Some say we are emotional beings, and mostly our emotions are based on predetermined mindsets/conditions. Our anger, love, pain, distress, stress, discontent are all emotions often based on what we choose to see as reality, which elicits an action or inaction. This applies to all our relationships, colleagues at work, community gatherings, etc.

What makes you angry is not always the element of anger, but your perspectives of the prevalent circumstance. Someone hails abusive words at you; you could either believe you are what has been described or you look at the person with an understanding that he/she doesn't know what he's saying and remove yourself from the situation.

Some other times when you have to live with such a person, apply the Baby-Diaper-Strategy (BDS). You know a baby will always poo-poo anywhere at anytime, so rather than beat the baby every single time and he/she repeats it, just strap a diaper on the butt and although it doesn't stop the poo-poo, but it contains the mess.

YOU CAN BE MORE CONTROLLED IN ANY SITUATION, YOU JUST HAVE TO THINK DIFFERENTLY ABOUT IT.