There is this girl, she is fat and average looks.

She has a boyfriend, he is alright looking.

They have a cute mixed race daughter with light skin and long hair.

I feel angry because she is Nigerian like me but had a child out of wedlock at age 20 and despite that, her and her family are on good terms and support her. Even now, she is 24 the child is almost 4 and they just live together as boyfriend/girlfriend - and her parents are OK with it, so she is free basically to have pre-maritial sex.

I am angry because if I had a child out of wedlock age 20, my parents would NEVER support that and it would cause a problem in my family. My parents would never be happy that I was living with a man that is not my husband having pre-marital sex.

I wouldn't do that either out of my own self respect, nor be happy about it any other family member did it.

I feel angry that she is breaking our Igbo culture, her parents are supporting her and also it is not fair because she is breaking so many rules yet her parents are alive, whereas I am 24 and still a virgin and was GOD fearing yet my mother died.

How is that fair?

What incentive does it give people to follow God when you often see people who LIVE IN SIN progressing and those who are trying to follow GOD suffer?

That's her life. She is responsible for what she does. You don't know her pains and struggles besides she might eventually get married to her baby daddy. So don't judge her.
You need to focus on you own life. You are doing great so far if you ask me.

HERE WE GO AGAIN.... another cry baby thinking LIFE is meant to be fair.... wishing for what someone else has.... My dear... your current life is the daydream of someone else..... so stop sulking n whimpering and MAKE THE MOST OF WHAT U GOT

Lookingforadvic:
There is this girl, she is fat and average looks.

She has a boyfriend, he is alright looking.

They have a cute mixed race daughter with light skin and long hair.

I feel angry because she is Nigerian like me but had a child out of wedlock at age 20 and despite that, her and her family are on good terms and support her. Even now, she is 24 the child is almost 4 and they just live together as boyfriend/girlfriend - and her parents are OK with it, so she is free basically to have pre-maritial sex.

I am angry because if I had a child out of wedlock age 20, my parents would NEVER support that and it would cause a problem in my family. My parents would never be happy that I was living with a man that is not my husband having pre-marital sex.

I wouldn't do that either out of my own self respect, nor be happy about it any other family member did it.

I feel angry that she is breaking our Igbo culture, her parents are supporting her and also it is not fair because she is breaking so many rules yet her parents are alive, whereas I am 24 and still a virgin and was GOD fearing yet my mother died.

How is that fair?

What incentive does it give people to follow God when you often see people who LIVE IN SIN progressing and those who are trying to follow GOD suffer?

Being a Christian doesn't mean everything will go on smoothly in our life, there's time for everything, But one thing is certain, A greater reward awaits us...

This poster has serious psychological issues, hope she gets help.

Please don't post nude pictures with this new account to avoid another lengthy ban.

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Op i feel for you ehnn,sorry about your mom.Just focus on your life,do what will make you happy and stop comparing your life to others.

Lookingforadvic:


she is fat and average looks.

She has a boyfriend, he is alright looking.

They have a cute mixed race daughter with light skin and long hair.

I feel angry because she is Nigerian like me

My parents would never be happy that I was living with a man that is not my husband having pre-marital sex.


I feel angry that she is breaking our Igbo culture,

I am 24 and still a virgin and was GOD fearing yet my mother died.

I am younger than you and to be honest I would have thought it was the other way round.

How can someone be so bitter and so jealous?!

Who are you to think because she's fat she doesn't deserve to be happy
Because of your ridiculous culture, she doesn't deserve love
Even jealous of a 4 year old child because she's mixed and light skin, wishing that would have been your daughter. Even the ridiculous reason you gave: "light skin"

I'm sorry for your mother's death but this is the most ridiculous post I've read today.

You really need to work on your self esteem, jeez! This was embarrassing to read.

Not jealous! If I want to I can get a white man and have a child like that..

I am just saying it is unfair why someone who purposely disobeyed and disobeys Gods law is blessed whilst me who followed what he told me to do, he just destroyed my life.

My mum was my life what am I supposed to do now

I don't even feel like existing anymore

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lovelygurl:


I am younger than you and to be honest I would have thought it was the other way round.

