sutelk:


So them de give parking ticket for naija?
Anyway, I don't think you have anything to worry about in that regard. Not sure but I think I've come across a statement somewhere that excludes traffic offences. But even if traffic offences are not exempted I wouldn't mention it in my application or when I go to apply for a criminal record certificate at alagbon.
Once you pay it 7k at alagbon you get your criminal record certificate and case closed. That is our naija for you.
I was amazed how fast my criminal record certificate was processed, even had to ask myself if it was authentic. Don't think those guys check anything. They just collect money and give you the thing.

Shawtykel:


He traveled this year January and before I put in the application, it would be late march as I'm yet to put the 28days maintenance funds in a single account

sgtponzihater1:


Any link to an agency that can assist with jobs from that end?

Greenfriend:

Sorry, mate. I'm a medical doctor and my route to working in UK is specific as a professional. Don't know about others. Depending on your situation, U can try a Masters. Good luck

sutelk:


So them de give parking ticket for naija?
Anyway, I don't think you have anything to worry about in that regard. Not sure but I think I've come across a statement somewhere that excludes traffic offences. But even if traffic offences are not exempted I wouldn't mention it in my application or when I go to apply for a criminal record certificate at alagbon.
Once you pay it 7k at alagbon you get your criminal record certificate and case closed. That is our naija for you.
I was amazed how fast my criminal record certificate was processed, even had to ask myself if it was authentic. Don't think those guys check anything. They just collect money and give you the thing.

sgtponzihater1:


Thanks. However, there are agencies that help to recruit professionals, including medical doctors, those were the agencies I was asking for. Cheers.

Greenfriend:

Yeah. There are agencies who recruit but that's usually after U have done your own homework (for my profession, U have to pass IELTS and PLAB 1 & 2 exams, then apply for registration with the UK medical council). I got my job myself after applying through the NHS Jobs website and having interviews on Skype while in Nigeria. Some colleagues got through agents (some who make empty promises). Different strikes for different folks, mate

justwise:


Then I think you should wait a it, getting a job now is hard and the brexit is not helping at all. Things may start looking up job wise from April up and he will be able to work and save up for application.

I don't think that leaving those young kids behind is a good idea.

Shawtykel:


P.S Hubby tier 4 visa is for one year plus 4 extra months.

Yes I know leaving them behind is not a good idea but then the funds for four of us at the same time is not available and hubby is yet to get a job.
Coming with them now will may not let me work as much as I want considering the fact that child care is very expensive over there.

In Nigeria, they're in safe hands, my mom is 45yrs old plus my sisters and Mother in law are ready to double the help.
I really need to know the implications of applying alone without them? If it's a red flag?
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Shawtykel:


P.S Hubby tier 4 visa is for one year plus 4 extra months.

Yes I know leaving them behind is not a good idea but then the funds for four of us at the same time is not available and hubby is yet to get a job.
Coming with them now will may not let me work as much as I want considering the fact that child care is very expensive over there.

In Nigeria, they're in safe hands, my mom is 45yrs old plus my sisters and Mother in law are ready to double the help.
I really need to know the implications of applying alone without them? If it's a red flag?
@Justwise, yes April is better for me to come in

justwise:


My only concern is their ages which makes it difficult to come up with any justifiable excus to leave them behind.

Shawtykel:
Happy Valentine to this wonderful family..

Please I have an issue that's bothering me and I'll need an advice whether to go ahead or not.
My husband is in UK on a tier 4 visa, we have three kids. He wants me to come over asap to support him since I'll be working full time as his is limited.

The issue now is we don't have the finances to apply for me and my three kids together..
Can I apply alone and come back to pick my kids after we've been able to save up hopefully in three months?
Are there implications to this of not taking my kids @ the moment?
What possible best reasons do I have to give for not taking my kids along? (my mum lives us so they're used to her and mother in law is also ready to join her)
Any case like mine ever? Just wondering

P.S my kids are 4years and 2years old twins
@Justwise @fatima04 and everyone who can help
Thank you all

Shawtykel:
Happy Valentine to this wonderful family..

Please I have an issue that's bothering me and I'll need an advice whether to go ahead or not.
My husband is in UK on a tier 4 visa, we have three kids. He wants me to come over asap to support him since I'll be working full time as his is limited.

The issue now is we don't have the finances to apply for me and my three kids together..
Can I apply alone and come back to pick my kids after we've been able to save up hopefully in three months?
Are there implications to this of not taking my kids @ the moment?
What possible best reasons do I have to give for not taking my kids along? (my mum lives us so they're used to her and mother in law is also ready to join her)
Any case like mine ever? Just wondering

P.S my kids are 4years and 2years old twins
@Justwise @fatima04 and everyone who can help
Thank you all

Mamatukwas:


Does she need an excuse though? Is she not within her rights to choose to apply with her kids or go ahead? Just asking.

Shawtykel:


Please I really need to know if there are implications to this of not taking my kids @ the moment?
What possible best reasons do I have to give for not taking my kids along?
Any case like mine ever?

