davidif:


The fact that something has been done from the olden days does not mean its correct. In calabar, twins were seen as devilish back in the day and were supposed to be killed. Did that make it the right thing? Abeg think this through and be objective. This is human greed hiding itself under the clothing of 'tradition.'

LoJ:



Just allow me. I was idle, I wanted to troll a bit. But I really mean it, greed should not make people go into debts to get married.

hammerF6:
IT IS NOT BY FORCE TO MARRY IGBO.

EVEN WITH BRIDE PRICE, ALL THE TRIBES IN NIGERIA WANT TO MARRY IGBO.

WAT IS IT SEF.

ARE U PEOPLE NOW USING MARRIAGE TO FIND OUR TROUBLE?

JUST BARE IN MIND THAT WE DONT WANT TO SHARE COUNTRY WITH MANY OF U, WE ARE FORCED TO LIVE IN THE SAME ENTITTY.

STOP MARRYING OUR WOMEN AND USE THEM AS MOUTH PIECE TO ATTACK OUR CULTURE.

HER FATHER OBSERVED THE SAME "RITE OF MARRIAGE" BEFORE HER MOTHER FOLLOWED HIM.

IF YOUR TRIBE DONT PAY BRIDE PRICE, THEN MARRY YOUR FREE WOMEN.

Y IS IT THAT WEN NON-IGBOS COME TO MARRY FROM IGBO LAND, THEY TAKE IT UPON DEMSELVES TO CHANGE ANOTHER MAN CULTURE?

ARE U SUPPOSE TO EVEN MARRY FROM US?

LEAVE IGBOS ALONE IN PEACE.

hammerF6:



BRO, GO AND MARRY YOUR YORUBA WOMEN, I MEAN, HER PARENTS WILL FOOT THE WEDDING EXPENSES.

THAT IS WAT U WANT.

FIRST AND FOREMOST, NO IGBO PARENT PRAY TO HAND ANY OF THEIR CHILDREN TO NON IGBO, THEIR DREAM IS THAT THEIR CHILD MARRIES FROM THEIR OWN CULTURE.


ALL CULTURES, INCLUDING RACES HAVE THIS PRINCIPLE. IT IS DEFENSIVE AS THEY ASPIRE TO CONTINUE THEIR CULTURE AND KEEP THEIR IDENTITY.


SO FOR U TO LEAVE YOUR PLACE AND AN IGBO PARENT WEIVE THEIR DREAM AND ALLOW U A FOREIGNER TO MARRY THEIR DAUGHTER, U SHOULD DO SO QUIETLY AND GO AWAY.

oyb:


From some of your posts, I deduce that you are paying your way through school. So who will be paid for your own dowry?

It’s not just bride price. 7 years ago, a guy in our office died in an accident (not on duty) .his family were all about the money. It was very very disgusting. People in the office were sad, and the victims family members were grumbling about insurance money, you must give his brother a job, etc, etc. The whole thing just became an avenue to make money.

I actually believe this hefty bride price issue is one of the reasons the treatment of widows is so vile.

The rest of us cannot understand the commodification of what should be a happy ceremony. All it leads to is people marrying when they are old, as a marriage becomes a financial milestone. I had dated my wife for five years, within four months of getting a good partying job, I got married. If we had been ibo, maybe I would have had to save for another five or six years. Who will wait that long? That on its own means that most ibo women will never marry their first loves, and that most ibo men understand that they will not marry their first loves.i saw one or two cases in school where ibo chicks dumped their boyfriends for wealthier workers. Today I can see it for what it was, pragmatism. It was clear that the wealthy boyfriends would be able to marry within a short while, while it would be a minimum of six years before the bf could even think of getting married.

All of that you must prove you are fit to wed is bs, imho. My ability to spend big money on a ceremony is in no way a measure of my finincial capability. Everyday on NL, people are chastised for planning expensive weddings and drinking garri after.

A marriage is supposed to be for life, while a wedding is for a day.

davidif:


Not everyone "leaves their place and looks for a foreigner to marry". Some people simply just run into other people that they are attracted to and who they have chemistry with and that they happen to have chemistry with. That's life and that's part of the human experience. In simpler terms, love just happens and it is a beautiful thing until all the ugliness like greed, prejudice, tradition and tribalism begin to come into play.
No one is born from the womb hating someone of a different tribe, its something they learn from their parents, friends and their society.

hammerF6:



U ARE THE SAME PEOPLE THAT SPEND MILLIONS ON OWAMBE BUT DAT LOVE CANNOT DRIVE U TO SPEND MILLION ON UR OWN WEDDING.

hammerF6:



MY BROTHER MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR THE WRETCHED.

JUST IMAGINE.

PEOPLE DEY MARRY EVERYDAY, YET ANYTIME THESE NON-IGBOS LEAVE THEIR FREE WOMEN AND ARRIVE IGBO LAND, THEY WANT THEIR INLAW TO FOOT THE BILL FOR THEIR OWN WEDDING.

Ozuo!!!


THESE PEOPLE HAVE NO SHAME. YOU CANNOT AFFORD A WEDDING AND U HAVE THE GUTS TO DISCLOSE THAT TO THE WORLD


I BLAME IGBO PARENTS THAT TOLERATE INTER-TRIBAL BULL SHIIT FOR ALL THIS INSULT.


WRETCHED PEOPLE SHOULD NOT BRING KIDS INTO THE WORLD TO SUFFER.


THE WORLD IS NOT VERY KIND WEN DEY GO STEALING BECOS THEIR FATHER IS WRETCHED AND LAZY.

hammerF6:



MY BROTHER MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR THE WRETCHED.

