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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by cajet: 2:52am On Oct 28, 2017
The child no go fit stay alone unless your wife go follow am stay over night. Just leave the child and pretend as if both of you are going, the cry that baby go cry no go get part two and your mother-in-law go call una back sharp sharp. She think say e dey easy like that for two and half year old even five year own no fit stay without im mama for this kind era of pinging.

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by Impostor: 4:23am On Oct 28, 2017
Mudley313:
Abeg, I need some advice concerning this matter

Me and my wife just quarreled because her mother asked for our only daughter who is two and half to sleep at her place and I said NO because I was not too comfortable with the idea. My wife is an only daughter and the mother is single with no husband or boyfriend. We give her all the time she wants alone with our child but she just seems obsessed with having her alone for a sleepover and my body no catch dat one. Her reason is she wants to bond more and she was very close with her own garandma blah, blah, blah. But this woman has been very manipulative in me and her daughters relationship in the past because they're abnormally close. Although she has pipped down a bit, I just don't want to create an opening for her to start that with my own daughter cos why would she insist for an all-night? what is wrong with spending time during the day time? what's so special about night time? Is it just to be able to have total control?

Anyway, I go appreciate una feedback and advice well well if anyone here have experienced such before and I don't want to come out looking like I'm overreacting

P.S. By the way, my wife na oyinbo, so I just wanna gather a proper naija perspective on the matter. Thank you in advance!

You are ao wrong bro, in Africa, children belong to their immediate and extended family. It is absolutely right for her to want her gran daughter over. My advise is that you overlook this, dont make her and your wife feel that you dislike her. Sometimes you gotta just be a fool in order to allow peace reign.

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by Teacher1776(m): 5:52am On Oct 28, 2017
Mudley313:


Well, the thing is, what I perceive to be negative/unhealthy only escalates the situation if I open mouth, so it's a case of damned if I do and damned if I don't...for now, I will be going with my conscience sha unless there's anything more enlightening that I'm not seeing that anyone can add put 4 the matter
Do a bit of research. If it is culturally ok for kids that age to go for a sleepover at grany's. Personally, I don't see anything wrong in allowing your in law have her way in this case. Moreover, inter racial marriages are not entirely predictable. A lot of compromise may be required on your part

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by mastro: 6:13am On Oct 28, 2017
Mudley313:


I put out this thread yesterday when I was not too sure bout my decision yet but started to reply today when I became certain of what I wanted.

Well, we decided the child can spend the night but with my wife there with her as well. So compromise.

Thank you all for your responses and apologies to those I started to get a lil harsh/rude with. Its all good n life goes on

That to me is the worst of both worlds, kids visiting grandparents is alone time for you and your wife.

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by Nobody: 6:20am On Oct 28, 2017
Mudley313:
Abeg, I need some advice concerning this matter

Me and my wife just quarreled because her mother asked for our only daughter who is two and half to sleep at her place and I said NO because I was not too comfortable with the idea. My wife is an only daughter and the mother is single with no husband or boyfriend. We give her all the time she wants alone with our child but she just seems obsessed with having her alone for a sleepover and my body no catch dat one. Her reason is she wants to bond more and she was very close with her own garandma blah, blah, blah. But this woman has been very manipulative in me and her daughters relationship in the past because they're abnormally close. Although she has pipped down a bit, I just don't want to create an opening for her to start that with my own daughter cos why would she insist for an all-night? what is wrong with spending time during the day time? what's so special about night time? Is it just to be able to have total control?

Anyway, I go appreciate una feedback and advice well well if anyone here have experienced such before and I don't want to come out looking like I'm overreacting

P.S. By the way, my wife na oyinbo, so I just wanna gather a proper naija perspective on the matter. Thank you in advance!
My mom has been having my nieces sleep over before they could even talk. And they love it! It makes them more independent.

You don't want the kid hysterically clinging to your trousers when you take her to school very soon.

