So here is the thing, my girlfriend wants to break up with me, and the truth it I really dont feel bothered about it, Its not for lack of wanting to be bothered or that I dont love her anymore, I hear you say Ah! " its cus you have a side chick or an option" NO! I dont. its just me being me again.

We are not breaking up cus I cheated neither are we breaking up cus we're tired, we're breaking up cus she says i'm not sensitive enough. Whatever that means really i dont know. Friends say i over indulge her in alot of things and I think I may tend to agree with them. She has a sense of entitlement that sometimes irks me but hey I still get to do whatever she wants cus I love her. Dont get me wrong shes loving and caring too but I just feel she expects alot more than I can offer.

So 8months on and she wants a break, I am obliged to give her, I have her things packed up already for pick up, but on a second thought looking at my life without her in it is starting to look quite scary. I really love her and thats what scares me. We do alot of fun stuffs together, but you know as they say " sometimes love is not enough"

I'm not asking or seeking an advice on what to do, I gat that figured already. I am just laying down my thoughts. If anyone has ever been in this situation please share.

Ollymurs:
So here is the thing, my girlfriend wants to break up with me, and the truth it I really dont feel bothered about it, Its not for lack of wanting to be bothered or that I dont love her anymore, I hear you say Ah! " its cus you have a side chick or an option" NO! I dont. its just me being me again.

We are not breaking up cus I cheated neither are we breaking up cus we're tired, we're breaking up cus she says i'm not sensitive enough. Whatever that means really i dont know. Friends say i over indulge her in alot of things and I think I may tend to agree with them. She has a sense of entitlement that sometimes irks me but hey I still get to do whatever she wants cus I love her. Dont get me wrong shes loving and caring too but I just feel she expects alot more than I can offer.

So 8months on and she wants a break, I am obliged to give her, I have her things packed up already for pick up, but on a second thought looking at my life without her in it is starting to look quite scary. I really love her and thats what scares me. We do alot of fun stuffs together, but you know as they say " sometimes love is not enough"

I'm not asking or seeking an advice on what to do, I gat that figured already. I am just laying down my thoughts. If anyone has ever been in this situation please share.

This is filled with emotions. All i can say is you love this babe...

IamKashyBaby:


If ur one of the fans of the LIVERFOOL then u know the motto:

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

How does being a never walk alone correlates with this issue, ain't you smearing this guy's wound with salt my lady?

U don't have to worry yourself if she want to break up because u r below her standard, I'm pretty sure there's someone out there who despite of ur flaws will love u d way u are and will b willing to work things out with u.

It's nt going to be easy bt at d same time, u dnt force ursef on pple who doesn't wnt u, some one out dere cn stl luv u 4 who u ar, move on

Hello Brother. You're a mature guy, i can tell from what you wrote here and the decision you have made to let her go or have the break, whatever. Important thing is, You're letting go with a good conscience. You didn't cheat on her, you didn't hit her. You just failed to give what you don't even know about, ( i suppose you checked yourself and realised you give this girl a lot, so you don't get where she is coming from).

There are many reasons she could be asking for a break and those reasons could be totally unrelated to you, your love towards her or a lack of it. 1. She might just want to experiment, see what's out there. Some girls are insatiable. So she'd look for an excuse and of course who better to blame it on than you. 2. She might have problems, deep secrets that might jeopardize your relationship in the future and she thought it wise to end it now before you both commit yourself further into the relationship. Leave while the concrete isn't set yet. 3. Thirdly, she might just be goofing around and wanting to see how much you really want her and fear to lose her. She wants to see how much pleading and effort you'll put into asking her to have a rethink and stay. There are so many reasons.

Most important thing is to assess yourself and make sure you're not at fault. If you're not, then let her go. You can never keep or hold on to what isn't yours. At least not for long or without regrettable consequences. Most girls are fickle. That's why when i see a real woman, loyal and all. I take a hat off for them and give them full respect.

ScotFree:
Hello Brother. You're a mature guy, i can tell from what you wrote here and the decision you have made to let her go or have the break, whatever. Important thing is, You're letting go with a good conscience. You didn't cheat on her, you didn't hit her. You just failed to give what you don't even know about, ( i suppose you checked yourself and realised you give this girl a lot, so you don't get where she is coming from).

There are many reasons she could be asking for a break and those reasons could be totally unrelated to you, your love towards her or a lack of it. 1. She might just want to experiment, see what's out there. Some girls are insatiable. So she'd look for an excuse and of course who better to blame it on than you. 2. She might have problems, deep secrets that might jeopardize your relationship in the future and she thought it wise to end it now before you both commit yourself further into the relationship. Leave while the concrete isn't set yet. 3. Thirdly, she might just be goofing around and wanting to see how much you really want her and fear to lose her. She wants to see how much pleading and effort you'll put into asking her to have a rethink and stay. There are so many reasons.

Most important thing is to assess yourself and make sure your not at fault. If you're not, then let her go. You can never keep or hold on to what isn't yours. At least not for long or without regrettable consequences. Most girls are fickle. That's why when i see a real woman, loyal and all. I take a hat off for them and give them full respect.

Great words.... I appreciate,

supersystemsnig:



This is filled with emotions. All i can say is you love this babe...

