AryEmber:
I don't blame you, it's the nineteen year old orphan with two siblings that deem it fit to date I put the fault on. It'll teach her next time to walk with her eyes open.

You are an intelligent person.

mabea:
You are an intelligent person.

You should see me right now, my head is swelling and ready to burst. Thanks!

In case you have forgotten, Jesus is the. Husband of Every widow and orphans. You just underate her and think nothing good can happen in her life that you could be part of it.

That girl could be your messiah when the marriage come through in the Long run. She might be the reason why you you may be blessed in future....all you need now is to evaluate her propensity to be that Focused goal getter and blessed wife whom all Men are looking forward to.

Rethink it before you finalise your decision. I have almost the same issue with you but I thought it this way; am not looking for a woman that will shower me with her wealth but a woman that will magnet heavenly favor towards our family as the word says....he that finds a wife, found a good thing and obtains favor from God.

Lastly, pray and be slow to react, she's still young and please don't underate her cos if you do....you might just end up being a servant in her future Husband's company.

Drops mic!

makky555:

Not necessarily sir after all we have deflowered girls that can't be categorised as a "slay queens" (no insult intended from the start though)

Ok. Just wondering who these people (“Slay Queens”) are. Each time I read that I always think, If a girl has been deflowered, it means she has been slain(devalued) right?

@OP, maybe you can “come out” as homosexual?

AryEmber:
marriage at nineteen? She wanted him trust me

How old was kanu's wife when he married her?

And even this gurl's case is worse; an orphan that needs all the help she can get. Besides, the guy's fam are already referring to her as iyawo.

Her true age with life's experiences is way more than 19.

She wanted an assured hands.

GraGra247:
@ jaykorbs. How can we human beings be so heartless to ourselves. I mean don't we have limits?

You knew clearly that she's lost both parents and thus life has been wicked and unfair to her yet you went ahead to tell her a lot of love lies just to have sexual advantage of her. I'm almost weeping. Why?

Your friends are telling you not to go ahead with her for what reasons really? Because she has no parents probably and is not privileged. Not that she's not good enough. She even teaches showing that she's intelligent and is making efforts.

If this girl was your sister I'm sure you will kill the man that'll use her and dump her after knowing all she's been through.

My advice: If you know you would dump that girl after lieing to her, you must compensate her heavily or the karma that will follow will refuse to be appeased.

Rent self contained for her and fully furnish it or rent a shop for her and stock it then leave by praying your sins are forgiven.

very useless advice, if you want to break up with her do it be4 d end of the year

HARDDON:



How old was kanu's wife when he married her?

And even this gurl's case is worse; an orphan that needs all the help she can get. Besides, the guy's fam are already referring to her as iyawo.

Her true age with life's experiences is way more than 19.

She wanted an assured hands.

We have different views but if I ever have a daughter, she better learn how to hide her yeye boyfriend at 19 and she's not even yet in schoo!

Donjazzy12:

You even went to Kadpoly? Hahahahaha! And now you are going to take coffee! Buhahahahahaha!

am a Nigerian and I did my ND in kadpoly before flying out but am not proud of that useless country!... because of idiots like you that can't mind there business and only attack people thats not attacking them!. well am enjoying myself where I am now!!!, continue in your frustrated misery down there, if una like make una kill una sef there e no consign me, hahaahaha, I can send some pix to you, to show am not even you level!, mumu in fact feel this one I sent now! fool don't think everyone is poor in everything like you! Go and get a GF broke ass blogger!!!

AryEmber:
You should see me right now, my head is swelling and ready to burst. Thanks!

Allow it swell you deserve it.

ok.

jaykorbs:
@ GraGra247

She is making effort and intelligent, I know, I just don't want eventually end up with someone I don't love, I don't want to get married to someone out of pity, although, marriage is not in my plan for the next 4 years, I just don't want to waste her time further. On the issue of compensation, I don't the financial prowess to do all you just mentioned[b] but I sure want to still be her friend when I eventually break up with her, assisting her in every possible way.[/b]

And my friends are not asking me to break up with her, they are actually telling me not to.

