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Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by LewsTherin: 12:32pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
UjuJoan2: Errrrr...... I was under the impression you were not enjoying your marriage. Oh well. It's good to know that I don't always understand everything I read Seeing as you have a good marriage, why the desire to see it outlawed? Oh. and I will say this. Being a person with selfish tendencies is good only if you are actually working things out. In my opinion being selfish is not a good trait. except once again, I find myself unable to understand what I read... so ..... there's that. Finally, what the heck happened to Kanwullia? She just wrote a whole damn episode! Did she fall from the bed or something? She usually just drops those short spaced lines where one isn't always sure if she's joking, serious or sarcastic. Or a combination of all three and more besides |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by Nobody: 1:17pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Lots of wonderful insights on this thread. Eye-opening for single folks like me. KanwuliaExtra - Bosslady, I'm just reading your posts like ohmygosh, hmmm, wow!! Can you create your own thread and write/paste all your posts in there? Jaszplus12 - Wow, you courted for 8 years?! Was this because you met when you were teenagers/late teens and you had to wait till you were older to get married or you met as adults yet still courted for 8 years 'cuz you wanted to be sure you were making the right decision? Hope that question makes sense. LewsTherin - Thanks for sharing your thoughts too Sorry for leaving anyone out; don't feel bad. Everyone in here has written great stuff!! Please keep them coming because I'm reading and digesting everything. 6 Likes |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by jaszplus12(m): 1:30pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Differential:thanks for the mention ah...we met during our first year at the university and of course poor guy/babe we had to work, run a small biz, do odd jobs alongside school and back then ASUU didn't help matters therefore 2 years was added to our regular course in school. one thing though, we had no one to truly mentor us about marriage else I'm sure we would have not courted for that long! anyway we're happy and no regrets! 2 Likes |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by cococandy(f): 2:54pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
PaperLace: Not really. Even now that I’m still in my twenties. I don’t think I want to get married again if I were to become single. |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by Funnyguy83: 8:41pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
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Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by Nobody: 8:50pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
wat i have red & seen wit my 2 korokoro eyes makes me scared of marriage |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by Nobody: 8:38am On Oct 24, 2017 |
PaperLace:About your nosey in laws, all i have to say is nawah o. Some silly family members are like that. Just do your own thing and dont mind them...dont allow your kids lack in anyway too. |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by Talkwell: 9:29am On Oct 24, 2017 |
KanwuliaExtra: God bless you for this !! ,this the d true definition of marriage. The exact reason why I don ditch any idea of marriage, I can't make myself uncomfortable cos of somebody,I don't want my movements to be monitored,I hate phone calls . parents and friends are aware ,I don't save their(friends) phone numbers(less than 20 contacts) . I prefer sending texts to them(friends) through a group chat we're both on. I tell my mum say I go adopt from orphanage when the time is right,she dey warn me say make I no try am o If only women can be independent,I keep telling my sis to get a car,if possible a house and business (something to support your work). Don't let any mad man tell you he'll provide shii for you. Hustle your own make I hustle my own,nothing like two of us go hustle the mata,there's more to life than marriage I'm a strong advocate for divorce(no time for nonsense), as long as nobody is turned to a pauper after the divorce. 6 Likes |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by Nobody: 6:12pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
Talkwell: |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by AfricanApple(f): 12:59pm On Oct 25, 2017 |
KanwualiaExtra so you still exist on this planet of Nairaland. |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by AfricanApple(f): 1:01pm On Oct 25, 2017 |
no one is sharing their personal experience here to help others, just opinions... share na people 1 Like |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by babythug(f): 9:45am On Oct 27, 2017 |
