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Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by 0m0nnakoda: 10:11am On Sep 25, 2017 |
JeffreyJamez:Yes science is limited or more accurately Scientists are limited but that does not mean that when it reaches its limits foolishness should take over. Please tell us about the Bermuda Triangle .What is it that science has failed to explain ![]() Mentioning Bermuda Triangle only goes to show ,ignorance and absence of intellectual curiosity. I would be very interested to hear about the Bermuda Triangle. Tell us more. A thinking mind would ask the questions TODAY WHAT IS THE SHIP AND AIRCRAFT TRAFFIC IN THE BERMUDA TRIANGLE? DO INSURANCE COMPANIES DO NOT CHARGE A PREMIUM FOR PASSING IT? In this case there is no reason to say science has reached its limits. Tell the OP to produce the accounts for his business 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Coldfeets: 10:23am On Sep 25, 2017 |
0m0nnakoda: Thank God we still have people like you who can reason. Foolish Africans always looking for a shortcut to their problems. They will never take their time to understand how business works. Once there's small comma in their business, ah no, it's their wife that's the problem, it's their mother or uncle in the village, it's their neighbour... IT MUST BE SOMEONE ELSE'S FAULT!!! Fools. And to the man who brought this topic to nairaland, I have this ONE question for you: IS YOUR WIFE PROGRESSING IN HER OWN BUSINESS? IF NOT, ARE YOU SURE YOU ARE NOT IN ANY WAY RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR WIFE NOT PROGRESSING IN HER OWN ENDEAVORS? CAN YOU CATEGORICALLY AFFIRM THAT YOUR OWN 'SPIRIT WIFE' IS NOT DESTROYING YOUR WIFE'S DESTINY? 4 Likes |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by 0m0nnakoda: 10:32am On Sep 25, 2017 |
It is possible to come up statistically with a Triangle on Lagos Ibadan Expressway or any of our roads where accidents happen most frequently and then concoct all kinds of Witch theories The brain is there but people REFUSE to use it 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Camami123(m): 10:46am On Sep 25, 2017 |
Your problem is not from your wife, |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by ekesol: 11:07am On Sep 25, 2017 |
Today is my wedding anniversary. I got married in 2010. I actually don't know if my marriage is a curse or there are other forces affecting my life. I went into my marriage with 6 trucks and they were all working within southwest. All the trucks are gone! I am a 37year old man from Enugu state. I got married at the age of 31 to a beautiful lady from Edo state. I started my logistic company when I left my salary job in 2007. I started with 3 trucks and I was able to grow and acquired 3 more trucks before 2010. I met my wife when she was serving in Enugu. I visited my parent in enugu that very year. We got talking and one thing led to the other. She got pregnant towards the end of her service year and moved in with me immediately after her service. We had our traditional wedding, though her mum (father is late) wasn't at the wedding. She didn't inform her, she said she doesn't have a relationship with her and that they are not in talking terms. Though her aunt (her mum sister) was actively involved and present. She made up with her mum years later and they are both fine now. I lost my 6 trucks in 3years with debts that I had to settle by selling my uncompleted buildings in Enugu and Lagos. I have not paid some debts till now. Note that I acquired those properties before my wedding. I lost 2 trucks in 2010 December, lost 1 in 2011, then lost remaining 3 trucks to accident in 2013. It usually happened whenever we quarreled and she got really angry. That very night, I would see myself being locked up by a man in a room with an iron gate in my dream. The next trip for any of my trucks would be an accident or there would be a major problem on the road. I was out of business in 2014 to mid 2015 when I decided to travel out of Nigeria for some hustling. I told my wife about my plan but she said she is sure my plan is to marry another woman when I get to Europe. I made some promises to her before I left. On getting to the airport in holland, I was put into the next flight to Lagos from Schipol airport in Holland. I became very broke after the failed trip and I had to open up to friends and family who still thought I was a big man. I was able to secure a 35k salary job through a friend. My wife came to my place of work, told my boss that I beat her. She lied! (I have never done that before and I didn't do it). I lost the job. In all this, I have always struggled to pay our rent, we pay our son school fee together while she handles 75% of food stuff in the house. She works and earns around 65k. She has been supportive. I have prayed and she has prayed too, but nothing has changed in my finance. It is getting worse everyday. One night, I prayed and begged God to reveal to me the source of my problem, I had a dream that night. In the dream, my wife told me she is married to the prince of their kingdom and that the prince is always with us sometimes on the bed when we are sleeping. She said his boys are the one I always see fighting me in my dreams. My wife told me all this in my dream. I am scared of discussing this dream with my wife because she