I'm Igbo planning on getting married to an Igbo lady, I live in a state far and different from her and her parents state of residence. Both not being our states of origin though.
Want to know if I can get marriage list from her father before D-Day, then do introduction, and bride price paying/marriage ceremony on the same day, in their state of residence, without going to their village/state of origin, despite knowing most igbos do so on different occasions.
All as a result of cost, time and distance involved.
Has anyone done so or something similar? Please kindly assist with your experience

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I think you should direct your question to your fiancee so she can relay your question and possibly an answer from the family to you. Because you will have mixed answers here besides every family with their rites

What's the igbo word for stewpid?

Did you meet her online?
Why are you asking for advice on trad/intro online?
Igbo re the most egoistic tribe in the country.
Don't offend ur inlaws with a stupid question that ll get you started on the wrong foot.
Ask the lady. How it is being done in her family. And you comply

No insults please,,I believe as a person you don't just comply blindly to fixed rules.
those that have experience so and being in this position before please come in and share your experience, thanks.

Daewoods:
No insults please,,I believe as a person you don't just comply blindly to fixed rules.
those that have experience so and being in this position before please come in and share your experience, thanks.

Oh gawd!! What am I seeing here? How about doing the bride price online sir? Like asking for the dad's account number and paying in, then tell your fiancee to come to your house that everything is settled. Introduction and other stuff can be done through Skype or imo.

Daewoods:
No insults please,,I believe as a person you don't just comply blindly to fixed rules.
those that have experience so and being in this position before please come in and share your experience, thanks.

You re not ready for marriage to an African woman.
My advice. Quit ur relationship
Get a visa or join dating site
Marry a non African probably in Las vegas.
because in nigeria court wedding. You must prove parental approval before they ll marry u

Why the insult? The question isn't that odd. Every family is different and not everyone conforms to the norms. OP should ask his fiancée though instead of asking us.

What you want can be done.
You can actually ask for the list even without meeting them physically...
Talk to your lady and she will decide if she is fine with it then she can talk to her family.
Truth be told as Igbos it might be difficult for them to accept

Depends on the family but it's possible. I and hubby are based in Ph. His family,Calabar while mine Lag. We had to come to a compromise so as not too have them moving to and fro.
I spoke with my dad and he understood with me.
List and intro was done same day
Then trad and white months later.
Just discuss with ur intended and make her understand ur point.
If her people insist on doing it one at a time then u just have to man up.
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Just read thru ur write up again. For some families the trad rites must be in the village. If it's d same with ur intended then think of doing the white there too to save cost.

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thanks all I'm grateful, even to those replying with insults normal Nairaland style, I get where you're coming from, thanks