Re: My Marriage Is Crashing Please Help
« #15 on: March 12, 2010, 04:39 PM »

When issues arises I try as much as possible to quench them by asking rather than calm down he will be the one playing the victim. Even though I have heaven and earth I know I should love and respect my husband.

Yes I showed him the text messages and he said the sender mistakingly sent them to his phone whereas the GSM number is registered on his fone. sometimes he will say they are his friends gf. Infact he has become a super liar and I hate him so much for that. when I demand further explanations he start calling me names, that I am the one cheating and he will call a family meeting and ask me to confess my illicit affairs with men. am already treating an STD, am really afraid and wants to leave but my mom said no.

That am enterprising shouldnt get into my head not to be submissive to my husband, that's why I like to carry him along.

I will try tips out thanks so much.

This is the third post today where a woman is agrieved by somebody who calls himself a man, the one who is suppose to love her, protect her and care for her. Today this woman writes to others her soul is troubled, she doesnt trust him, she is sick with STD and thereofore her life is compromised. God what kind of prayer are we suppose to pray both men and women in order to get this thing right. Just from reading all this it pains me and it makes me feel so vulnerable as a woman. What is it with this caveman behaviour even in this modern day of knowledge, information and awareness.

I dont know why men still insist on this behaviour as it has never worked for any one of them, it has never brought anything home and inactual fact it all ends up with regrets and men never advice each other about these things. I have once learned a great lesson "Rather suffer the pain of discipline than to suffer the pain of regret"

Maybe I shouldn't blame the human race and learn to acknowledge that maybe, just maybe the devil is here with us everyday and will not stop at nothing to make us miserable, hopeless and unfulfilled.

Lady please pray with all your might that the good Lord saves you and your marriage from the wrath of the devil

@poster,
Pls mind ur business, cos dat tin ur lukin 4 in ur husband's fone u wil definately c it! Ur probs is dat ur simply not submissive. Wen next he is goin out giv him condoms, no shame @least its beta dat way dan d STD sfuff, Ive seen couples lik dat & they live in peace. Just try it. Gud luck!

this reminds me of a very appropriate saying "tis better to die on yor feet then live on your knees" you need to "fight", fight for your health and life, dont allow him to walk all over you. stand up for yourself and dont allow anyone regardless of who they are to tell you that you need to deal with it. they arnt in your shoes. if he is willing to see a counselor then do it, if he calls your family when you confrunt him turn around with all the evidence in your hand to his and your families together. dont allow him to degrade you or disrespect you infront of your family.

Like I said in reply to your previous post,pray,do your part let it be you doing the right thing,people will see you doing the right thing.Do your best to ignore all his indescrepancies.It is well

Hm! It is a pity whenever I hear this kind of story from women. Anyway, It shouldn't be a new things in life.

Try to know the difference between you and him. I mean what both of you like and dislike.
Ask him politely and mannerly what you have done wrong for him to deserve all these?
Ask him what does he want you to do which you have not been doing it?
Ask for forgiveness if you have done something wrong and beg him to let you start a new life.

Just try to understand what make him doing all these and be submissive.

I wish you new life in your marriage.