How can someone be so bitter and so jealous?!

Who are you to think because she's fat she doesn't deserve to be happy
Because of your ridiculous culture, she doesn't deserve love
Even jealous of a 4 year old child because she's mixed and light skin, wishing that would have been your daughter. Even the ridiculous reason you gave: "light skin"

I'm sorry for your mother's death but this is the most ridiculous post I've read today.

You really need to work on your self esteem, jeez! This was embarrassing to read.

I was here

lovelygurl:


I am younger than you and to be honest I would have thought it was the other way round.

How can someone be so bitter and so jealous?!

Who are you to think because she's fat she doesn't deserve to be happy
Because of your ridiculous culture, she doesn't deserve love
Even jealous of a 4 year old child because she's mixed and light skin, wishing that would have been your daughter. Even the ridiculous reason you gave: "light skin"

I'm sorry for your mother's death but this is the most ridiculous post I've read today.

You really need to work on your self esteem, jeez! This was embarrassing to read.

That I how racism start, calling a little cutie 'light skin'

Lookingforadvic:
Not jealous! If I want to I can get a white man and have a child like that..

I am just saying it is unfair why someone who purposely disobeyed and disobeys Gods law is blessed whilst me who followed what he told me to do, he just destroyed my life.

My mum was my life what am I supposed to do now

I don't even feel like existing anymore

.

But your parents won't support so there is a clause.
I'll advice you to mind your business and face your own life, you will find happiness that way.
Stop comparing your life and path to another person's .
You see what they want you to see. And really let go of the bitterness (it's all over your post) not healthy atall

Lookingforadvic:
Not jealous! If I want to I can get a white man and have a child like that..

I am just saying it is unfair why someone who purposely disobeyed and disobeys Gods law is blessed whilst me who followed what he told me to do, he just destroyed my life.

My mum was my life what am I supposed to do now

I don't even feel like existing anymore

.

Each one of our parent holds half of d heart of their children, Once they're gone, half of the heart is gone, When I lost my dad, I was more determine to make him proud even though he's nt here, he'll always be in my heart. So dear ur mom will always be in u heart, nd do what will make her proud. God is great, nd he knws why everything happens, You shudn't be discourage because we can't always get wat we want. The Best awaits us. Dont lose hope, keep that fighting spirit alive and you'll smile in the future when u remember these things..

Lookingforadvic:
Not jealous! If I want to I can get a white man and have a child like that..

I am just saying it is unfair why someone who purposely disobeyed and disobeys Gods law is blessed whilst me who followed what he told me to do, he just destroyed my life.

My mum was my life what am I supposed to do now

I don't even feel like existing anymore

.

The fact that you already see getting a white man as an achievement = self hate, low self esteem etc

The fact that you for some reason think you can judge her= get a job

Let's not even start with the "Christianity is the only right religion" syndrome worrying you

And what you are supposed to do now that your mum is gone is accept she's GONE. Her being gone is NOT AN EXCUSE. Some people never had the opportunity to meet their parents, so stop freaking using it as an excuse!!!!!!!

@op........ Know for a fact today that the way each one of us connected to God is precisely different. The person you used as a reference to question the God love over you might not even ready to accept the existence of God, but she might have done little thing that pleased Him unknown to everyone even herself.

As for the situation you found yourself. Believe me God might be preparing you for a satisfactory position in your eventual life. God is the most merciful being. He loves you more than you love yourself, He won't take something out of His servant life without replacing it with something better. Please don't do anything funny to yourself, hang on abit more, yours blessing is around the corner believe me. You will soon laugh and thank your God abundantly. Remain bless dear friend.

Lookingforadvic:
There is this girl, she is fat and average looks.

She has a boyfriend, he is alright looking.

They have a cute mixed race daughter with light skin and long hair.

I feel angry because she is Nigerian like me but had a child out of wedlock at age 20 and despite that, her and her family are on good terms and support her. Even now, she is 24 the child is almost 4 and they just live together as boyfriend/girlfriend - and her parents are OK with it, so she is free basically to have pre-maritial sex.

