Two guys are interested in marrying me. one said as soon as i say yes to him. the other is a student and he is saying the next 3-4 years. Am confused of what to do. have been in relationship with the student for 1year now. but the second guy have known him for 6months now. pls advice me

Are you ready for marriage??

evaberrythank u for d intelligent question. if u are, pray about it,discuss with ur parents and spiritual Father or mother. also checklist Wat u want in a husband, see If d 6mths man has it. personally, a routing for 6mths man. lol

Evaberry:
Are you ready for marriage??

yes I am

HRHQueenPhil:
evaberrythank u for d intelligent question. if u are, pray about it,discuss with ur parents and spiritual Father or mother. also checklist Wat u want in a husband, see If d 6mths man has it. personally, a routing for 6mths man. lol

I have been praying..
the 6months guy has all I want in a man.

but am afraid that I will break the student's heart. I don't just know..
the student us madly inlove with me

blazepink:

yes I am

You've already answered your question yourself.

Evaberry:

You've already answered your question yourself.

my problem is if I should go for this 6months guy or the student. I don't want to hurt the student ...
I don't know if you understand

blazepink:
my problem is if I should go for this 6months guy or the student. I don't want to hurt the student ...
I don't know if you understand

You are ready for marriage
someone wants to marry you now
and you are still asking if u should wait for the student.
is it when he breaks up with you after three years your eye will clear.

blazepink:


I have been praying..
the 6months guy has all I want in a man.

but am afraid that I will break the student's heart. I don't just know..
the student us madly inlove with me

av d same issue, lol. GOD will help us. am just confused like u. mine is not a student though.

HRHQueenPhil:

av d same issue, lol. GOD will help us. am just confused like u. mine is not a student though.

my dear am confused than you.. cos mine is as if am under pressure not from parent or anyone but myself each time I think about it..

Just pray
May God help u

which means 2 men are banging you
Great!!

because no man proposes when he has not tasted goods.
confam HML in advance

Your confusion is not rooted in the fact that you don't know who among the two guys you should stick with. You are confused because your conscience is judging you about thinking of leaving the student. You don't want to hurt Mr. Student perhaps because of his deep affection and your promises to him.

Mr Non-student is "made" and ready for marriage which aligns with your short-term goal of marrying soon. The question is, how do both guys fit into your long-term goal of ending up with a great man in a wonderful marriage?

Here's my single advice: Wisely re-prioritize your goals and stick with it. When you do this well, you won't find yourself in a relationship with Mr. A only to start giving audience to Mr. B six months into the relationship and contemplating marriage with Mr. B.

Good Luck!

blazepink:
Two guys are interested in marrying me. one said as soon as i say yes to him. the other is a student and he is saying the next 3-4 years. Am confused of what to do. have been in relationship with the student for 1year now. but the second guy have known him for 6months now. pls advice me

In life, you owe nobody nothing. If fulfilling your dream of getting married would make the student heartbroken, then let his heart be broken. The question you must ask yourself is : do I love the made guy enough to want to marry him.

blazepink:


I have been praying..
the 6months guy has all I want in a man.

but am afraid that I will break the student's heart. I don't just know..
the student us madly in love with me

don't let fear make you confused, you are ready for marriage and you have a man that is ready to marry you also has what you want in a man then i don't see what is stopping you
3 - 4 years time is quite sometime being that he is a student .. when will he be fully ready to settle down? it is just a promise he made to keep you going

DonOms:
Your confusion is not rooted in the fact that you don't know who among the two guys you should stick with. You are confused because your conscience is judging you about thinking of leaving the student. You don't want to hurt Mr. Student perhaps because of his deep affection and your promises to him.

Mr Non-student is "made" and ready for marriage which aligns with your short-term goal of marrying soon. The question is, how do both guys fit into your long-term goal of ending up with a great man in a wonderful marriage?

Here's my single advice: Wisely re-prioritize your goals and stick with it. When you do this well, you won't find yourself in a relationship with Mr. A only to start giving audience to Mr. B six months into the relationship and contemplating marriage with Mr. B.

Good Luck!

thank you... I think have gotten something great in this.