Like I previously said hubby is on tier 4 visa for one year and I really need to hustle to support him while hoping he gets a switch to tier 2 before his one year elapses or I get tier 2 while in UK then come for our kids.
Thanks a lot

Heritagee:
I don't think you need to explain why you are not applying with the kids. I know of someone who left a 2-month old baby to join her husband. The baby joined them when he was 6 months

Heritagee:
I don't think you need to explain why you are not applying with the kids. I know of someone who left a 2-month old baby to join her husband. The baby joined them when he was 6 months

justwise:


That is heartless and irresponsible

justwise:


That is heartless and irresponsible

LagosismyHome:


Na... you cant say that.... it unfair to say it irresponsible . People situation differ .

My friend left her 4 months to go do masters in USA. The baby was with her mum who did a fabulous job. It paid off as the whole family is now settled in the USA . When i had my kids my mum who came for Omugwo did a better job self than me.....

Mamatukwas:


Don’t judge Bro. Sometimes choices aren’t so clear cut. Most mother’s won’t take that kind of decision lightly.

justwise:

I couldn't be nicer by saying that leaving a 2 month old baby to travel abroad is heartless and iresponsible.

If your mother will look after your own baby better than you then you need to spend more time with your kid rather than chasing career and money

LagosismyHome:


..... thankfully i am living my life on my own terms not on justwise standard .....

That i said she was better doesnt mean i am not good.

Shawtykel:


Please I really need to know if there are implications to this of not taking my kids @ the moment?
What possible best reasons do I have to give for not taking my kids along?
Any case like mine ever?

Like I previously said hubby is on tier 4 visa for one year and I really need to hustle to support him while hoping he gets a switch to tier 2 before his one year elapses or I get tier 2 while in UK then come for our kids.
Thanks a lot

Shawtykel:


Please I really need to know if there are implications to this of not taking my kids @ the moment?
What possible best reasons do I have to give for not taking my kids along?
Any case like mine ever?

Like I previously said hubby is on tier 4 visa for one year and I really need to hustle to support him while hoping he gets a switch to tier 2 before his one year elapses or I get tier 2 while in UK then come for our kids.
Thanks a lot

justwise:


My minimum standard is that you can't leave a 2months old baby to travel abroad for studies and if you sees that as high standard then we are talking about child neglect here.

RalphJean:


My son was born December 2014
I came to the UK on a T4 Visa in November 2016.
My wife joined me in June 2017 (left the 3year old son with grandma).
Wife got a job an we saved enough to have the maintenance money for a dependant.
Applied for Son in January 2018.

Summary:
Me, wife, son have been here. We are gathering money now to apply for daughter (aged 10).

At no point did anyone ever ask why we were leaving the children.


But ...wait a minute. Did I read that your hubby’s T4 Visa is for only 1 year?

RalphJean:



No matter what Standard is used for measurement. Infact, even if there is no standard. Let’s call a spade a spade. It is inhuman and irresponsible for a parent to leave a 2-month old baby (nay, NEONATE) to go hustle.
It’s not fair on the little one.

marylandcakes:
Nigerians and their judgemental attitudes sha , anyway God deh.

If the conditions in Nigeria was okay , I don’t think people will be making certain decisions lightly. Different strokes for different individuals. There are parents in the uk that have their kids here and send them back to Nigeria for the gran parents to look after. That doesn’t make them bad parents.

It will be much better if we try to respect the decisions that people make instead of judging them. The conditions in the UK are much better now but in the 70s and 80s it was very difficult to get childcare here, parents had to leave their kids with nannies outside of their counties to enable them work and school, does that mean that they were bad parents? “Na codition make crayfish bend” .

justwise:


Call it judgmental or whichever name you like I'm cool with it but my point still remain that a 2 month old baby should not be treated that way.

How will you keep in touch with a two month old baby as a mother? You can't call to speak to him/her, you can't even do video call because that little baby will not recognise you.

This has very little to do with Nigerian condition but a lot to do with a flawed decision.

justwise:




I couldn't be nicer by saying that leaving a 2 month old baby to travel abroad is heartless and iresponsible.

If your mother will look after your own baby better than you then you need to spend more time with your kid rather than chasing career and money

marylandcakes:




I understand where you are coming from, but your statements come more from your heart and more from an emotional point of view. Sometimes we have to strip out the emotions and make practical decisions based on the reality of the situations.

I don’t know much about rules of visa applications that’s why I don’t contribute much to it, but this lady says that money is a limiting factor at the present time now, she has to join her husband to help and then bring her baby later. Some people on this thread have already advised that there will be no problem in bringing her baby later. I’m sure this lady, as a mother already feels bad enough, you don’t have to make her feel worst than she already feels. In her mind this is the sacrifice that she has got to make now for a better future for that baby. In years to come when she tells her child the story of her sacrifice, that child will thank her, adore her and look up to her. Cos like most people have said on this thread it’s a heartbreaking decision for any parent to make.