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How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 1:02pm On Oct 20, 2017
My uncle has seprated with his wife since 10years back But they both contribute to their kids welfare. the Woman has since then remarried. This year oneof the daughters{22 years} got pregnant after her ond graduation, putto bed in july and plans are in place for her traditional wedding in december. just yesterday her father triedto reach her to no avial so he called the guyto know if he had heard from her who also said he hasnt.
then he called the mother....who droppedthe news that she has sponsored the girlto saudi arabia to go and work. the girl's father and fiance as been in shock since then. she took the little baby and sent the young motherto that hell without informin anybody.
she also said the elder sisterof this girl will b getting married next month and she want to warn my uncle to stay away from the venue cause her new husband will be the bride's father for the day. we are all still in denial but i need contribution on way out.....or is her attitude and actions normal?
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by andreweb(m): 1:03pm On Oct 20, 2017
I'm coming back
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by thorpido(m): 1:27pm On Oct 20, 2017
Her behaviour is obviously not normal.One of the sad effects of divorce.

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by DOUBLEWAHALA: 1:30pm On Oct 20, 2017
I don't know if is the earphone that I put on while reading your post or you lack composure




please what is your bizness in this family circle
and don't tell me that your going to claim a custody

what will be your case is is the child doing fine where he/she is

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 1:40pm On Oct 20, 2017
DOUBLEWAHALA:
I don't know if is the earphone that I put on while reading your post or you lack composure




please what is your bizness in this family circle
and don't tell me that your going to claim a custody

what will be your case is is the child doing fine where he/she is
firstly that child deserve his mother's presence secondly i wantto believe the mother was forcedto go there though we have not spoken to her butthe last timewe spoke she told me she had gotten a form for her hnd programme. That woman kept saying she wanta better life for the lady but with what i read about how ladies are treated in that place i fear for the girl. What i am tryg to do is to stop this woman from her bad actions that keep affectin the children
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by DOUBLEWAHALA: 1:43pm On Oct 20, 2017
jdluv:
firstly that child deserve his mother's presence secondly i wantto believe the mother was forcedto go there though we have not spoken to her butthe last timewe spoke she told me she had gotten a form for her hnd programme. That woman kept saying she wanta better life for the lady but with what i read about how ladies are treated in that place i fear for the girl. What i am tryg to do is to stop this woman from her bad actions that keep affectin the children
are you part of the woman's family if not who are you

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by sexymoma(f): 1:43pm On Oct 20, 2017
DOUBLEWAHALA:
I don't know if is the earphone that I put on while reading your post or you lack composure




please what is your bizness in this family circle
and don't tell me that your going to claim a custody

what will be your case is is the child doing fine where he/she is
You say!! what her business, why are Nigerians like this, this is why we won't grow, i don't think you saw that part where she wrote his "uncle" and you are here typing what's his business.

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by sexymoma(f): 1:46pm On Oct 20, 2017
babe advice your uncle to go to the wedding... person nor go do my duty oo when i still dey alive.
make your uncle carray hefty bouncers go there, anybody wey wan do werey, omo chop im nose.
craze dey oo.. show dem.. u know what she would have told his daught about the man.

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 1:47pm On Oct 20, 2017
DOUBLEWAHALA:

are you part of the woman's family if not who are you
i am a cousin tothe lady in question and she stayed with me until early this year when i discovered she was pregnant
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by DOUBLEWAHALA: 1:47pm On Oct 20, 2017
sexymoma:
You say!! what her business, why are Nigerians like this, this is why we won't grow, i don't think you saw that part where she wrote his "uncle" and you are here typing what's his business.
I don't blame you you also sounds like a woman you are



people are looking for less mouth to feed you are looking for another mouth to feed



the child is doin well where she is
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by sexymoma(f): 1:50pm On Oct 20, 2017
DOUBLEWAHALA:

I don't blame you you also sounds like a woman you are



people are looking for less mouth to feed you are looking for another mouth to feed



the child is doin well where she is
abeg i nover see where the babe write say she wan dey feed the baby ooo. angry
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by Marvel1206: 1:51pm On Oct 20, 2017
DOUBLEWAHALA:

I don't blame you you also sounds like a woman you are



people are looking for less mouth to feed you are looking for another mouth to feed



the child is doin well where she is
Smh, are you the abductor? She has every right to be worried about the girl's welfare and the fact that she left unnoticed is enough to cause apprehension. Who knows if she was really sent to Saudi Arabia.

