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Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by dokwesi(m): 1:06pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
My girlfriend of over a year has succeeded in pushing me out of the relationship because she could not stop complaining. Before the commencement of the relationship, i gave her a full doze of myself as well as my values in life which she believed in, only for me to discover she was a different person. She accuses me of dating all of my female friends. It grew to the point that i had to begin to introduce her as my fiance to all these female friends (when asked if she was satisfied that i had nothing hidden, she said i embarrassed her). It went on and on. She would sneak through my phone for the number of these innocent girls, call them and warn them that they should leave her boyfriend alone. Before i discovered what was happening my female friends had all disappeared. I begged, persuaded and gave her free access into my home but that did not still solve her problem. My job is so demanding that i need to do a lot of brain storming to produce results. But guess what? when i needed my rest, she would call me mid-night and she would begin again to nag telling me that her mind has told her i was cheating and i was tired of the relationship. (Something i never thought about) I gave her books to read on relationships, positive thinking and also audio tapes which did not work. I told her the type of issues she could discuss such as career. economy, investments etc. I even threatened to back out of the relationship if she does not quit accusing me. She came apologizing not to do it anymore only to start again after some few hours. This attitude has been going on for over a year, i could not endure anymore basically because she was not adding any value but only accusations. I decided to finally end it. She told me that i was not patient with her, had less concern about her feelings and i had not tried enough What else could i have done? Please advice |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by Hairat007(f): 1:17pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
Hmmn, Those who hv heads hv no cap and dose who hv caps hv no head , well i tink u may not be able 2 change her but cld still try nd if she wnt just accept d fact dat u aint cheating on her, den u cld call it quits. If only she knew dere re girls who re ready 2 accomodate CHEATING guys and treat dem like KINGS, she wld mellow down good luck! |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by KennyG6(m): 1:20pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
Hairat007:hey malama daga ina ki ke? @ post please 4give her |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by Hairat007(f): 2:42pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
Kenny_G: Mallam ina nan walahi yaya ayuka? |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by sesman(m): 2:50pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
she don't need someone like her in your life, she will never change, she has chronic insecurity, kick her to the curb and move on with your life |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by TewMuch: 2:55pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
Just take time off from the relationship and give it time, because her behavior can affect you in very negative ways. It is a toxic relationship right now. If she wants to come back, tell her its best you guys are friends for now until she deals with her insecurities. In that time that you guys are friends, try to understand where she is coming from, and what caused these insecurities. Also make her understand that no one is perfect, as you will make mistakes so will she. She should also be banned from looking through your phone, emails or any other private stuff. If she cannot trust you, there is no reason for the relationship to continue. If she agrees to this and you guys get back after a while, but she remains unchanged? forget about her and end the relationship. Her attitude is negative, and toxic. |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by jfking2005(m): 3:03pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
@poster i feel may be you are just not compactable with her. All the complains you see in her might not be a problem for other dude she might meet next. just let her be and move on best of luck |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by wifey2010: 1:00pm On Apr 07, 2010 |
guy, give ursef brain o, follow ur heart. |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by spoilt(f): 2:41pm On Apr 07, 2010 |
a little insecurity is allowed. No one is perfect. However, your girl seems to be extreme. She will not change. You did your best. Now run along and find someone who trusts you. Life is too short to put up with whiny women. |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by tboyjnr(m): 3:19pm On Apr 07, 2010 |
@ poster, you did the right thing. You only live once, dont let some insecure cow bother your life hehe |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by Nobody: 3:42pm On Apr 07, 2010 |
I'm in the same shoes with poster just that she's right about her insecurities. |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by omega25red(m): 5:07pm On Apr 07, 2010 |
well i say you have given her a whole year to change and she didn't at least improve. any way you already ended it so what more is there move on and forget her maybe if your paths cross again she might be a different person. Question: what reasons did she give you for harassing your friends were your friends calling at all hours of the night |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by daduke2k(m): 5:17pm On Apr 07, 2010 |
Ehm , u try sha. Bt dat gurl no go kil u. Just dump her and u shal be set free. |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by topup: 11:24pm On Apr 07, 2010 |
You seem like a great guy and her fear of losing you has consumed her to the point that she has pushed you away. I think you did the right thing, afterall you can't force a person to change, hopefully her being without you will encourage her to reflect on herself and hopefully make the personal decision to change her ways. |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by spoilt(f): 11:28pm On Apr 07, 2010 |
chipmunkey: |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by candyshore: 9:57am On Apr 08, 2010 |
if u really loved her then u should ve helped her. noone is perfect. and am sure u gave her reasons to be insecured. she is insecured becos she loves u and is afraid of loosing u. check urself guy maybe u didnt give her much attention cos ladies like dat |
Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by dammywale(m): 10:06am On Apr 08, 2010 |
If you really love, you will give her second chance to prove herself. Im sure she cant wait to have you back. Ladies are like that but my own doesnt behave like that. Bro you need to give her that precious second chance
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Re: Her Insecurity & Nagging Made Me Back Out. Pls Advice by Nobody: 10:13am On Apr 08, 2010 |
Wat else are u looking 4? |
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