Xopoh:
This happened to my twin brother yesterday, I don’t know what advice to give him which is the essence of this post. Please we need your advice..


So I got back from Abuja last night after a long 2 weeks of working with the hardest set of people who don’t share the same views with you. Happy to see everybody again.. Really missed my aunt’s vegetable soup and my new PS3, Home Sweet Home.
Out of the blue I noticed my brother looking unseemly hyper active which is not normal, I had a feeling something is wrong.. its either he had stolen (not stolen per say ) my money or done something that will get me upset when I find out. But it turned out I was wrong when I asked what was really going on with him. Taiwo had a broken heart. He said his girlfriend(a young, decent and innocent looking girl who isn’t from a well to do background, hasn’t gotten into school because of her family financial status ) broke his heart.

I asked: How?

He said he had a terrible feeling about her on Wednesday (15th of this month). Something he could not explain at that moment but he really felt it and it affected his mood for the rest of that day. When he got back from work that day he called and asked how her day went. She replied- it was ok.
He asked again, this time asking her what she did from the minutes she woke up to the minute she picked his call. She answered But Taiwo felt she was hiding something from him.
My brother said he had a dream about her that night saying she was being unfaithful and that was the second time he had that strong feeling about her.
Yesterday she came to see my brother at home, they had fun and he begged her to tell him the truth and she confessed that the had sex with a guy that Wednesday, A guy she claim she is not dating… My brother asked why she did it and the stupid girl said she don’t know that it just happened - and she is sorry-.

This is the girl my brother want to leave his graduate internship in a consulting firm for, take a up a blue collar job in Abudhabi , trying to sell one of our late dad plot of land to process his visa and travel expenses.. so he can earn enough to send her to the university and make her achieve her dreams… Did I mention he use to steal my money, give her so that she can foot some necessary bills. In fact I caught him one morning praying to God for her to be successful and find favors in all her endeavors.
I was also fooled , I thought she is the right girl. And I supported him to go along with the sale of our father’s land.. I believed they will spend the rest of their lives together.

I was shocked when I heard and I don’t know what to say I was angry but my useless brother still loves her. She tried to call me to beg him but I swear if I see her, I fit slap am.

Before i give any bad advice what would you advice my brother.
Please be sincere.

MrBrownJay1:
you brother "thought" he was dating a decent babe, while all along he was dating a h0e.... no big deal here!

but dont go thinking all decent women act in such a foul way.

if your brotha wants to continue dating this h0e then let him na, as whatever you tell him wont matter to his "desperately in love" brain. only when she finishes him completely will he learn that you can NEVER wife/date a h0e.

Xopoh:


I was shocked when I heard and I don’t know what to say I was angry but my useless brother still loves her. She tried to call me to beg him but I swear if I see her, I fit slap am.

Akinbahm:

From your write the girl ain't decent so why do you tag her Decent? Just drop her the way you do dispose pure water nylon after drinking the water....

Xopoh:
This happened to my twin brother yesterday, I don’t know what advice to give him which is the essence of this post. Please we need your advice..


So I got back from Abuja last night after a long 2 weeks of working with the hardest set of people who don’t share the same views with you. Happy to see everybody again.. Really missed my aunt’s vegetable soup and my new PS3, Home Sweet Home.
Out of the blue I noticed my brother looking unseemly hyper active which is not normal, I had a feeling something is wrong.. its either he had stolen (not stolen per say ) my money or done something that will get me upset when I find out. But it turned out I was wrong when I asked what was really going on with him. Taiwo had a broken heart. He said his girlfriend(a young, decent and innocent looking girl who isn’t from a well to do background, hasn’t gotten into school because of her family financial status ) broke his heart.

I asked: How?

He said he had a terrible feeling about her on Wednesday (15th of this month). Something he could not explain at that moment but he really felt it and it affected his mood for the rest of that day. When he got back from work that day he called and asked how her day went. She replied- it was ok.
He asked again, this time asking her what she did from the minutes she woke up to the minute she picked his call. She answered But Taiwo felt she was hiding something from him.
My brother said he had a dream about her that night saying she was being unfaithful and that was the second time he had that strong feeling about her.
Yesterday she came to see my brother at home, they had fun and he begged her to tell him the truth and she confessed that the had sex with a guy that Wednesday, A guy she claim she is not dating… My brother asked why she did it and the stupid girl said she don’t know that it just happened - and she is sorry-.

This is the girl my brother want to leave his graduate internship in a consulting firm for, take a up a blue collar job in Abudhabi , trying to sell one of our late dad plot of land to process his visa and travel expenses.. so he can earn enough to send her to the university and make her achieve her dreams… Did I mention he use to steal my money, give her so that she can foot some necessary bills. In fact I caught him one morning praying to God for her to be successful and find favors in all her endeavors.
I was also fooled , I thought she is the right girl. And I supported him to go along with the sale of our father’s land.. I believed they will spend the rest of their lives together.

I was shocked when I heard and I don’t know what to say I was angry but my useless brother still loves her. She tried to call me to beg him but I swear if I see her, I fit slap am.

Before i give any bad advice what would you advice my brother.
Please be sincere.

Xopoh:
Thank you,
Do you mean there is no possibility this girl can change??
I am doing this because this is the only way my useless thick skull brother can listen. When he sees comments/advises from random people, i hope he understands and move on.
As for the sale of land and travelling, I would want to put that on hold too.. Working a blue collar job?.. in Middle east?.. un-top how much? 150-250k.. no no.

