Dear Jzhane,

Please help a sister out!

There is this guy that has been chasing me for close to four years now. When he started toasting me, I wasnt interested for a couple of reasons. I was not ready to settle down as I was just out of a bad break up. Secondly,I wanted to concentrate on my masters degree. Finally,I wasnt sure how serious he was.

Well,in August this year,I finally agreed to date him. He is nice,gentle and very understanding hence,I introduced him to my mom. All was going fine until the beginning of this month

We were at a dinner when I told him that I noticed that he has not been calling as frequently as before. I told him that he also does not respond to my whatsapp message on time. He then responded by saying he is busy at work and that if I am going to be nagging him like this,maybe we should take it slow.

I was like,what do you mean,and he goes he dosent like women putting pressure on him.

After that dinner...see more

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There is this guy that has been[b] chasing me for close to four years[/b] now. When he started toasting me, I wasnt interested for a couple of reasons.

We were at a dinner when I told him that I noticed that he has not been calling as frequently as before. I told him that he also does not respond to my whatsapp message on time. He then responded by saying he is busy

Four years!?
I dey crazy!


If he is not respond to ur call or whatsapp...it mean shoprite is not new to him again

you will suffer the suffer he suffered in the next four years.....maybe he just realized how stupid he was

lol..after u suffered him fr good 4 yrs u con dey cry crocodile tears. He neva start with u ehn...una go still take things much more n more n more slower,in short in snail speed self.

U do hard to get for 4 years u won come retire....Na wetin I chop fill Ur belle na.....u dont have any chores other than to take it slow with him.....Na wetin ego dey cause be that....it's Ur cup of tea drink up

haba make una take am easy with the lady naaa, she didnt do it intentionally

apholaryn:
lol..after u surfer him fr good 4 yrs u con dey cry crocodile tears. He neva start with u ehn...una go still tall things much more n more n more slower,in short in snail speed self.

looking at it from your angle its possible u were not ready, u never liked him, were busy, lack the zeal for another relationship, or he was just a reserve incase there is no one

from his side, maybe he realised the chase wasn't worth it after all, or possibly he has met an amazing Lady who never made d chase a long thing for him.

which ever the case maybe, once a guy begins making those statement, those are subtle ways indicating he ain't interested anymore

and again don't mind those blaming u for keeping him hanging for so long, u were not ready means u were not ready.

Men lose interest quickly after getting ladies who are too hard to get.

The truth is .. He hung on for that long for his ego. Now, he's got you, he has conquered you... And on he moves to the next challenge.

Last shot.. Don't agree to date a man you've kept in a cooler for long.... He might just be coming to get one over you eventually.

Don't play hard to get, play hard to forget

When it was your turn, you didn't rush, it took him 4 years. Now that the ball is in his court you want him to rush. My sister, don't disturb that young man.

four good years... the interval between two worldcups...am I mad.?even if u are bill gate's only daughter..well one bad turn deserves another...

hmnnn, why pay evil for evil?

onwuakpachris:
four good years... the interval between two worldcups...am I mad.?even if u are bill gate's only daughter..well one bad turn deserves another...

looooooool.

apholaryn:
lol..after u surfer him fr good 4 yrs u con dey cry crocodile tears. He neva start with u ehn...una go still tall things much more n more n more slower,in short in snail speed self.

Exactly.
She really stressed the guy ohhh for four years .

coolcharm:
The truth is .. He hung on for that long for his ego. Now, he's got you, he has conquered you... And on he moves to the next challenge.

Last shot.. Don't agree to date a man you've kept in a cooler for long.... He might just be coming to get one over you eventually.

But it can be very annoying shaaaaa.
Delaying someone for four years .
What does she expect ,that she will look valued ?
Well, its not always like that.

ORAGBON:
hmnnn, why pay evil for evil?

sweetetlove:
Don't play hard to get, play hard to forget

Love quote of the year!!!

princeSammyz:
Love quote of the year!!!

Don't sweat it, it's Christmas season hence he is avoiding you. He'll come around after, then you can decide if you still want him.

Probably over glorified you when he was chasing but realized you ain't worth it after all

Its payback time.

That which he thought was gold and was dying to have wasn't gold after all. Check your character sister, it may be awful.

Some women glitter like gold from the outside but one single attitude from them will make a man have a rethink. The man is at the stage of rethink now.

Talking about "impressional formation".We tend to assume or imaginate in our 'mental realm' the awesomenes and satisfaction we might get when associating or relating with someone due to some external features available or depending on what impress the person.While,in the course of the interaction/association you found out that the latency outcome of the interaction is awful,unproductive and unsatisfactory below whats projected in the mental realm.Hence,man develop a switch personality,in which in the long run will change the impression that was formed in the initial stage.This will later alter his cognitive and behavioural tendency.I think he just want you to give him a space and dont nag or force it.Let him be, he can still'evaluate your worth' then decide his next line of action afterwards.

Talk about eating your cake and having it. sister for good 4years and you expect him � to still dey burn

Be patient, you took it slow, its his time to shine.

Lol@ the statement above

Anyways op, one thing about guys is this.
If they keep chasing for many years , say like this 4years, he's didn't stop chasing even when he knows, the love he used to feel for u is gone. All he craves is just to bed you, even if it's once. He will then become calm and reclusive. All those years of chasing is not love o.
It's just, in his mind a girl cannot turn him down.

After the chase, have some rounds of sexx, he's mind is off. Any slight opportunity, he will make you break up with him. He won't breakup with u o.. But he will frustrate you to breakup.. That's how guys think.

Even if you had said yes pronto! There is still a chance the relationship won't end in marriage. It's a risk one takes. It either goes well OR goes south.
There's no formula in gearing it towards marriage.

So be prepared for tough moments ahead.

That's the plain truth.

If u meet a better guy, don't push him off. Study and if u like him, don't waste time.. Do the needful Cos this your guy ehnn, don taya.. So no need wasting time.. Just free the guy, if a better one comes along.

If I were the one, this your guy said something like that. My feelings Wil just die off.

Mo raye oshi.

No need deceiving ourselves.. I don't have time hoping on what I don't have control in.. Especially another human being feelings.

So think and be wise.

he was chasing on Hugh speed for four years, reasonably he needs to slow down....after realising just maybe you are not too worth it after all.

Smh. You played yourself, sis. After four years, the initial allure of getting has worn off. You're nothing more than a consolation for his prolonged efforts at this point. You've become cold, three days jollof. You're still jollof but you're not the kind of jollof that can make a man salivate. You guys have had sex, move on, it won't work.

Take it slow actually means he wants to slowly phase you out of his life. Smh. You played yourself.

No be only you sabi do shakara.
He must have had sex with you and is now Wondering if the 4years wooing stress was worth it

Bros just realized you ain't worth it after all the wait.

coolcharm:
The truth is .. He hung on for that long for his ego. Now, he's got you, he has conquered you... And on he moves to the next challenge.

Last shot.. Don't agree to date a man you've kept in a cooler for long.... He might just be coming to get one over you eventually.

Shikena.