amprat:
Do you have or know a brother or Sister,who willingly decides not to help out his siblings or parents financially despite being so rich, not caring or remembering you all suffered together, Worst is: do they let you know that they have the ability to help out but have decided they won't or they ask you to make your requests only to disappoint or stylishly insult you. I don't mean extended family members (I think that MIGHT be understandable ), I mean Immediate siblings and parents. what do you think might be the course and if you are someone who does this what are your reasons, please if you have no reasonable comments, skip (wakapass) Biko.

He is inexperienced...

Many people place more value on money, than human life, family ties and loved ones.

It is lack of experience. When life teaches him, he will adjust.

Some people got all the love they needed from their family ..........but when they become rich ... they wont care about the family ....not because anyone did anything wrong to them ....it is just the way they are ...mean and selfish.........and they are usually very helpful to outsiders ..............The best thing to do is ,,,,never go to them for help ... look elsewhere .....otherwise you will keep getting hurt ..... but....In the end nemesis do catch up with them .

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

I don't quite agree with all you just said,. I'm against these lame entitlement mentality, but for the fact that even his own mother is neglected is simple wickedness. To me, he's a bad investment. Yes! The mum invested in him into what he is today, he should at least take care of his mother.

The siblings should strive to survive, but the mother should be at a resting stage, a stage where she will be proud to beat her chest for fighting to train her son.

Training him was a privilege... Ohhh yes.. Enter the street and see kids who are in worst situations, simply because they were abandoned by the very person that brought them to this world. Getting born in a well to. Do family is a privilege bro, getting trained by them is a gift. When you're born with a silver spoon, you tend to not know what you have. You see yourself deserving of them..

amprat:

Yes everyone grew up together, I think it just his true nature because anytime he needs the family members like to be present at naming ceremony or introduction and those kind of stuff, he suddenly becomes friendly,calling everyone, reminding them they are all family members,making promises but once he is through he dumps everyone, won't pick calls, not even that of his mother until he needs them again . maybe we never really noticed

Ogwu ego things. I heard they don't help who they love cos if they do, the person dies or have problems. Just some rumors I heard growing up, don't know how true it is though.

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

keep quiet my friend. Don't talk as if you are God! It's obvious u r very self centered. Let me introduce a song to you, it's titled LEAN ON ME;
Sometimes in our lives
We all have pain, we all have sorrow.
But if we are wise,
We know that there's always tomorrow.

Lean on me when you're not strong
I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need somebody to lean on.

Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you won't let show.

You just call on me, brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on.
I just might have a problem that you'll understand,
We all need somebody to lean on.

Lean on me when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need somebody to lean on

You just call on me, brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on.
I just might have a problem that you'll understand,
We all need somebody to lean on.

thorpido:
Your story is not complete.
There must be a reason why he is acting that way.
Did he grow up with you?Has he always been that way and he changed?
Is he married and marriage changed him?

Gender-Bias again... The OP was sensitive enough to include both gender OR you could have said 'siblings'. You see dis world sef... why does the bad person has to be a guy sha. ? Ha, na wa ooo...

OOOOOHHHH NOOO !!! Gender-Bias again... Everyone of you, commenters dey dey craze ni? The OP was sensitive enough to include both gender OR you could have said 'siblings'. You see dis world sef... why does the bad person has to be a guy sha. ? Ha, na wa ooo...

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Maybe he did ogun owo (ask a yoruba guy)

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

My eyes have seen what cannot be unseen

This dude is obviously one of those people who abandon their parents at old age

pedrilo:
keep quiet my friend. Don't talk as if you are God! It's obvious u r very self centered. Let me introduce a song to you, it's titled LEAN ON ME;

Leave song first. The dude you quoted is very selfish. I pity his family members

Maybe he's into money rituals and he's warned not to help any of his family with the money...hahahahaha, maybe o. And If he helps or assist outsiders leaving you guys out of the show, then set up a friend to be collecting from him for you guys lolzzz, just some weird thought for the night hahaha, I'm off to bed oo before some messengers of pilate come to crucify me

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

of what essence is wealth if it doesn't reflect in people around you most especially your own immediate family, no matter what. any one who is wealthy and can't take care of his parent and help his siblings is a ritualist.