BenShammer:
I know how controversial this sounds, but the fact that she cheated doesn't mean she's not the best thing that could ever happen to him. I know how it hurts knowing the girl you love more than anything in the universe was intimate with a stranger. Well the truth is everybody has urges. Society dictates that women should be virtuous and basically frigid until they get married, but the reality is that women are highly sensual creatures and sometimes their sexual urges can be overwhelming. If you get to the root of what happened, you'll likely discover that the other guy was somebody she saw/spoke to often, he probably gave her attention and showed her care. I don't know how often your brother saw/talked to her, but she might've been lonely, feeling unloved/undesirable or was probably bored and needed some excitement.
Yes, good girls are not immune to sexual urges and may give in to their desires, most times to a guy they don't have feelings for, he just happened to be at hand. I quite believe her when she said it was just sex, she just had a need he was willing to take care of. Tell your brother to make sure she cuts the other guy out of her life and address whatever may be the root cause, I.e loneliness etc.
There's no perfect good girl out there, he may leave her and end up with a street wise girl that would engage in atrocities at his back. She was feeling guilty and confessed because she has a conscience and genuinely loves your bro

Xopoh:


I wrote she is decent because i know how they started .. it took him 7 to 8 months for her to finally say yes..
He had to see her pastor and her elder sister first before she could go out with him... Not to talk of wetin hin eye see to get into her.
Now some radom guy just swerve in like that no sweat... mtchew..

T as suffered.

Xopoh:

She didn't tell him the day he asked(on Wednesday) He had to convince her to tell him the truth because he was sure that the strong feelings he felt meant something.. I do have that feelings too for those I really care about. but his is stronger than mine..Kinda like he feels what she feels whenever her feelings pass a certain level.
Do you mean you would give her a second chance you were to be the main subject in this case?

TEAMvido:
I have no advise for your bro ..
leave him let him do as he likes .....

BenShammer:
I know how controversial this sounds, but the fact that she cheated doesn't mean she's not the best thing that could ever happen to him. I know how it hurts knowing the girl you love more than anything in the universe was intimate with a stranger. Well the truth is everybody has urges. Society dictates that women should be virtuous and basically frigid until they get married, but the reality is that women are highly sensual creatures and sometimes their sexual urges can be overwhelming. If you get to the root of what happened, you'll likely discover that the other guy was somebody she saw/spoke to often, he probably gave her attention and showed her care. I don't know how often your brother saw/talked to her, but she might've been lonely, feeling unloved/undesirable or was probably bored and needed some excitement.
Yes, good girls are not immune to sexual urges and may give in to their desires, most times to a guy they don't have feelings for, he just happened to be at hand. I quite believe her when she said it was just sex, she just had a need he was willing to take care of. Tell your brother to make sure she cuts the other guy out of her life and address whatever may be the root cause, I.e loneliness etc.
There's no perfect good girl out there, he may leave her and end up with a street wise girl that would engage in atrocities at his back. She was feeling guilty and confessed because she has a conscience and genuinely loves your bro

BenShammer:
I know how controversial this sounds, but the fact that she cheated doesn't mean she's not the best thing that could ever happen to him. I know how it hurts knowing the girl you love more than anything in the universe was intimate with a stranger. Well the truth is everybody has urges. Society dictates that women should be virtuous and basically frigid until they get married, but the reality is that women are highly sensual creatures and sometimes their sexual urges can be overwhelming. If you get to the root of what happened, you'll likely discover that the other guy was somebody she saw/spoke to often, he probably gave her attention and showed her care. I don't know how often your brother saw/talked to her, but she might've been lonely, feeling unloved/undesirable or was probably bored and needed some excitement.
Yes, good girls are not immune to sexual urges and may give in to their desires, most times to a guy they don't have feelings for, he just happened to be at hand. I quite believe her when she said it was just sex, she just had a need he was willing to take care of. Tell your brother to make sure she cuts the other guy out of her life and address whatever may be the root cause, I.e loneliness etc.
There's no perfect good girl out there, he may leave her and end up with a street wise girl that would engage in atrocities at his back. She was feeling guilty and confessed because she has a conscience and genuinely loves your bro

Xopoh:


Lol.. Whalai.. that's how I am feeling because I could see the love in him and I almost could tell the girl felt thesame way. But wetin make her just black out n bang another night is still a puzzle to me.
land when she was asked why she did.. She sef no know.

I want him to farshi her.. but something just tell me to take my time before I jump into conclusions.. that's why I post am maybe the mature minds can help

AryEmber:
See Maga, I would love to marry you oh! I go just dey knack guys anyhow and confess to you with crocodile tears. She wanted sex but couldn't run to her boyfriend?

phintohlar:
Shit happens, nobody holy pass aheg

Damfostopper:
I no get time to reason girl matter for now abeg

AryEmber:
See Maga, I would love to marry you oh! I go just dey knack guys anyhow and confess to you with crocodile tears. She wanted sex but couldn't run to her boyfriend?

DeeTus:
Lol! Stop defending immoralities. What happens to faithfulness? A woman who truly loves his man would never sleep with another man no matter what.

makydebbie:
Obviously, your definition of 'decent' is flawed. Not all, 'nice' girls from humble backgrounds are decent. So the rich ones are hoes?