Thunder fall on you! Did she tell you that she cannot make her own friends?

Donjazzy12:

And I also pray for you my friend that all the girls you broke their heart so will your own heart be broken and never be mendable for breaking the hearts of innocent girls! If you are married, may your wife break your heart to piecea and leave you helpless broke and battered! Say Amen to this prayer

Bros no be fight, I just prayed a simple prayer! Moreso I don't go abt breaking people's heart so no one can break mine! Hahahahahahahahaha!!

jaykorbs:
Hi nairalanders, this is my story, don’t judge me, just advice me on a way out, there is this lady I asked out towards the end of 2016, I will be frank with you, my sole aim back then was to hook up with her and for us to enjoy sex together, basically, I was just after sex. I know nothing about the lady.

She was teaching in one primary school in my area at that point in time, I said a lot of shit back then just to get her to say yes, as I got to know her, I found out she had lost both parent at a tender age and so many other things, she has really passed through a lot, herself and her junior sister.

As time goes on, the relationship gained an exponential momentum and before I could realize what was going on, my family and friends dan sabi her, calling her my wife, let me add that she is 19 and I am 24 (just wrote my last undergraduate exam a
couple of months ago, while she is currently working at one food canteen).

Over the course of 2017, I have picked up a lot of manly lessons and have decided to set my life in order in the coming year, yes, I have dropped a lot of boyish attitude and selfish characters, I can confidently call myself a changed individual, although a lot of improvement still have to be made.

As I mentioned earlier, I have decided to set my life in order this coming year, with her being part of it, the truth is, I don’t love her, but to my understanding, she really loves me, I am currently still in this relationship because I am afraid of making her sad, I am in this relationship at the moment because of pity, she will be devasted when I break up with her, my friends are telling me not to go ahead with it, that I am about to make a big mistake if I call off the relationship, I just know I don’t love her, I very much like her, but the love to consider her for marriage ain’t there. She is beside me as I type this, I seriously need help on how to call of this relationship without breaking her spirit because she is a fight

I followed U.

GraGra247:
@ jaykorbs. How can we human beings be so heartless to ourselves. I mean don't we have limits?

You knew clearly that she's lost both parents and thus life has been wicked and unfair to her yet you went ahead to tell her a lot of love lies just to have sexual advantage of her. I'm almost weeping. Why?

Your friends are telling you not to go ahead with her for what reasons really? Because she has no parents probably and is not privileged. Not that she's not good enough. She even teaches showing that she's intelligent and is making efforts.

If this girl was your sister I'm sure you will kill the man that'll use her and dump her after knowing all she's been through.

My advice: If you know you would dump that girl after lieing to her, you must compensate her heavily or the karma that will follow will refuse to be appeased.

Rent self contained for her and fully furnish it or rent a shop for her and stock it then leave by praying your sins are forgiven.

His friends are advising him not to foolishly call off the relationship that he will regret it if he does. It's not in the manner you understand it. Go thru that friend part again.. The OP is solely alone on his heartlessness. Don't misjudge and include OP's friends in OP's heartlessness.

Caleycash:
am a Nigerian and I did my ND in kadpoly before flying out but am not proud of that useless country!... because of idiots like you that can't mind there business and only attack people thats not attacking them!. well am enjoying myself where I am now!!!, continue in your frustrated misery down there, if una like make una kill una sef there e no consign me, hahaahaha, I can send some pix to you, to show am not even you level!, mumu in fact feel this one I sent now! fool don't think everyone is poor in everything like you! Go and get a GF broke ass blogger!!!

