. It is not necessarily feministic, because the same orientation is applicable to and can be shared by men. The article's basis is humanism. More so, I made that statement to clearly define the scope of my article and avoid getting entangled in the feminism debate.

Apina:

A writer who isn't open to criticism and instead of asking why, comes up with a defense is either lethargic to learning or has no desire to improve.

babyfaceafrica:
When a gal has magaa and mugus ,why should she care?..when she can get the best car,cloths latest phones and gadgets,mighty houses by just opening her legs.. Why should she care?..until.women stop seeing sex as a bargaining chip to power,affluence and wealth
..the story won't change....

jobaltol:
... society influences what the female gender counts as being important

HomeTutor1:
I wish to be one. Unfortunately, we woke up to find ourselves in a nation that has no regard for the opinions of the female gender

Kayceenaz:
So become a lady or woman that her worth transcends ... ring on the finger.

lovelygurl:


They have no regards because females ALLOW them too. It's up to you what to accept, which results to how you are being treated.

PeacenLove2:


Everyone has a price! I'm glad even you can admit that. But what sort of degenerate offers another degenerate money for sex? It always takes two to tango.

safarigirl:
Oby Ezekwesili that is constantly insulted by Nigerians? NOI had the abroad experience before coming back here, she's not much different from Adichie.

Dora fulfilled the Nigerian expectation.

Now, imagine a woman preaching feminism in Nigeria of any sorts, they will roast you without blinking.

Even Adichie was getting roasted before. The only reason they started liking her is because the Western world endorsed her, Nigerians like to feel among, so, once the West endorses you, they'll fall in line.

There are many Adichies in Nigeria walking around without endorsements and getting slammed on the net daily