Please if you have not eaten today, go and drink garri

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 1:54pm On Oct 20, 2017
sexymoma:
babe advice your uncle to go to the wedding... person nor go do my duty oo when i still dey alive.
make your uncle carray hefty bouncers go there, anybody wey wan do werey, omo chop im nose.
craze dey oo.. show dem.. u know what she would have told his daught about the man.
God bless you my brother just call that he gave the same advice but my uncle said he wantto settle the matter before the d-day so he wouldnt end up spoilin the special day for his daughter and he wont give wrong impression to the in-lawsand give them something they can use to mock his daughter later in future

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 1:57pm On Oct 20, 2017
DOUBLEWAHALA:

I don't blame you you also sounds like a woman you are



people are looking for less mouth to feed you are looking for another mouth to feed



the child is doin well where she is
sincerely after i saw this i went backto check your moniker then i decidedto rest my case
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by sexymoma(f): 1:57pm On Oct 20, 2017
jdluv:
God bless you my brother just call that he gave the same advice but my uncle said he wantto settle the matter before the d-day so he wouldnt end up spoilin the special day for his daughter and he wont give wrong impression to the in-lawsand give them something they can use to mock his daughter later in future
babe if dem see hefty bouncers for the man back... her step father will be maintain his serenity cos his instinct will tell him, he is about to claim something that isn't his... ok now is the lady ready to settle the grudge.. i mean the mother.
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 2:01pm On Oct 20, 2017
sexymoma:
babe if dem see hefty bouncers for the man back... her step father will be maintain his serenity cos his instinct will tell him, he is about to claim something that isn't his... ok now is the lady ready to settle the grudge.. i mean the mother.
if You mean the bride's motheri dont think she is lookin for peace in anyway. she likes trouble. you know those kindof trouble makin women
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by sexymoma(f): 2:08pm On Oct 20, 2017
jdluv:
if You mean the bride's motheri dont think she is lookin for peace in anyway. she likes trouble. you know those kindof trouble makin women
you what im saying... abeg na the best option be that... i bet you, there won't be trouble, abi better still, soldiers.

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 2:17pm On Oct 20, 2017
Marvel1206:

Smh, are you the abductor? She has every right to be worried about the girl's welfare and the fact that she left unnoticed is enough to cause apprehension. Who knows if she was really sent to Saudi Arabia.

Please if you have not eaten today, go and drink garri
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 2:20pm On Oct 20, 2017
Marvel1206:

Smh, are you the abductor? She has every right to be worried about the girl's welfare and the fact that she left unnoticed is enough to cause apprehension. Who knows if she was really sent to Saudi Arabia.

Please if you have not eaten today, go and drink garri
i see you get my point. She cant give us a line with which we can reach the lady that travelled. Plusthe fact that she is witha new husbandwe are suspectin ritual things
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by Brownish24(f): 2:21pm On Oct 20, 2017
The lady that is getting married also should voice out,that she want her dad to be presence or is she a ..........
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by Brownish24(f): 2:24pm On Oct 20, 2017
jdluv:
i see you get my point. She cant give us a line with which we can reach the lady that travelled. Plusthe fact that she is witha new husbandwe are suspectin ritual things
Arrest her then
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 2:28pm On Oct 20, 2017
Brownish24:
Arrest her then
thinkin of that but we got no strong evidence.
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by monopolistic: 3:52pm On Oct 20, 2017
jdluv:
thinkin of that but we got no strong evidence.


First of all..I dont tink the man has been responsible for those children welfare. Not withstanding why cant the said girl inform the father before travelling or at list call the father ? The other kid should voice out she want her dad present.

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by Nobody: 5:49pm On Oct 20, 2017
I don't get it

Truth is nobody can force a 22 year old girl to move to Saudi Arabia. She didn't just walk into that country. It must have been planned for months or at least weeks. The daughter also must have known, I mean she probably had to get some documents etc before travelling. Besides she's 22 and not dumb. She knew what she was doing and did not tell her fiancee about it.

There's nothing you can do, she's a grown woman

Just like there's nothing you can do about her older sister. If she wants her dad to come, she'd have asked him to. Or she already has a feeling he is not coming.

The relationship between dad and daughters is so flawed. Where was he when they were growing up. Sure he and his wife are divorced but he is still the father of the kids. Why didn't he build up a close relationship to them? Welfare? Pfffft. There's more into being a dad.

Well, they are grown up now and there's no fighting or whatsoever you can do because they are now ADULTS. I'm pretty sure they are aware of whatever they are doing

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by prestigiouslady: 7:05pm On Oct 20, 2017
lovelygurl:
I don't get it

Truth is nobody can force a 22 year old girl to move to Saudi Arabia. She didn't just walk into that country. It must have been planned for months or at least weeks. The daughter also must have known, I mean she probably had to get some documents etc before travelling. Besides she's 22 and not dumb. She knew what she was doing and did not tell her fiancee about it.

There's nothing you can do, she's a grown woman

Just like there's nothing you can do about her older sister. If she wants her dad to come, she'd have asked him to. Or she already has a feeling he is not coming.

The relationship between dad and daughters is so flawed. Where was he even he was growing up. Sure he and his wife are divorced but he is still the father of the kids. Why didn't he build up a close relationship to them? Welfare? Pfffft. There's more into being a dad.