Well it is strange to me,i dont know what stops a person from helping is own family,something is wrong somewhere

mastermaestro:


If I caught that dude, this is what I'd do to him. He is a mean monster!

I swear I go follow u rough am..see his stupid mentality

amprat:
Do you have or know a brother or Sister,who willingly decides not to help out his siblings or parents financially despite being so rich, not caring or remembering you all suffered together, Worst is: do they let you know that they have the ability to help out but have decided they won't or they ask you to make your requests only to disappoint or stylishly insult you. I don't mean extended family members (I think that MIGHT be understandable ), I mean Immediate siblings and parents. what do you think might be the course and if you are someone who does this what are your reasons, please if you have no reasonable comments, skip (wakapass) Biko.

Op, no offence but it's either he is wicked, or he is being manipulated (spiritually or otherwise) to be wicked. He is def neither cursed nor wise. It's not entitlement like someone said, it's just showing love...and to your own family for God's sake. If he cant care less about his siblings and the mother that birthed him, it may be difficult but you all just have to remember him in prayers and only ìn prayers. Please dont remember him any other time! Let him only exist in ur prayers. you all shd absolutely and resolutely keep your distance physically. Someone that dark, hardened, and apathetic to the crop of pple he grew up with, can kill! Give him a realllllllly long rope....scratch that! cut the damn rope (cos he has done that already in his heart) and face your lives. God will take care of yall. If he can still be redeemed, the prayers will take care of that

Reasonabledoubt:



On the contrary, my family and I are very close.

I have seen first hand, how carrying family problem on one person’s head can practically ruin your life.

The person won’t progress past that stage, because you keep giving, the problems never stop coming.

As I said. The Op’s Sibling doesn’t owe him shit.
AIp should stop bitching and go make money, since it’s so easy.

If you all keep eating from him, how will he progress?

Guy u sound pathetic . So if I v millions and my own brother needs a capital for a business that I can comfortably provide the start up, why on earth wouldn't I do that ? If your family at home isn't comfortable and you are living large , you are a big fool . You even went as far as saying u don't owe your parents anything , like for real ? Because they brought u into this work you feel they have an obligation to train you ? Or you aren't aware more than half of those street children have parents who are alive ? After depriving their selves alot just to make sure you turn out well in life and you are here spewing gibberish . Your money is useless if you can't use it to help others after all charity begins at home. If a parent dies whose responsibility is it to bury them ehn? Guy you are so very ignorant about life and what it entails

nahzyla:

You all should ignore him and stop asking for stuff. Stop calling or contacting him since the only purpose he serves in your life is to cause you grief. When he realises he is non existent to you he will start thinking his life again. If he calls you, pick, but don't ever initiate contact no matter how many promises he makes.

You took the words out of my mouth!

amprat:


This man is really vexing o, I think it's because of your bitter experience, but I �think everyone should realise they are not God Therefore you can not totally solve people's problem because human wants are insatiable and your resources are limited no matter how rich you are, wisdom is profitable to direct. That said I think I picked a point from your comment, maybe the guy has heard stuffs like this and he is scared of giving out money so that he is not overwhelmed, probably it is just fear, but that still doesn't explain his show off sha.

My dear sis, plz don't hold any brief for him coz he really doesn't have any excuses for his behaviour towards you guys. My eldest brother this Christmas shared money for everyone of us, not like we r dependent but he just did ,I mean it's the season of giving . My mom goes to morning mass every morning just to pray for her kids to be successful in life , and am not supposed to take care of her tomorrow ? Who does that ? Mothers live long when they see their kids doin well and they will be happy . It must not be money , buy her stuffs , show her you care or will that make u go broke ? That poster you quoted is ignorant . As for your brother I don't really know what his problem is but it's quite unfortunate I tell u. Reasonable brothers will want to make sure everyone is comfortable . Even help them stand on their feet so they aren't dependent on you. God may decide to bless one person in a family and that automatically signals a turn around in the fortune of the family . So such is life . There is really no excuse for not helping your siblings , highest u do the best you can .