I am angry because if I had a child out of wedlock age 20, my parents would NEVER support that and it would cause a problem in my family. My parents would never be happy that I was living with a man that is not my husband having pre-marital sex.

I wouldn't do that either out of my own self respect, nor be happy about it any other family member did it.

I feel angry that she is breaking our Igbo culture, her parents are supporting her and also it is not fair because she is breaking so many rules yet her parents are alive, whereas I am 24 and still a virgin and was GOD fearing yet my mother died.

How is that fair?

What incentive does it give people to follow God when you often see people who LIVE IN SIN progressing and those who are trying to follow GOD suffer?

Who are you blaming? . GOD??

Envy and jealousy aren't very xtian like qualities, are they? I really hope you're not an adult that thinks like this! Keep your evil eye to yourself and leave that girl alone. Just because your parents love with conditions and hers love her unconditionally, you shouldn't hate. Now your parent is gone maybe you can finally live for yourself.

Religion doesn't suit you anyway sounds like your family do religion to keep up with the Jones rather than for yourselves.

Lookingforadvic:
Not jealous! If I want to I can get a white man and have a child like that..

I am just saying it is unfair why someone who purposely disobeyed and disobeys Gods law is blessed whilst me who followed what he told me to do, he just destroyed my life.

My mum was my life what am I supposed to do now

I don't even feel like existing anymore

.

Thats ur idea of God!? If he truly wanted to direct ur steps, he would add a chain or a means to maintain control.


But, he gave u free will! Life is too short, to waste it, pining over ur birthright!

What is this bikonu?

It's funny. You are vexing over how a lady lives her life. Don't go and do your own thing.

All fingers ain't equal. What you receive accolade on, another might get an insult over.

Lookingforadvic:
Not jealous! If I want to I can get a white man and have a child like that..

I am just saying it is unfair why someone who purposely disobeyed and disobeys Gods law is blessed whilst me who followed what he told me to do, he just destroyed my life.

My mum was my life what am I supposed to do now

I don't even feel like existing anymore

.

very soon you will commit suicide

24 year old that cannot fend for herself is that one really 24

Sister, there is nothing Christian about you. Going to church and keeping some rules doesn't make one a Christian. Christianity is a lifestyle of love and perseverance. You lack both. Please go on your knees and give your life to christ. Watch his peace settle in your heart. You need it right now.

mployer:
24 year old that cannot fend for herself is that one really 24

Sister, there is nothing Christian about you. Going to church and keeping some rules doesn't make one a Christian. Christianity is a lifestyle of love and perseverance. You lack both. Please go on your knees and give your life to christ. Watch his peace settle in your heart. You need it right now.

I am so upset,

I was talking a bit craze before - had a rough week.

Now, I am more down to earth.

I am just upset because I gave my ALL to GOD.

I was evangelising age 16, praying everyday multiple times, imagine being 24 yo female and still a virgin, I was reading the bible, going to church multiple times a week, I was STRONG in my faith and I knew GOD.

I was a true christian, was not perfect but I gave my ALL to God.

And today, my life is a mess. I dropped out of school age 19 because of family stress and now age 24 trying to go back. I have just recently got a job, after years of being unemployed and my mother suffered like a criminal and is now dead, whilst I have psychological issues and the ones who bullied me are progressing.

How can those who fornicate, those who did not even believe in God and would insult him and laugh at me for praying etc and reading the bible in my lunch break, their mothers are alive and family are well. Imagine, the girl who bullied me and called herself an atheist - her sister just got married and their mother was alive and healthy to see it, likewise she seems to be enjoying life.

Can you not understand my frustration?

I am so upset,

I was talking a bit craze before - had a rough week.

Now, I am more down to earth.

I am just upset because I gave my ALL to GOD.

I was evangelising age 16, praying everyday multiple times, imagine being 24 yo female and still a virgin, I was reading the bible, going to church multiple times a week, I was STRONG in my faith and I knew GOD.

I was a true christian, was not perfect but I gave my ALL to God.