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by jidexpet(m): 6:29am On Oct 28, 2017
I slept in d same room with my grand mother for more than 8 yrs. I didn't see anything wrong wit it.
N.B : U will also grow old one day, ur happiness is to see ur grand children surrounding ur Temple

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by Nobody: 6:30am On Oct 28, 2017
Just make the kid narrate every happening when she is bought back
Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by egopersonified(f): 6:32am On Oct 28, 2017
you should have allowed your wife and daughter spend the night and pick then up the next day. Imagine you have a family emergency, say your wife is pregnant and in labour, do you think you would want a two year old tagging along with all the anxiety and stress? Having a grandparent take care of her would relieve you of that.

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by pek(m): 6:36am On Oct 28, 2017
You are the one who wears the shoe and know where it hurts. You know your mother in law more than us. If you are not comfortable with the arrangement, then I guess your instinct is right.

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by lxvi8xii(m): 6:46am On Oct 28, 2017
Mudley313:
Abeg, I need some advice concerning this matter

Me and my wife just quarreled because her mother asked for our only daughter who is two and half to sleep at her place and I said NO because I was not too comfortable with the idea. My wife is an only daughter and the mother is single with no husband or boyfriend. We give her all the time she wants alone with our child but she just seems obsessed with having her alone for a sleepover and my body no catch dat one. Her reason is she wants to bond more and she was very close with her own garandma blah, blah, blah. But this woman has been very manipulative in me and her daughters relationship in the past because they're abnormally close. Although she has pipped down a bit, I just don't want to create an opening for her to start that with my own daughter cos why would she insist for an all-night? what is wrong with spending time during the day time? what's so special about night time? Is it just to be able to have total control?

Anyway, I go appreciate una feedback and advice well well if anyone here have experienced such before and I don't want to come out looking like I'm overreacting

P.S. By the way, my wife na oyinbo, so I just wanna gather a proper naija perspective on the matter. Thank you in advance!


Hope this isn't coming late. You don't have to let your girl have a sleepover without a supervising parent. With all the madness, sick stories and psychos out there. She still too young and can't defend herself. You don't know the other occupants of her grandmother house and what they can do.

As for me my kids ain't sleeping over anywhere without a parent till the oldest one is 10 years old and they must not be alone.

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by alewo002(m): 6:50am On Oct 28, 2017
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Bros its not a bad thing to ask of, from a grandmother. She wants to give you and your wife time to make second baby.

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by sayisayi(m): 6:53am On Oct 28, 2017
ElsonMorali:
You want to know Why night is so special?

That's when witches fly and initiate new members into their covens.

Oh shhhhhhh....naija witchcraft mentality spotted. Soon, your pastor will ban you from taking plane between midnight and 6am...haba

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by Nobody: 6:56am On Oct 28, 2017
cococandy:
So your child will never spend the night at her grandma’s house. How sad.
It’s the highlight of every kid’s childhood.

U no read d age of d child??
Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by ElsonMorali: 7:03am On Oct 28, 2017
sayisayi:


Oh shhhhhhh....naija witchcraft mentality spotted. Soon, your pastor will ban you from taking plane between midnight and 6am...haba

Why so serious?

Ease up. Life is simple. Try and catch the humor in my post.

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by kenzindax(f): 7:08am On Oct 28, 2017
Hmmmm. dis one strong. well I really don't know your believe or understanding in the things of d Lord... but I don't think it's advisable to allow ur daughter do a sleepover..

1. is your mother in-laws a Redeemed soul.
2. what's are stand with Jesus Christ.
3. don't you know things can happen that will make u start running from pillar to post.
4. trust no body but yourself and God. initiation is Real. and it happens at night mostly. be careful and prayerful.... slip sealed.
Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by kenzindax(f): 7:09am On Oct 28, 2017
Hmmmm. dis one strong. well I really don't know your believe or understanding in the things of d Lord... but I don't think it's advisable to allow ur daughter do a sleepover..

1. is your mother in-laws a Redeemed soul.
2. what's are stand with Jesus Christ.
3. don't you know things can happen that will make u start running from pillar to post.
4. trust no body but yourself and God. initiation is Real. and it happens at night mostly. be careful and prayerful.... slip sealed.
Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by asatemple(f): 7:11am On Oct 28, 2017
keepingmum:
I hope when your mum or relative ask for a sleepover with your child you ll maintain the same stance sha...
simple!