Ganjafama:
In life, you owe nobody nothing. If fulfilling your dream of getting married would make the student heartbroken, then let his heart be broken. The question you must ask yourself is : do I love the made guy enough to want to marry him.

I keep asking myself this but I can't get answer.
sometimes I feel I will be able to stay with the made guy and at times I feel maybe am just having feelings for him because of his care.

And for the student. I have no doubt of his love for me.. but his character is kinda bad.. each time I talk to him, he always tell me he will change but everyday instead of changing positively he does otherwise.
I don't know...

blazepink:



I keep asking myself this but I can't get answer.
sometimes I feel I will be able to stay with the made guy and at times I feel maybe am just having feelings for him because of his care.

And for the student. I have no doubt of his love for me.. but his character is kinda bad.. each time I talk to him, he always tell me he will change but everyday instead of changing positively he does otherwise.
I don't know...

Then go for the made guy

My grandmother once said that women don't wait for men, it's men that waits for women in marriage.
Use your teeth to count your tongue.
Leave school emotions and face reality.

blazepink:
Two guys are interested in marrying me. one said as soon as i say yes to him. the other is a student and he is saying the next 3-4 years. Am confused of what to do. have been in relationship with the student for 1year now. but the second guy have known him for 6months now. pls advice me

You've not said anything about what you feel for any of them other than you want to get married, is someone pressuring you, blink twice we will understand, breaking peoples heart is not a bad thing, would you stay out of pity ?, people mature through pain, ironically *Pain* taught me that or should I say Nagato, i think the real question is how much do you know about this 6 months guy, is the boyfriend serious ? What are his plans , also whats the 6 month guy's plan. What are your plans. If its just about getting married then congrats pick the 6 months guy and all the best.

blazepink:


I have been praying..
the 6months guy has all I want in a man.

but am afraid that I will break the student's heart. I don't just know..
the student us madly inlove with me

this is what u get when you decides to double date...you get confused, most of the time u loose both partners....don't be desperate for marriage....it doesn't pay at all...most desperate babes ended up with regrets n divorce, u knw when a woman get divorced in this country it takes d grace of God to be married again...so many unmarried ladies everywhere....so be becareful what u wish for in order not to end up with regrets or divorce...it ain't ur portion though...well, i know its ur life...u knw what's good for u...go for it and stop cheating...it has bad, negative effect on ladies than men...no spoil your reputation ooo...good luck

blazepink:



I keep asking myself this but I can't get answer.
sometimes I feel I will be able to stay with the made guy and at times I feel maybe am just having feelings for him because of his care.

And for the student. I have no doubt of his love for me.. but his character is kinda bad.. each time I talk to him, he always tell me he will change but everyday instead of changing positively he does otherwise.
I don't know...

Look go for the guy that is ready
Buh the problem is u can't know his behavior like the student buh then 3-4yrs is quite long.
If he changes his mind nko
U said he has a bad behavior, if impregnate another person nko, what will u do?
Look if u love the ready guy very well and u are convince that u really love him,then go for him
But don't marry him becos u are ready but becos u love him.
Cos I noticed in life that if u really love someone
U won't see some bad things abt him/her or u wont mind.
Just like u don't leave the student cos of his behavior.
I.e if there is no love u won't be able to overlook somethings, which will cos trouble.
Buh from what u av said I think u love him too
Buh u are afraid of how u will face the guy
Maybe becos u guys av been together since ur childhood.
If u are afraid of that
Introduce him to ur parents and let him do the something.
Let him introduce u first
He might not even introduce u to them
But pls think twice
Try consult any adult u know can giv u good advice.
Can I know the student bad behavior pls
Does he beat u
Or drinks a lot
Or womanizer?
If any of these
Pls just leave him .

blazepink:



I keep asking myself this but I can't get answer.
sometimes I feel I will be able to stay with the made guy and at times I feel maybe am just having feelings for him because of his care.

And for the student. I have no doubt of his love for me.. but his character is kinda bad.. each time I talk to him, he always tell me he will change but everyday instead of changing positively he does otherwise.
I don't know...

Pls decide fast
The ready guy might be tired after sometime without ans from u

av u decided?.lol, for me. i am not going for any of them. the both of dem are merely religious but not spiritual. besides i dont love d made guy in any way, my mother will be upset but she will get ova it..