is a prayerful woman and it will sound like I am saying she is the cause of my problem. I am confused. I also consulted a pastor, the pastor said witches are seriously dealing with me. He also said my wife has a spiritual husband that is very powerful. He warned me never to discuss any of my plans with my wife again. That I should always tell her after the execution of such plans (plans that has to do with my business). I find it strange and hard to believe, what is the essence of having a wife if we can have 100% openness. I continue to discuss my business plans with wifey and they are always failing. Sometimes I will be too happy to hide it from her. (Lol) We have a small car that is strictly for taking my son to school. My rent expired in May and there is no hope of money for me. Landlord is already on me. If I sell this last only car to pay this rent, what are we going to sell to pay the next rent? I think maybe we should separate for a while and when things change for better again, we can come together. I have not discussed this with my wife. Is this a right step? Her mum and her mum sis (they are both widows) has a big house here in Lagos, she can move to the house while I get a driving job with an accommodation package. This way, I can support and pay my son's school fee. Please people advice me. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by ekesol: 11:16am On Sep 25, 2017 |
Bros you did wrong in the first place marrying outside ur tribe with out first doing some findings about the family u re getting into. Bros truth be told is not every family u can marry ib to especially when Edo state is involved. They ve winches and wizards hovering ib their areas.be it auchi benin and especially isian. PLEASE be guides seek spiritual freedom from God and ask him solution. Selling cannot save you. At last u would resort to selling ur family. Consult elders who arr reasonable in your family and find a lasting solution. Thats my cent of advice. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by writeprof(m): 12:32pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
Marriage is designed to be a blessing by God. It becomes a 'curse' when things are not done properly from its beginning. Accept it that your marriage is a blessing and God has shown you mercy to be alive to know that you have battles to fight if it is to continue. Your wife is probably an unwilling tool being used against you. She may know or ignorant of her occult past that is of her parents. You walked into it ignorantly and carelessly by impregnating her before marriage and conducting a marriage WITHOUT her MOTHER present. These foundations gave opportunity to the devil to activate the battles against you. Possible Solutions 1. Call your wife to tell you everything about her life and history. If you need write, then write. 2. Ask for the reason she refused her mother the joy of attending her wedding. 3. Ask her about her father and other relatives, especially uncles. Take the advice given to you and go to MFM national headquarters. Discuss it with your wife but refuse not to go. IT SHALL BE WELL! 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Hyzy: 1:20pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
allenroundabout:.Is only God that can help you. Look unto him who is the author and finisher of our faith. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:25pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
Coldfeets: Imagine your reasons! This man was doing very well for over years not until he got married. Anyway no need to digress further but note that there are greys between white and black and that grey portions are subconscious and nearly unexplained part of our lives. I don't totally believe in church deliverance is final solutions so also I don't believe his business was not properly runned. Did he cause accidents to most of his cars? Was he the driver? How come it happened all of a sudden ![]() ![]() Abeg let's stop wallowing in ignorance , these things happen ....they are very real... Very very real... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by generationz(f): 7:56pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
Naughtysite:You need to reread the thread sir Did you read were he said he got a driving job and she came to lie against him at his place of work leading to the job termination Did you read how he was deported as soon as he touched down Europe Or How he started going down immediately after marriage All these aren't coincidences I'm sure many people are thriving in transportation business and logistics. It's like that in all facets some people fail some succeed His case is definitely no coincidence I'm not saying she's definitely a witch but there's a likelihood she is. Either way he would have to harden his heart and stop spilling every good news to her for now. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by generationz(f): 8:04pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
Rockyrocky:Of course he can pray by himself However there are people who have been trained for cases like these called deliverance ministers. They have had experiences with several cases like this and can direct him on how to go about the prayers. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by 0m0nnakoda: 8:42pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
