An actor is a professional lair, and the actor who most convinces us of his character wins an Oscar. Hollywood, Nollywood, Bollywood are all about fake images, pretend romance, and artificial glamor, but men and women are expected to emulate these images in real life. Actors create believable illusions and use special effects on the screen that can't be duplicated in reality. These artificial images have been pumped into our heads and have resulted in women taking destructive action to emulate the perfect goddess presented on screen, while men are expected to be more exciting, stimulating and romantic than they have been in anytime in history.

When was the last time you went to dinner at an expensive restaurant in a luxury limousine wearing Chanel perfume, Versace clothing and a Rolex watch, sporting the perfect hair and the body of a god? Well, that's the image you are competing against and are expected to try to retain or expect.

These are the levels of unreality that are constantly being thrust at you by modern day media, and this is the kind of pressure today's men and women are under and are being expected to live up to. Many women are deluded into believing they can have a rich Brad Pitt type , though the reality is that they have a man who is a mechanic and earns an average income. The line between reality and fantasy has become blurred.

At the beginning of a new relationship, many men, fueled by women's unrealistic expectations, give women the illusion that they can reach some of these levels. Women want the guy that knows exactly what she wants and always delivers. Before long, however, a woman realizes that her man is really just a normal man, and disillusion may set in. Unrealistic expectations are a significant contributor to relationships breakups and life frustration.

Unfortunately, the bar for what women expect from men is raised annually by the media and Hollywood, Nollywood etc, to the point where many men have simply given up trying. Women are expected to live up to images of the perfect starlets on the cover of women's magazines.

The new perfect male for the twenty first century should be a warrior in the workplace, a metrosexual marvel wen it comes to clothes, cooking and decoration, a stud in the bedroom, a six pack god in the gym, a perfect dad, a friend who loves listening to women talk about their problems and a sensitive guy who cries when he watches Romeo and Juliet.

Consequently, studies reveals that women who spend their time reading romance novels, watching soap operas based on fantasy never feel happy with their lives, although studies also found that they usually have more orgasms than non readers.

As the list of requirements for the perfect twenty first century man grows, many men retreat into football games and pubs where men can still act like men in front of each other. Women simply go shopping and eat chocolate.