Maybe I can share my experience and it'll help someone!!!! I've been married nine years plus and it's been mostly challenging. One of the areas we've constantly battled is with se.x! I seem to want it more and mr insists that he's too pressured by issues of life to give it constantly!!!! The lack of se.x leaves me grumpy and generally disorganized which of course has spilled into how I manage the home and children. This morning he admitted though that if I packaged myself a bit Better in terms of appearance perhaps he would feel more inclined! One of the areas that has also proven challenging is communication, I took it for granted that myself and hubby would have the same ideologies and expectations plus outlook to life! It's important to listen to each other and pay attention to each other's needs! Id stop here for now 12 Likes |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by Nobody: 1:00pm On Nov 02, 2017 |
What a nice topic. Thought this section has gone to the dogs eons ago. I will say that different people view marriage in different perspectives. A strong willed man or woman can do without marriage. But there are people who functions best when they lean on each other. I can say as somebody who have been there,seen what's inside is that though we are in shitholes in the name of marriage,that marriage is not over rated. It takes the right partners to make marriage work. Personally,I will love to marry again and to the same person. If a man only knows that his wife comes before his children and then family and vice versa, I don't think we will be having all the problems we have that are attributed to marriage. Our men,sorry to say it sucks. Most of them entered into marriage to procreate and nothing more. More than 80% of Nigerian women in marriage want out but religion and culture holds them back. And who will marry them again as they can't possibly procreate and in our clime,that's the number one reason for getting married in the first place for the guy especially. The rich cries most. I have seen it all. Billionaires wives, name them. One very close family member said she regretted a lot. She can't divorce. Globe trotting from one country to the other looking for happiness. Funny enough what she passed through is the road she advised me to follow but as I vehemently refused it, she seems to be mad cos I wouldn't want to make the same mistakes she did. I don't view marriage as an average Nigerian woman sees it. My husband and kids are not my all. They are part of my life journey. My life doesn't end with them and I can't live for them. I always make plans alone first, then add them. So also hubby. I hardly look for I love u sweet nothings. I rate you with your actions and I should want u to rate me with mine. Marriage is indeed sweet. I won't lie. For me that have passed through the worst phase of the institution, I wouldn't have been stronger and better without the help of my spouse. Learn to prioritise, people. And thanks to our religious and santimonious places of worships. They are not helping matters either. Efe, how are u and family. Coco, how are u all? The way I write should tell u all who is greeting. I sometimes peep at ur usernames and has been telling myself I will say hi one day but I'm grateful the opportunity calls now. Seems some changed usernames. Hi everybody. 4 Likes |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by Nobody: 2:49pm On Nov 02, 2017 |
I was gonna go easy on this thread not to hurt its feelings. But I'm only going to get this one chance. MARRIAGE S.U.C.K.S. 1 Like |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by EfemenaXY: 6:50pm On Nov 03, 2017 |
sassysure: I think I know you. You’ve been missed |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by Nobody: 8:34pm On Nov 03, 2017 |
EfemenaXY:Hoping to contact you by Feb. Hope all ur household are very fine. Missed u too a lot. What of edwife, I have forgotten most names. |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by lotannad1: 4:39am On Nov 04, 2017 |
KanwuliaExtra:this is sooooo true. the more u r less dependent on a man,the happier the marriage. financial frustration is one of d problems of most problematic marriages.and most Nigerian men are wired to see women as second class citizens. if u ask them outside,they HV a good marriage but d wife feels d heat mostly. what do u want d wife to say? she know what will follow if she has a different opinion!!! 1 Like |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by byvan03: 8:34am On Nov 04, 2017 |
Nice thread! Marriage is whatever the two involved makes out if it. |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by Lizzyeasy(f): 1:33pm On Nov 04, 2017 |
Mindfulness:Very true |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by EfemenaXY: 11:55am On Nov 05, 2017 |
sassysure: Lol no worries. Household’s good. Hope you and yours are too? |
Re: Are You Married And Facing Challenges? Would You Like To Share To Help Others? by bbeautylik(f): 8:52pm On Nov 05, 2017 |
I got married to the right person my only mistake was getting married into a family house....... We now stay in our own apartment but the memory of the past still hurt. I hate going to my husband's family house. |
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