Sadly yes.

Well you both were obviously tired of the relationship, thereby ending it, you don't even love her, if you love her, you will be afraid to lose her and when she breaks up, you will try to reason with her, but you weren't bothered.

I've been in your situation, it was obvious he was tired of the relationship, I had to end it by myself since he won't and move on. He didn't really love me and wasn't scared of losing me, I broke up with him and he didn't say anything, he wasn't bothered, doesn't really matter now. What is a relationship without love. I still believe in love though.

IAMSASHY:
It's nt going to be easy bt at d same time, u dnt force ursef on pple who doesn't wnt u, some one out dere cn stl luv u 4 who u ar, move on

True.

Sabrina18:
Well you both were obviously tired of the relationship, thereby ending it, you don't even love her, if you love her, you will be afraid to lose her and when she breaks up, you will try to reason with her, but you weren't bothered.

I've been in your situation, it was obvious he was tired of the relationship, I had to end it by myself since he won't and move on. He didn't really love me and wasn't scared of losing me, I broke up with him and he didn't say anything, he wasn't bothered, doesn't really matter now. What is a relationship without love. I still believe in love though.

hmmm, obviously the next big challenge after falling in love is remaining in love.. it's easy to get drowned in one's thoughts...it takes maturity to sustain the glow...

Ollymurs:
So here is the thing, my girlfriend wants to break up with me, and the truth it I really dont feel bothered about it, Its not for lack of wanting to be bothered or that I dont love her anymore, I hear you say Ah! " its cus you have a side chick or an option" NO! I dont. its just me being me again.

We are not breaking up cus I cheated neither are we breaking up cus we're tired, we're breaking up cus she says i'm not sensitive enough. Whatever that means really i dont know. Friends say i over indulge her in alot of things and I think I may tend to agree with them. She has a sense of entitlement that sometimes irks me but hey I still get to do whatever she wants cus I love her. Dont get me wrong shes loving and caring too but I just feel she expects alot more than I can offer.

So 8months on and she wants a break, I am obliged to give her, I have her things packed up already for pick up, but on a second thought looking at my life without her in it is starting to look quite scary. I really love her and thats what scares me. We do alot of fun stuffs together, but you know as they say " sometimes love is not enough"

I'm not asking or seeking an advice on what to do, I gat that figured already. I am just laying down my thoughts. If anyone has ever been in this situation please share.

dont force it bro ..girls will come and go..

Well you both were obviously tired of the relationship, thereby ending it, you don't even love her, if you love her, you will be afraid to lose her and when she breaks up, you will try to reason with her, but you weren't bothered.

I've been in your situation, it was obvious he was tired of the relationship, I had to end it by myself since he won't and move on. He didn't really love me and wasn't scared of losing me, I broke up with him and he didn't say anything, he wasn't bothered, doesn't really matter now. What is a relationship without love. I still believe in love though.

Thats not the case here, When you try to do everything to please someone and it appears you havent done enough or the person expects that you do more I guess that is were you sometimes draw the line and people who dont know much about that relationship might think one doesnt care.

What use is begging anyways? If you wanted to be with me a breakup would be the last thing you will resort to, If you have that in mind means you clearly want out. What would begging do? I ask you, maybe prolong your breakup for later. We had a clearly defined relationship and we knew where we were headed, so asking for a breakup to me is where the dream ends.

Yes I am afraid to loose her, the thought alone scares the beJesus out of me. But i know i'll be fine. Pain can only be temporary. She talks about insensitivity and I just cant seem to wrap my head around that. If this is a ploy by her it is sure looking like a very bad plot. It just begs the question what really do women want.

Ollymurs:


Thats not the case here, When you try to do everything to please someone and it appears you havent done enough or the person expects that you do more I guess that is were you sometimes draw the line and people who dont know much about that relationship might think one doesnt care.

What use is begging anyways? If you wanted to be with me a breakup would be the last thing you will resort to, If you have that in mind means you clearly want out. What would begging do? I ask you, maybe prolong your breakup for later. We had a clearly defined relationship and we knew where we were headed, so asking for a breakup to me is where the dream ends.

Yes I am afraid to loose her, the thought alone scares the beJesus out of me. But i know i'll be fine. Pain can only be temporary. She talks about insensitivity and I just cant seem to wrap my head around that. If this is a ploy by her it is sure looking like a very bad plot. It just begs the question what really do women want.

It happens to us all, but at times when we beg, it's because the love was real and not for other reasons, i can't give any wise counsel, this isn't my strongest area, but i like to suggest you give her time off to think and reflect, your absence may make her become fonder, and return back to you..


Lol @ scared the beJesus outta ya, i'm going to watch Matrix again... I can't tend to your wounds bro, i'm not so emotionally intelligent, but could you speak with her friends?


If you want her back, don't leave the decision to her to take for you both.

Go back to her, tell her how much she means the world to you, and you didn't know her worth until this stuff came up.

Tell her the shake-up has rocked your boat, and you'll be a better lover if she turns her back.

That you'll man up and be the lover she desires.

That she should teach you how to love her....

Tell her that you know her worth and won't like to mess up what you both have....

Give it a shot brov..