cheikishfarms:They were trucks not cars and accidents did not happen "all of a sudden" that kind of hogwash only happens in Nolllywood. Why were they not insured? Even if it happened all of a sudden he would have been compensated. The starting point is to ask him to show the written accounts of his business. He talked about selling a building and I am guessing that as the trucks were generating money he started the building(s) without setting money aside, as he should, for insurance and depreciation. In short financial ignorance was the problem. Even a country with trullions of naira must HAVE A BUDGET |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Oselu28(f): 11:15pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
newyorks: fine |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by newyorks(m): 11:28pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
Oselu28:ok,so hw was urday like. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Oselu28(f): 6:38am On Sep 26, 2017 |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by newyorks(m): 7:43am On Sep 26, 2017 |
Oselu28:we're already on a new day pretty,how was ur9ite her majesty? |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Oselu28(f): 8:34am On Sep 26, 2017 |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by newyorks(m): 8:38am On Sep 26, 2017 |
Oselu28:was tranquaised,ve u gone to school/work already? |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by djon78(m): 12:31pm On Sep 26, 2017 |
0m0nnakoda: I have been reading your posts. I believe science is good and has helped humanity. But there are realms higher than science. See I ha seen things in this life. Any man that is just a mere natural man, when the storms of Life beats that individual, he or she is finished. Money, connections can never save you. I know a very wealthy man, worth 100s of Billions in Ikoyi, when cancer struck, his money and th best overseas medical doctors couldn't save him. Another Woman I know, she was diagnosed with cancer, every other of the people she was diagnosed with cancer with all have died, but this woman not only got healed, but is sound today because she keyed in an believed in the healing power of God. I know another man who had a terrible sickness that required a machine to bring out all the blood in his body pass it through a machine and take a into the body again. The American Doctors gave the man only 1percent chance of surviving, but his wife an family stood upon God's word that he will be delivered, whole an healed. So he underwent the procedure, within that period another 11 persons underwent the Same procedure, all of them died. Only him survived, recovered, he was as thin as bonga fish, but after full recovery, this ha put on flesh, very healthy, still alive up till today. I am so sorry for people that only trust on science an hand work of mere men, but don't believe in th power of the Living God. They are just chaff and when the storms of life hit them they don't last. You were castigating Africans saying we are backward, this a that. But you are far from the truth. The problem we have here is that the worst of us are the one in charge of things. We have the calibre of people that can go even ahead of the white man. We have some of the best sound brains, we have some of the best cultures and way of life, marriage still has value in this our clime, Africa has 60percent of fertile farmland in the world, we are th continent most blessed with abundance of natural resources, our birthrate is OK, we a better of than the rest very soon th era of the blackman in the development will Emerge like China emerged. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by gaby(m): 12:54pm On Sep 26, 2017 |
@op Your story mirrors vividly 'the story of my life'. Just to give you a brief insight in a blunt and honest way: Travelled abroad at 21,got my first 5 trucks in a swoop at 25 grew the fleet to 7 before I was 27. You wanna know how i got the money? I stole from others to enrich myself ( aka 419, online scam)I caused innocent hard-working people pains and anguish all in a bid to belong. I've also hurt women by omission or commission by leading them on and giving the false hopes. You wanna know the end result? I lost all them trucks plus more the same way I got them. All these started 12 years ago when I met the woman I eventually got married to. All of the 12 years together with no kids. ( karma) You wont understand what it means to have it lot and suddenly find yourself without. Condition come make me realize say one fit get hamstring from trekking. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by 0m0nnakoda: 1:00pm On Sep 26, 2017 |
