David and his wife Rita lives in Ibadan, David works in one of the federal research institutes in Ibadan while Rita is unemployed, he gives his wife N60k for food at the end of every month. He is on a monthly salary of N135k. Rita will start complaining that food and groceries have finished between 15th and 20th of the month which have not been going down well with her husband. He thought that N60k should be manageable for a month for a family of 4 (David, his wife and their 2 kids), his wife insisted that N60k is grossly insufficient. This has been causing friction in the home for sometime. Rita had to report her husband to a counselor in their church. When invited, David insisted his wife must give detailed account of how N60k was expended in just 15-20 days before he'll agree to discuss any thing with the pastors. Rita confessed that she usually give her father N30k every month without the knowledge of her hubby since David had earlier stopped all financial assistance to her family. She only manages N30k which has not been enough.
When asked why he stopped financial assistance to his father in-law who is a retiree, he said he took the action when he realised that his wife's six siblings who are all doing well in Lagos have become irresponsible by neglected their father to only Rita and knowing fully well that Rita is not employed, he was the one carrying the responsibilities.
Is it right for David to have stopped all financial assistance to his in-law?
Is it right for Rita to have devised ways of giving money to her dad from her home keeping allowance when her husband stopped giving him money and without her husband's knowledge?
Is it really the duty of a man to shoulder the financial responsibility of his in-laws?
Is N60k really enough to cater for a family of 4 in Ibadan or elsewhere in Nigeria today?

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Too many questions at a time. The wife shouldn't have done that without her husband's consent .Since the money is to take care of the family budget. I see no reason why the husband had to stop sending money to the in laws . He can easily do that out of his Magnanimity without recourse to her siblings decision not to talk care of their parent . Whatever a man sow definitely he will reap it in due season.

It is not a man's responsibility to cater for his inlaws. Whatever a man does for his inlaws is just an act of kindness and a show of love for his wife.
Rita should dust her certificate, get a job, work and cater for her family, since her brothers are so shameless not to care for their father.

Rita should really get a job and look after her parents. 60k should be enough for groceries monthly for a family of 4 because the wife only spends half of that anyway.
If she doesn't want to work and still insist on sending money to her parents, she should continue to manage the 30k and not complain. She's only making the sacrifice for her parents.
Her husband shouldn't be the one to make the sacrifice.

It's tricky but also clear cut.

She was wrong to divert the funds to her dad but I also can understand what it's like with having dependent parents.

She should begin to source a means of income for herself.

60k is neither enough nor not enough. It is what is available and more than fair as allowance given the husband's income

She should make amends and do the right thing henceforth