And today, my life is a mess. I dropped out of school age 19 because of family stress and now age 24 trying to go back. I have just recently got a job, after years of being unemployed and my mother suffered like a criminal and is now dead, whilst I have psychological issues and the ones who bullied me are progressing.

How can those who fornicate, those who did not even believe in God and would insult him and laugh at me for praying etc and reading the bible in my lunch break, their mothers are alive and family are well. Imagine, the girl who bullied me and called herself an atheist - her sister just got married and their mother was alive and healthy to see it, likewise she seems to be enjoying life.

Can you not understand my frustration?

Lookingforadvic:
I am so upset,

I was talking a bit craze before - had a rough week.

Now, I am more down to earth.

I am just upset because I gave my ALL to GOD.

I was evangelising age 16, praying everyday multiple times, imagine being 24 yo female and still a virgin, I was reading the bible, going to church multiple times a week, I was STRONG in my faith and I knew GOD.

I was a true christian, was not perfect but I gave my ALL to God.

And today, my life is a mess. I dropped out of school age 19 because of family stress and now age 24 trying to go back. I have just recently got a job, after years of being unemployed and my mother suffered like a criminal and is now dead, whilst I have psychological issues and the ones who bullied me are progressing.

How can those who fornicate, those who did not even believe in God and would insult him and laugh at me for praying etc and reading the bible in my lunch break, their mothers are alive and family are well. Imagine, the girl who bullied me and called herself an atheist - her sister just got married and their mother was alive and healthy to see it, likewise she seems to be enjoying life.

Can you not understand my frustration?

Why must u compare ur life with hers, Everyone has their own problem only they tell u, Bringing something like this to public is something else.. I'm sorry to say you're a baby Christian, Dnt u knw d story of job...

Next on the agenda pls, I tire 4 dis case

Lookingforadvic:
I am so upset,

I was talking a bit craze before - had a rough week.

Now, I am more down to earth.

I am just upset because I gave my ALL to GOD.

I was evangelising age 16, praying everyday multiple times, imagine being 24 yo female and still a virgin, I was reading the bible, going to church multiple times a week, I was STRONG in my faith and I knew GOD.

I was a true christian, was not perfect but I gave my ALL to God.

And today, my life is a mess. I dropped out of school age 19 because of family stress and now age 24 trying to go back. I have just recently got a job, after years of being unemployed and my mother suffered like a criminal and is now dead, whilst I have psychological issues and the ones who bullied me are progressing.

How can those who fornicate, those who did not even believe in God and would insult him and laugh at me for praying etc and reading the bible in my lunch break, their mothers are alive and family are well. Imagine, the girl who bullied me and called herself an atheist - her sister just got married and their mother was alive and healthy to see it, likewise she seems to be enjoying life.

Can you not understand my frustration?

You are just a vessel the devil is using to preach hate against God, but it won't work for you and your master.

Marry me and all your problem is solved

Lookingforadvic:
I am so upset,

I was talking a bit craze before - had a rough week.

Now, I am more down to earth.

I am just upset because I gave my ALL to GOD.

I was evangelising age 16, praying everyday multiple times, imagine being 24 yo female and still a virgin, I was reading the bible, going to church multiple times a week, I was STRONG in my faith and I knew GOD.

I was a true christian, was not perfect but I gave my ALL to God.

And today, my life is a mess. I dropped out of school age 19 because of family stress and now age 24 trying to go back. I have just recently got a job, after years of being unemployed and my mother suffered like a criminal and is now dead, whilst I have psychological issues and the ones who bullied me are progressing.

How can those who fornicate, those who did not even believe in God and would insult him and laugh at me for praying etc and reading the bible in my lunch break, their mothers are alive and family are well. Imagine, the girl who bullied me and called herself an atheist - her sister just got married and their mother was alive and healthy to see it, likewise she seems to be enjoying life.

Can you not understand my frustration?

ChiefPiiko:
Marry me and all your problem is solved

she wants a white guy..

Adebimpe231:
she wants a white guy..

I can buy bleaching cream

ChiefPiiko:
I can buy bleaching cream

ha ha u had better nt try it.. d lady's case is in court