Stanleysteno:
Oga seun, abeg we need the unlike button for nairaland.... See mumu comments everywhere ... Na rubbish to get money come forget ur people, total rubbish .... Na dem go complain say our leaders enter post come forget people wey vote dem .. Person wey no fit help family na yansh

I just tire for that guy o, even saying he doesn't owe his parents anything . Mugu you owe them everything

amprat:
Do you have or know a brother or Sister,who willingly decides not to help out his siblings or parents financially despite being so rich, not caring or remembering you all suffered together, Worst is: do they let you know that they have the ability to help out but have decided they won't or they ask you to make your requests only to disappoint or stylishly insult you. I don't mean extended family members (I think that MIGHT be understandable ), I mean Immediate siblings and parents. what do you think might be the course and if you are someone who does this what are your reasons, please if you have no reasonable comments, skip (wakapass) Biko.

Part of the ritual

Definition of heartless. Even if he doesn't want to help his siblings, what about his widowed mum?

I'd rather be poor and know that I have nothing to give, than have money that my mum can't enjoy.

For me this your situation is not normal.Assuming he only extends his greediness to his siblings alone I would have termed his action due to an unhealthy relationship.But to have extended such gesture to your mum shows that his problem is really spiritual.And you even said your mom single-handedly trained him, your brother really needs thorough prayer.I was trained by a single parent(mother) up to my university level, even after I concluded services around may this year I knew how much I gave my mom from my allawe(tangible sum).Even trying to recollect what mine mom suffered to put me through school alone, I feel like giving her my life as it stands now.

May be he did rituals to make his money. Ritually rich people don't help others, their money is for themselves alone

Manboyoo:


I am very sure you are not close to your family

And I wldnt blame him if he isn't. U never see raw wickedness my dear

amprat:

I would have agreed with you if he was taking care of his mother at least and I would have agreed If we call him for help, but he is the one that just suddenly calls out of the blues,asking questions about how far you've gone in life like a monitoring spirit, then starts making promises you didn't ask for, like I'll get you another job, I have the connections, you should develop your talents I'll talk to someone blah blah blah .

when ever he ask u howfa u have gone in life try and wave the question don't tell him anything about you he jus want to knw if you not doing better than him........not that he really which you well

The fact that he doesn’t help his mum raises a serious red flag. He can be stingy to his siblings...that one dey boku but to be stingy to one’s mother when the money dey? God forbid bad thing!

My mama must chop life before she go oo.

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

Imagine what you are saying ... it’s his mum’s responsibility to take care of him , but it’s not his to take care of her when she’s old and probably cannot work again , a child she probably spent her life savings on , savings she would have possibly used to invest in a long term business and yet it’s not his responsibility to take care of her

So where does the term ‘invest in your children future’ comes from ??

Bro pls, always insist on condoms when you want to have sex oo, you should not sire a child with this amount of stupidity in you ... pls take my advise to heart!!! Oponu Omo ale!!!

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

hmmmm,na wa

Hmmmn...Where do I start from to answer all these quotes? But then again, the message will be lost on these keyboard warriors.

Dear all,

Please don’t plan for your retirement o, don’t prepare for when you are unable to work.

Go and born plenty children, suffer and train them, obviously because you can not afford them in the first place.

Then leave the responsibility for your first/richest child to shoulder.

Then when they don’t meet up, emotionally blackmail them and remind them of how many times you sat in the sun and rain, just so you can feed them

Don’t hustle for yourself o, keep your eyes onyour richer siblings wealth, and be wondering what he/she does with her money.

Carry nuclear and extended family wahala till you’re old, struggle to train these kids, that you made a selfish decision to have, then pass on the circle of poverty to the next generation.

Nigerians, and their inability to have a rational conversation, without bringing religion, emotions, and insult into the mix.
Like I said, when you decide to procreate, it is your absolute responsibility to cater for that child.

It is not a privilege, it is your WORK. Those parents that don’t do this, are irresponsible people. Let this recycling of poverty stop with our generation.

@Poster face your life, and stop coveting what is not your own, if you were busy, you won’t have the time to notice how many expensive places he goes to. Face your life. You are not his banker.

It could also be that his source of wealth is not clean. Think it more spiritual.