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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by ClitoPen: 6:11am On Dec 05, 2017
Realitycheck007:
I have definitely learnt and read lots of advice in here, Both the funny ones, The reasonable one's and the myopic one's
Hmmm...u r here for advice really and u think u can just insult ppl upandan...., well, I have read numerous threads on NL; the meaningful ones, captivating ones and explicitly useless ones.....back to your mention,....

Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Jabioro: 6:13am On Dec 05, 2017
Realitycheck007:
Thank you so much. Yes definitely i will assist her regularly. But should i be the one doing it daily? I love her to the moon
Na lie! If you love her to d sky you won't be ranting here..just 4 month dating..can you see yourself?

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by hardbody: 6:19am On Dec 05, 2017
Realitycheck007:
She has a job ohh. Work hours 8-4

Guy shebi she is not a wife material because she sleeps, free her na.

Have you cared to ask whether she thinks you are a husband material?

Abeg find something useful and do

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by newmusic: 6:22am On Dec 05, 2017
This OP is not serious sha, break up with her then...
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by toprealman: 6:26am On Dec 05, 2017
OP you mean to tell me toy allow her sleep from 11 to 7 without "disturbing" her
When the kids or work comes.....she will adjust to accommodate all that, just like she has adjusted to your kerewa schedule.
You sef need to grow up.....your matter get as e be.
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 6:27am On Dec 05, 2017
While he shaves his beard, and iron his shirt I guess,onto fine boy parole,its this kind of man that will sit with a remote in his hands while his pregnant wife pounds yam in a mortar , Hahahahaha
Dimples129:
Bathe children, make breakfast, get ready for work... while YOU do what I wonder?

Forever looking for someone's daughter to abuse angry

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by kebliss(m): 6:27am On Dec 05, 2017
she slept 11pm n woke up 7a.m , abi ??
jst let her sleep by 7 or 8pm n see if she will still wake up by 7a.m.. Yuh can't cheat nature
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by okedoyinolabisi(f): 6:28am On Dec 05, 2017
Dimples129:


If she is working then yes! You do it regularly.
I wish I can give you 10000 likes...comments on point
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Rinsola32(f): 6:39am On Dec 05, 2017
Realitycheck007:
Her work hours are from 8am-4pm, So if she wakes by 7, Break fast and Kids nko? I Will assist definitely but She shouldn't just be Rolling on the bed.

Does she gets to work late?

Do you want her to start waking up very early from now in preparation for "children bathing" in the future?

Will you prefer a jobless one that's sleeps at 1am and wakes up by 4am?
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Sike(m): 6:40am On Dec 05, 2017
...Just because she wakes up at 7?
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 6:43am On Dec 05, 2017
Is that even a flaw to begin with undecided, tell the op the truth, this is a stupid excuse, stop giving him a pat on the back
guji12:
Hehehe.. sleep? Bross.. u dor stay house were there's a new born. Dat cries every minute both mid day/night.. wen d time comes she'll do it..
If it's just sleep.. den please marry her.. everyone has flaws
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Sewgon79(m): 6:44am On Dec 05, 2017
Xcelinteriors:
Are you marrying her because you love her or because you want to turn her to maid. That girl should dump you as soon as possible. I am self employed and it is my husband that do prepare my baby for school every morning. I will just wake up like 7am and prepare breakfast but he will be the one to bath him and feed him. We brought the baby into this world together and should take care of him together, omolomo o le wa pa iyaoniya( ask any Yoruba to translate it for you)

Sorry for you, you stylishly in name of civilisation turn your husband to 'Gbewu dani' ask Yoruba to translate it for you.
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by ACE1010: 6:45am On Dec 05, 2017
O boy you don't have any problem. I thought you were going to tell us something pertaining infidelity. And you are just four months into the relationship ...you no serious ooo grin grin grin
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by sajis: 6:47am On Dec 05, 2017
She wakes up by 7am as there are no domestic duties to perform and you are complaining. When you get married and have domestic challenges would you even allow her to sleep at all?.
I think you are the one who is not the marriage material as you don't seem to understand the human nature and think there's something like a perfect person for marriage. It's win some, loose some, as you yourself are not perfect. Fault finding is not the way to seek out a good wife it's only creates a nagging husband.