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by Nobody: 7:34am On Oct 28, 2017
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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by MrEgghead(m): 8:13am On Oct 28, 2017
emmanuelike:


U no read d age of d child??

No one is praying for a bad event but In a scenario where the father or mother is late.. who do you think will take care of the Baby,Outsider?Ofcourse,the grandparents will do that... It's obvious the op doesn't like in-law,hence,the cynical attitude.. Would he had refused if it was his mother?

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by MrEgghead(m): 8:17am On Oct 28, 2017
kenzindax:
Hmmmm. dis one strong. well I really don't know your believe or understanding in the things of d Lord... but I don't think it's advisable to allow ur daughter do a sleepover..

1. is your mother in-laws a Redeemed soul.
2. what's are stand with Jesus Christ.
3. don't you know things can happen that will make u start running from pillar to post.
4. trust no body but yourself and God. initiation is Real. and it happens at night mostly. be careful and prayerful.... slip sealed.
You're funny o.. From your story, she must have initiated the Baby's mum,so it's now a lose-lose situation.. pls,don't attach religion to Everything and don't tag every old woman a witch because you've one.

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by Uhomanbulus110(f): 8:35am On Oct 28, 2017
It should not be an issue my brother since it her granmother

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by Bcpump: 8:43am On Oct 28, 2017
imagine if your mother asked for the same thing and your wife was the one coming here to ask this question.

you are a horrible person!

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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by GIDEON98: 9:42am On Oct 28, 2017
well since ur mind say no u should stick to that
Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by emmyN(m): 10:35am On Oct 28, 2017
OP hold you daughter well o. You know whether dem one cut winch give am?
Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by granely(f): 10:57am On Oct 28, 2017
[color=#006600][/color]My sister's kids do sleep over in my parents house, it started from their first child before she's 2, her kids will stay for 1,2,3,4 weeks and we will be calling them to come and carry their kids that we are tired, even weekends they will come and the husband will even beg me Cox he wan rest with the wife, but it depends on the relationship
Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by emelda86(f): 11:09am On Oct 28, 2017
U are dragging your daughter now, small time one guy will still take her from you then your eye go clear....

Abeg take her to her granny jare & don't be silly
Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by okayode1(m): 11:52am On Oct 28, 2017
Your grandmother isn't African... So I wouldn't have suspected her for witchcraft. So, feel free to grant her the wish.
If u are not too secured, then u can all pay her a visit with u, your wife and the baby girl. Nothing special can happen while u are around
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Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by 1Sharon(f): 12:08pm On Oct 28, 2017
remexy:
Nigerians are a paranoid bunch. When we were younger some people went and spent the whole holidays at their grand parents, uncles or aunties place. No biggy. Just say you don't like your mother in law. Simply. May God not make u have grand kids who u won't have access to because ur daughter's husband feels it's not okay. I say this because you haven't given a good reason for ur bias... Manipulative in ur relationship with ur wife is different... That's her being a parent wanting what she feels is best for her daughter. Now u want to punish her for dat by putting a time limit on time spent with her grand child.

That's how kids get molested. It is usually by known ppl and in the black community it is swept under the rug because it is often by family members. The ones who are supposed to love you the most not harm you undecided

You are naive
Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by neonly: 1:26pm On Oct 28, 2017
In a relationship it better u go with Yur instinct I don't trust any body except me nd God is it a must Abeg Yur child needs u to be her protector especially now said she can't make a decision use Yur head pls
Re: Mother In Law Wants My 2.5 Year Old To Sleepover by ikolosi: 4:52pm On Oct 28, 2017
There is no big deal bro...put yourself in her shoes...you love Ur baby girl,and definetly gonna bond going forward..till eventually she gets snatched from you in the name of marriage...so she gives you a granddaughter who reminds you of old times with her...an all night should be the least you deserve....she ain't gonna eat her for dinner...give Granma some joy bruh.

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