I hear many of the sentiments I experienced at a young age from so many women: that fear of being the only one. The only one to experience shame, to have unfulfilled desire, to have deeply ingrained fears of being “broken”, of never having experienced orgasm, or of being the only one who needs “this” particular form of healing (whatever “this” might be).

So many people fear they are sexually broken. Unfixable. It’s a tremendous fear that so many women have—that their sexual history, sexual functioning, sexual problems or sexual trauma is so bad, so impossible to fix, that they must be permanently damaged.

Yet I have watched client after client change her life entirely—change her experience of sex, her sexuality, her body, and her relationships dramatically—because she committed to the process and worked through those parts that made her feel hopeless and lost.

You are powerful and nothing is impossible for you no matter what your experience has been. Your journey might look different from everyone else’s, yet it is possible to achieve your vision.

You may have gotten messages from your family, friends or culture that something about you is broken, because we live in a society that likes to tell us how imperfect we are (gasp!) so we stay stuck feeling bad, buying products to help us fix ourselves, and choosing not to rise up and use our power to challenge the systems that oppress us.

You are whole and capable of healing the things that you are not at peace with.