djon78: I said Africans are backward? When where and how. Your problem is that you have not really learnt how to think or debate properly The so called terrible sickness that you talk about is renal failure and the procedure is renal dialysis . It happens everyday and is nothing new. Honestly it is not relevant. Actually I am more a proponent ,on this thread, of thinking than science .The issues here for me are not necessarily about science but thinking. Before we talk of praying have we used our heads. When it is time to urinate we go to the toilet we do not pray. When it is time to eat we cook food not pray. Now with regards to cancer and all of that ? Those things are NECESSARY. We must die one way or another so the fearfulness that many of us have for these phenomena is puzzling? How will you get to heaven if you don't die? The problem this guy presents with requires some questions to be asked . It is when you have exhausted Natural causes that you start looking for the so called supernatural. You cannot neglect the natural and start searching for supernatural If your car breaks down do you take it to Mountain of Fire and Brimstone? If you do will that be the first place? If a business fails the first place to look is at the accounts? If the owner of that business has not been keeping accounts that should give you agood idea how he is running the business. If you have 7 trucks on the road and you don't have insurance what does that tell you? So rather than celebrating foolishness we need to start thinking. Dangote has hundreds of trucks if not thousands and I am sure they ARE ALLL INSURED I believe he will lose trucks regularly but does not blame his wife because he acts knowledgeably You say you have seen things in life .DO you know what I have seen? You speak based on your Social background and orientation to life.What that means is if you and I have the same experience we will interpret it differently and give it different meanings . I have lost MORE than 7 trucks and it was a very rewarding experience because it revealed to me how little I knew when I thought I knew a lot. I put it down to experience and education and continued my journey . When you talk of storms of life that is part of everyon's journey and there is no special treatment for the Christian,Muslim Skeptic atheist,wise or foolish so quit that foolishness about "mere natural man" What we have is organized ways of consoling ourselves . Some people are born into the so called storms of life. from the day they are born.Others have ALL their children born disabled and still do not succumb to pressure of go to MFM and all that crap.They live constructive lives using their heads and the deep internal resources that we all have. Life is a school. We are not here for enjoyment and so if our own syllabus is suffering we need to concentrate and learn the inherent lessons 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by allenroundabout: 10:19pm On Sep 27, 2017 |
Thank you all your concern. I am grateful. I read everyone's comment and I appreciate the different angles we all examined my story. I am very grateful for the PMs, I would have replied but I don't know how to use it. I will answer a few questions. Yes! My wife told my boss that I hit her. She said it. Maybe because she was angry at that time. I have never hit her and I will never do. Logistic business is not the only biz I was doing. In fact I have brought in 2 Japanese guys into Nigeria and they are doing fine now. I will not go into details so some of my old clients here on nairaland won't decode me. I wasn't a spiritual person and i demonstrated it when I wanted to pick a wife. I went ahead without any spiritual consultation (please learn from this, always ask questions, both spiritually and otherwise). I am saying this because some people will see me as a guy whose mind has been polluted. Not at all. It was when my problem was becoming worse and unexplainable, I had to start praying personally on my own. When I asked God to reveal the source of my problem, I had the dream. "Even me no believe the dream because I am a very free spirited person". However, as a man tending towards 40, I had to take a step and seek the help of a pastor closer to God for confirmation. I gambled with my life and that of my family (wife and son), because I didn't pay attention to my dreams, especially the dreams of being locked up in the cage by a man and fighting with some men. I had these particular dreams many times. If I had taken it serious, we would have fought the battle in the past and be victorious by now. Well, prayer is free, so is deliverance. We have decided to go ahead with deliverance. (Wether it is spiritual husband or not. Whatever it is needs prayer). While I keep trying in my other businesses. Gracias.. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by sisisioge: 10:46pm On Sep 27, 2017 |
^^^^ It will end well...may God be especially merciful to you and all that concerns you. Pele. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by ScienceWatch: 3:05pm On Oct 09, 2017 |
Tega9999:All this can be effectively stopped in the Scoan Church Nigeria. I am always amazed at how easily troubled families, broken marriages, failed businesses are restored in the humble Scoan church. One time I was watching Emmanuel TV, A couple that was divorced for 35 years was lovingly reconciled. The humble Prophet TB Joshua is very active at restoring broken marriages and restoring peoples source of income. If the pastor's heart is right with Jesus, then miracles happen. One real block to miracles is the scientific sterile approach to bible study. As a result, it becomes a senseless mind game where qualifications get you onto the Pulpit. One modern day church, Scoan, Nigeria has changed the world views on God and His work through the Son of God, Jesus Christ, GOD is far greater than science. When science is impotent, God wins. Evidence shows that in the modern ministry of the church, the ministry of Tb Joshua, at Scoan, Nigeria who heals and delivers evil spirits by the power of Jesus Christ, have come to prove to the world that those scientists are wrong with their false claims, the fact remains that there are only a few great ministers of God around the world that are actually healing by the Power Of Jesus Christ. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by ScienceWatch: 4:17pm On Oct 09, 2017 |