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by ButterFrost212(f): 6:51am On Dec 05, 2017
Realitycheck007:
Her work hours are from 8am-4pm, So if she wakes by 7, Break fast and Kids nko? I Will assist definitely but She shouldn't just be Rolling on the bed.
Slow your roll man, kids have a way of changing women, so that should be the least of your worries. I can sleep for the world too, but when I'm at my aunt's place, I know I have to prepare the kids for school, I'm up by 4. So leave her let her sleep, and if you really don't like it, or you don't love her enough break up the relationship, it's not too late.
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 6:58am On Dec 05, 2017
[quote author=Daeylar post=62986920]

I love this


That's what he doesn't understand, she has arranged her time well and it works for her perfectly, but op says she must wake early, oh well, I'm sure the way she has arranged her time as she is childless now she will also rearrange when she gets kids but it seems op doesn't trust that she will do so and wants to see it in action.
He wants her to act like a mother when she isn't one. He wants her to change her lifestyle for no good reason other than he wants to. And he seems to think that only the woman should bathe, feed and dress the kids, he better change that mindset fast.

He asks if he should be buying breakfast when she is around implying that everytine she is around she is expected to make breakfast for him, if he wants someone to cook food for him every morning, he should do it himself or go home and stay with his mother instead of disturbing the poor girl.
How do able bodied matured men expect someone to wake up and make food for them before they go to work?
It's a different thing if you and your woman wake up the same time or she wakes up earlier than you. Tomorrow now he will come back and complain that she wakes up too early and disturbs his sleep. Some people like problems and when they can't find any, your good morning alone can cause a fight.

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by TheVictorious(m): 7:01am On Dec 05, 2017
Safiaa:
Can you imagine the nonsense? I even wake up by 8 sometimes esp on weekends. This man is a joke, you don't need to get married. You're the type to complaim about everything and cause problems/stress. The

Lool, he himself is he a husband material? It just shows our perspective of marriage and womanhood in this part of the world. Why don't you ever hear the word husband material, because there's always an impression that the union is the lady's to protect and if it fails, a huge part of the blame often goes to the same party.

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by valentineuwakwe(m): 7:08am On Dec 05, 2017
Realitycheck007:
I updated it that i told her on 2 occasion, Yet she usually laughs over.. Okay here is how i went about it, On a Saturday morning when we were watching WWE recap, I called her by her nicky, And told her: shey you know, This your 7am waking up, would be difficult for you when little one's come, So we better start mastering the early morning act so that it won't be difficult for us in the latter day's, She said Is it my sleep,or is it dia sleep when the time comes we will train ourselves then (both d kids and herself

well, I know understand how you feel and your fears for the future but try and let her see more reason to it. .tell her to stop laughing and be real about it. .look into her past life and find out why she wakes up late each morning. .mayb a medical help or a psychologist may be needed here but please take it calmly with her...she is just seeing the whole episode as a joke but be resolute on the issues and let her know you are concerned about the future and that of ur unborn kids....but remember, she is ur wife to be, still support her to overcome this challenge....cheers
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by msylva2147(m): 7:10am On Dec 05, 2017
Realitycheck007:
i didn't call only the mods.. If you take 1 naira from 1 million, It no longer a Million anymore. I love her to core, She has every oda quality. Isn't a wife material as the subject is just an expression or Bait to have opinion and advice on how to change her and talk to her
please can you give me her number? because that's exactly the type of lady I am looking for as a wife material and waking up early is not part of the criteria but since reversed is your case I think we should exchange with my own that is saucy and jobless.