Well, they are grown up now and there's no fighting or whatsoever you can do because they are now ADULTS. I'm pretty sure they are aware of whatever they are doing


Same thing I thought, if your uncle was really "there" for her growing up as you've claimed, then she should be able to open to her father, she's 22 not dumb.
@op
Her father can't just come now to "save" the day for her.
The woman insisting her new husband will be the bride's father has her reason, maybe your uncle lied to you or didn't bring you up to speed on certain things..
Being a father goes beyond just donating sperm and sending in occasional money for upkeep.

People aren't entirely truthful when it comes to marriage/divorce/ separation, everyone wants to be the saint and paint the other partner black.

If she says she doesn't want him to be there, he shouldn't be there.

If HE HAD REALLY fulfilled his FATHERLY obligations, the woman will acknowledge his presence as the FATHER of the bride.
Being a father means ACTIVELY PRESENT in his kids life, physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually, all way round and balanced.
If the step dad was the one who did all these, then.....

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by prestigiouslady: 7:07pm On Oct 20, 2017
jdluv:
i am a cousin tothe lady in question and she stayed with me until early this year when i discovered she was pregnant

Did you ask her to leave??
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by Nobody: 7:21pm On Oct 20, 2017
prestigiouslady:



Same thing I thought, if your uncle was really "there" for her growing up as you've claimed, then she should be able to open to her father, she's 22 not dumb.
@op
Her father can't just come now to "save" the day for her.
The woman insisting her new husband will be the bride's father has her reason, maybe your uncle lied to you or didn't bring you up to speed on certain things..
Being a father goes beyond just donating sperm and sending in occasional money for upkeep.

People aren't entirely truthful when it comes to marriage/divorce/ separation, everyone wants to be the saint and paint the other partner black.

If she says she doesn't want him to be there, he shouldn't be there.

If HE HAD REALLY fulfilled his FATHERLY obligations, the woman will acknowledge his presence as the FATHER of the bride

Thank you jare. She was emphasising on the money he was sending, as if that's what makes him a dad. You have to be there for your kids, make memories together. It's those memories they'll hang on to, not the money you give them.

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Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by eyinjuege: 9:09pm On Oct 20, 2017
jdluv:
God bless you my brother just call that he gave the same advice but my uncle said he wantto settle the matter before the d-day so he wouldnt end up spoilin the special day for his daughter and he wont give wrong impression to the in-lawsand give them something they can use to mock his daughter later in future

Please are you sure your uncle has a good relationship with his children?
Even the one getting married wouldn't have agreed for another man to give her hand out in marriage on that day. Who is sponsoring the wedding in the first place?
What has the one getting married told her father or she doesn't talk to her father?
Even the one that supposedly went to Saudi would have told her father when she was going if he had a good relationship with her, or that doesn't sound normal to You?

jdluv:
i see you get my point. She cant give us a line with which we can reach the lady that travelled. Plusthe fact that she is witha new husbandwe are suspectin ritual things


How new is the new husband? I'm sure she's being married to the new husband more than 10 years So that's no new anything.
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 10:43pm On Oct 20, 2017
prestigiouslady:


Did you ask her to leave??
No she was trough with her program but wheni got to know about the pregnancy she wasnt free like beforeso she went home for her IT
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 10:50pm On Oct 20, 2017
eyinjuege:


Please are you sure your uncle has a good relationship with his children?
Even the one getting married wouldn't have agreed for another man to give her hand out in marriage on that day. Who is sponsoring the wedding in the first place?
What has the one getting married told her father or she doesn't talk to her father?
Even the one that supposedly went to Saudi would have told her father when she was going if he had a good relationship with her, or that doesn't sound normal to You?



How new is the new husband? I'm sure she's being married to the new husband more than 10 years So that's no new anything.
my uncle isa retired teacher but he gives what he canafford the new husband is a professor And consultant.... This woman believe my uncle cant sponsor the wedding to her taste thats why the daughters are loyal to her more. They only runto their father when they have issues with the step dad. The one that traveld went with this agent stuff we were able
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by jdluv(f): 10:56pm On Oct 20, 2017
to reach oneof these agent. He said the mother begd him to speed up things that he want all her kids out of the country before the year run out. Ps their father's place is 3 busstop to the father in law place. adultery has been the reason for the breakup in first place. The woman has been with this prof before the divorce@least0that was what the father said
Re: How Do I Get Justice For This Baby by prestigiouslady: 10:56pm On Oct 20, 2017
jdluv:
No she was trough with her program but wheni got to know about the pregnancy she wasnt free like beforeso she went home for her IT

Alright... anyways there little or nothing you can, its between a man/woman once married and have kids together.
My advice--- don't take sides, be neutral as possible, they are your cousins not your kids so you can't outrank their mother.. believe me lots of water has passed under the bridge and it may go way deeper than you think, dirty scary secrets, bitter memories, quest for revenge amidst others...

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