emmanuel1990:Emmanuel1990, I agree 100% with the kind advice you gave to Allenroundabout. It is sad to see all this suffering after Jesus came to offer the world the most powerful and effective help more than 2000 yrs ago. Thousands of Fake pastors have accelerated humanities problems and have driven many into Satanism, Atheism, and other useless belief systems. Millions world-wide are grateful to Emmanuel TV were they can witness for the first time, that Jesus is truly alive. The teachings of the Holy Gospels come alive in the daily mind-blowing miraculous healing, demonic deliverance and material blessings. Your studies of Scoan or Emmanuel TV will prove that Scoan is not a religion, thats why people of all religions grace it. Muslims, Christians of all denominations, Jews, Atheists, etc, etc. Medical science now realize that their "god" of science is impotent and has a shamefully weak erection on the job. People world-wide testify to the dismal failures of medical science in healing them. They pay thousands of dollars without a money-back guarantee. After those doctors, specialists etc, took all those suffering patients money, they were told that there is nothing more they can do. Thousands of personal, live testimonies reveal that if those patients came to Scoan in the first place, they would have been healed for FREE. Jesus Christs mighty healing power is available in the humble Scoan Church Nigeria for FREE ! Watch and study Emmanuel TV for only three days, it will save your life. Your studies will prove that Scoan is not a religion, thats why people of all religions grace it. Muslims, Christians of all denominations, Jews, Atheists, etc, etc. segunojo866, vaxx, budaatum, Samsimple, helpfulposts, |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by segunojo866: 4:36pm On Oct 09, 2017 |
ScienceWatch:I have been to tb Joshua church back in the days. Honestly that man has supernatural powers. Am an agnostic, meaning am not so sure about God for now but i see atheism as foolishness 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by ScienceWatch: 5:27pm On Oct 09, 2017 |
segunojo866:Mmmm, your humble admission is indeed powerful. What helped me during my days as a truth seeking Atheist, was that I was very aware that there are invisible forces of dark and light that manifest evil and good. That was my starting observation, then I planned on making a list with two columns to help me clearly identify thing from the dark side and the light side. I carried that list with me to observe myself and others wherever I went. From what I learned, I decided that I must do everything possible to stay in the light because the light produce corresponding actions, just as the dark produce corresponding actions. To make a long story very short, when I watched the activities of TB Joshua I quickly realized that he was deep in the light, deeper than anyone I have ever studied. It became clear that the powers that the humble TB Joshua is using can only be from the source of light because it only manifest in the lives of others as incredible light, burning away any problem they may have. I also learnt that Scoan is not a religion because it is the only place where Muslims, Christians of all denominations, Atheist, Buddists, Etc worship together to praise the source of the light. Now the history of Scoan and the thousands of daily live global testimonies verify that light. Be bless by the light on your tough journey, Segunojo866 |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by segunojo866: 6:30pm On Oct 09, 2017 |
ScienceWatch:am not going through any tough journey. I prefer to be alone without religion. That's why i said am an agnostic |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by ScienceWatch: 9:16pm On Oct 09, 2017 |
segunojo866:I suggested that Agnosticism is a journey because the Agnostic Huxley said, "That which is unproved today may be proved, by the help of new discoveries, tomorrow.” Many atheists slam Agnostics for not fully accepting science as absolute proof that God does not exist. We all know by know that science is largely impotent and has a weak erection when it comes to spiritual things. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by segunojo866: 10:12pm On Oct 09, 2017 |
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Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Baolak(m): 12:58pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
allenroundabout:Brother, you are the dumbest man i have ever seen on earth! Asin you are so weak spiritually and physically! Am pissed 😡 |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Baolak(m): 1:13pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
I personally do not believe in this "spiritual"Please keep quiet! You people come online and just say unreasonable things, please at least consider the life of those involved before dishing out gibberish. 😡 |
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