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by greypencils: 7:14am On Dec 05, 2017
I see. Actually ur major concern is that she doesnt wakeup early enough to prepare you breakfast before she goes to work.Truth is times are changing. You will hardly see those girls that have sex with their bf's or husbands late into the nignt and will still wake up as early as possible to make breakfast. Yet if it so bothers you, tell her what you expect of her. If she loves you she will seat up. Goodluck
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by benabbey(m): 7:14am On Dec 05, 2017
After riding her through the night you still expected her to wake up early.

You have not tell us the good side of the lady only the sleeping side. Does she keep the home, does she care, is she a good cook, Is she very good at the other room.

There is no perfect human being we all have our flaws if you can manage her sleeping flaws why loose a wife material

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by TOPCRUISE(m): 7:18am On Dec 05, 2017
MhizzAJ:
What are you calling the mods for undecided

You don't need advise...You've already concluded that she isn't a wife material...
GOD BLESS YOU. YOUR COMMENT MADE ME REALIZE I AM WASTING MY TIME ON THIS THREAD

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by mirob(f): 7:20am On Dec 05, 2017
Realitycheck007:
Her work hours are from 8am-4pm, So if she wakes by 7, Break fast and Kids nko? I Will assist definitely but She shouldn't just be Rolling on the bed.


The kids are not here yet, when they come she will definitely adjust, if you want to marry her do so, unless there is something you are not telling us.
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 7:28am On Dec 05, 2017
msylva2147:
please can you give me her number? because that's exactly the type of lady I am looking for as a wife material and waking up early is not part of the criteria but since reversed is your case I think we should exchange with my own that is saucy and jobless.
This has got me laughing my chin hurts grin
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Gofwane(m): 7:32am On Dec 05, 2017
TemmyTee82:


As in...me sef weak.
lol the op never know wetin dey happen inside town
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 7:32am On Dec 05, 2017
mirob:



The kids are not here yet, when they come she will definitely adjust, if you want to marry her do so, unless there is something you are not telling us.
thanks for this.. i think i will base my stand on THE KIDS ARENT HERE YET, seems i was way too over concerned and scared
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Melkizedeck: 7:43am On Dec 05, 2017
Xcelinteriors:
Are you marrying her because you love her or because you want to turn her to maid. That girl should dump you as soon as possible. I am self employed and it is my husband that do prepare my baby for school every morning. I will just wake up like 7am and prepare breakfast but he will be the one to bath him and feed him. We brought the baby into this world together and should take care of him together, omolomo o le wa pa iyaoniya( ask any Yoruba to translate it for you)
Stop sounding like you did your husband a favour!!!
What do you mean by 'we brought the baby into the world together so we should take care of him/her together'? If your husband decides not to partake in any of the domestic chores but fully thinks of providing for his family, heavens won't fall!!!
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by andreawills96(f): 7:44am On Dec 05, 2017
[quote author=.so not waking up early is ur own criteria for not been a wife material, if I may ask, u perfect bah, people like u that snore when sleeping
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Reeberry: 7:47am On Dec 05, 2017
greenhulk:
But seriously if the lady is my sister I will advice her against marrying this op. So just because someone comes to visit u and wakes up 7am (probably on a weekend) then that makes her not fit enough to be a wife material? I know ur type, u are one of those rigid '
This is Africa ' kind of men. Those that will beat their wife up and see nothing wrong with it . R u looking for a history or a wife? So let me see... U expect her to wake by 5am, make ur food and serve u breakfast in bed and she must be on her knees while serving u the food abi. See this hustler dey form big man, so what will u do then when u become really rich, u will tie a rope to her neck
This one wey Greenhulk comment for Romance section today. The post really tempted you and vex you gan ooooo. LOL

The op wants to turn the girl to slave. Him post no make sense at all.
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by ultimate77(m): 7:49am On Dec 05, 2017
bughead:
didn't read the story fully!


but a word is enough for the wise! marry a naija woman at your own risk.
Abeg help connect me with black American babe... I wan marry. I seriously don't like 9ja babe's too.
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 7:56am On Dec 05, 2017
What's wrong in sleeping 11pm and waking 7am?
Faultfinder.

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