This is the lowest anybody can sink. Do you have to upload your picture to make a point. It's quite clear that you can take him out of Nigeria but can't take Nigeria out of him.. SmH

StrawberryGloss:
Many people say they don't want to hurt another person and tiptoeing around the situation can do more harm than help-don't tiptoe, be decisive.
It is an action to avoid as much repercussion as possible, don't be too soft in the break up, but don't be insensitive.
Speak the truth but not the whole truth. You don't need to tell her her flaws, etc.
Let her know how you feel about the relationship and that the action you're taking is best for the both of you.
Be honest, open, and sincere.Wish for the best and prepare for the worst and behave cordially.

speak the truth but not the whole truth,,,,,,,I love dis statement

Basically, you can never compensate true love with money. If she really loves you, no matter the amount you give her, it changes nothing...x

GraGra247:


I'm so sorry. But read your reply to me again

I just don't like how you said the guy should compensate her and let her go.

Caseless:
I just don't like how you said the guy should compensate her and let her go.

You mean I don't have right to air my views. My perception doesn't have to agree with yours. Its a free world.

narutop:

Back then it was all about sex, now it's about a soulmate.

...back then it was about the life of a young girl...It costs you nothing because it was not your life but the life someone else! Someone else will one day play with your life and tell you oh back then it was just about the pleasure...and at this point you will realize the gravity of the evil involved in playing with the life of a lady in name of having fun!

coolfredo:
i have never seen someone as wise as u are....if to say e de possible i for say i love u

Lols, wetin come make am no dey possible

GraGra247:
@ jaykorbs. How can we human beings be so heartless to ourselves. I mean don't we have limits?

You knew clearly that she's lost both parents and thus life has been wicked and unfair to her yet you went ahead to tell her a lot of love lies just to have sexual advantage of her. I'm almost weeping. Why?

Your friends are telling you not to go ahead with her for what reasons really? Because she has no parents probably and is not privileged. Not that she's not good enough. She even teaches showing that she's intelligent and is making efforts.

If this girl was your sister I'm sure you will kill the man that'll use her and dump her after knowing all she's been through.

My advice: If you know you would dump that girl after lieing to her, you must compensate her heavily or the karma that will follow will refuse to be appeased.

Rent self contained for her and fully furnish it or rent a shop for her and stock it then leave by praying your sins are forgiven.

boss calm down and read again... His friends are advising him not to break up with her else he'll be making a mistake.

Archangel15:
O boy, you don’t own her anything, yes her parents died but you didn't kill them.

You don't love her let her go, if you are to do anything for her let it be because of compassion not because you are obliged to do it.

But why did he deceive her in the first place which I know he might even promise marriage, if the lady curse, it will definitely come to pass.

zinnyzee:
Lols, wetin come make am no dey possible

becos if i sau i love u, u wont say u love me too or even give me green light, u fit make me de ceo of frndzone

zinnyzee:
Lols, wetin come make am no dey possible

so

GraGra247:


Don't worry. The demons possessing you and your ilks will change their mind when you repent. Devil.

Mad dog in the loose

efficiencie:


...back then it was about the life of a young girl...It costs you nothing because it was not your life but the life someone else! Someone else will one day play with your life and tell you oh back then it was just about the pleasure...and at this point you will realize the gravity of the evil involved in playing with the life of a lady in name of having fun!

And who told you the same hasnt happened to me.
Guy grow up, life if full of ups and downs. Dont dwell on your down side, instead make corrections and move ahead.

Donjazzy12:
You need sense!

Get away. Big fool kawai

guy my simple advice for u is to stick with this gal,life is giving u something good on a silver platter but u think,u deserve something better.this gal truelly love u and this is a big plus,love is not all that matters in relationship or else why? do we have divorce here and there.u need a gal who will be loyal and faithful to u.from all u have said,this lady in question is a good wife material,push her away and u will surely regret it.

Oga, u will not meet any oda gye dat will love u oh. Dat gye u love will show you pepper eh. U will so miss dis ur babe, but by then it will be too late. Instead of u to be happy that you have a loyal gye n start hustling for money for ur future. U r lookin for love. What is love. Whu love epp.I laff u in spanish

coolfredo:
becos if i sau i love u, u wont say u love me too or even give me green light, u fit make me de ceo of frndzone

Shebi na pesin be best graduating student of friendzone department.

Dem even give am award sef