JUST IMAGINE.

PEOPLE DEY MARRY EVERYDAY, YET ANYTIME THESE NON-IGBOS LEAVE THEIR FREE WOMEN AND ARRIVE IGBO LAND, THEY WANT THEIR INLAW TO FOOT THE BILL FOR THEIR OWN WEDDING.


THESE PEOPLE HAVE NO SHAME. YOU CANNOT AFFORD A WEDDING AND U HAVE THE GUTS TO DISCLOSE THAT TO THE WORLD


I BLAME IGBO PARENTS THAT TOLERATE INTER-TRIBAL BULL SHIIT FOR ALL THIS INSULT.


WRETCHED PEOPLE SHOULD NOT BRING KIDS INTO THE WORLD TO SUFFER.


THE WORLD IS NOT VERY KIND WEN DEY GO STEALING BECOS THEIR FATHER IS WRETCHED AND LAZY.

davidif:


First of all not every Yoruba person spends money on "owambe" so get your facts straight.
Secondly, marriage is a beautiful and honorable thing but unfortunately some unscrupulous and greedy families have commercialized it and used it as an avenue to satisfy their lust for money.
The truth of the matter is that some people are simply slaves to greed and won't mind selling their own children for money. Utterly shameless.

CaptainG00D:


If u like quote from genesis to exodus.
Cant change anything.
There is nothig bad there...
This is a tradition and u have to respect it.

Its brfoce to pay d price
And its not by force to marry igbo women u u have variety of options to marry else where.

hammerF6:
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GUY, U SOUND BROKE, GET OFF LINE AND FIND A PROPER MEANS OF MAKING MONEY.

I AM TIRED OF ALL UR EXCUSES AND LOVE DEFNCE RUBBISH.

MARRIAGES THESE DAYS ARE HIGHLY FINANCIAL AND HAVE VERY LITTLE TO DO WITH LOVE.

U MUST BE BRINGING SOMETHING TO THE TABLE AND UR PARTNER MOST COMPLIMENT YOUR EFFORT IN HIS OR HER OWN WAY.

davidif:


So marriage is all about money right? Gotcha!

olawonder:
I noticed on any forum, when someone expresses their feelings the best thing ppl do is rain insults! Why now? The lady hoped ppl would bring up a positive debate and so that at least, she can find some form of consolation.

Bigsteveg:

Stop being too nasty about this, are u the father? or are you planning to extort ur own son in law also?
Grow up jare

macof:

Culture is Culture, If the man cannot pay Igbo bride price he is not ready to marry Igbo woman.
He could have told the woman to wait for him while he hustles for money to be able to afford her bride-price plus negotiate with her father or he moves on. When the father sees that he doesn't come back he would reduce the price

ashjay001:


I hope u realise, that for every 5call-girls u see in Nigeria n west africa, 2.5 are Igbos?

I'm based in Abj, n I'm truly tired of meeting above 30s single igbo ladies, desperate for marriage!
They accept any kind of crazy assed package u proffer, just to be in a relationship!

humilitypays:
no wonder lol. You really need to visit Igbo land during Xmas to witness things yourself.

If not for our collective efforts, with the way Hausa-Yoruba dominated Nigerian government abandon Igbo land, Igbo land would have been a dumping site but we Igbos on our own collective effort make our respective villages small paradise.

Forget what people say online, visit Igbo communities during Xmas and see the wonders and developmental projects being executed by Igbo guys in their villages.

It usually gives me joy and I pray to soon join them in developing my community to a modern one soon by Gods grace.

CaptainG00D:
Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!.
Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood..
By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap.

As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well.
Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids.

Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls.

NUFF SAID!!

PearlStreet:


Yes na. Female children are investments for poor Igbos.

That's why you'll never see an Igbo man who has plenty children sitting in his shop. He'll always be tying wrapper at home like a trainee cripple and be chasing people away from his herd of daughters.

wtfcoded:

U randy animals should leave our gals alone or u pay the necessary bride price(s) given to u.
Igbo's themselves have never complained of any brideprice b4.
Igbo's are allergic to broke pple n scavengers.

loveth361:
From comments i have read here,is better we change our igbo culture to yorubas own,




just for peace

berrystunn:


What do you know about Igbo's and their traditions ?

Every village in Igbo land have their different requirements for traditional marriage.
They will provide you a list and all the steps needed for the traditional marriage...

No body will force the list on you if you are not capable,
Or if you needed more time or years to get things done.. No problem

The stupid girl saw the list or know about the requirements before the marriage... But she waited till after the marriage... Before oppose the list in public...

For your information is not the Father , the list is from the village community/kinsmen.

That is the reason why they take the marriage to the village ,If not the father will choose to receive his in-laws in Lagos or else where....

humilitypays:
Only a low class Igbo girl will date you and even allow u have sex with her, no classy Igbo chic will

berrystunn:


What do you know about Igbo's and their traditions ?

Every village in Igbo land have their different requirements for traditional marriage.
They will provide you a list and all the steps needed for the traditional marriage...

No body will force the list on you if you are not capable,
Or if you needed more time or years to get things done.. No problem

The stupid girl saw the list or know about the requirements before the marriage... But she waited till after the marriage... Before oppose the list in public...

For your information is not the Father , the list is from the village community/kinsmen.

That is the reason why they take the marriage to the village ,If not the father will choose to receive his in-laws in Lagos or else where....

Onyi42:
Why don't this girl use her father/community name here and stop identifying with all igboes

My community require next to nothing for bride price

hammerF6:


PROSTITUTES DONT DISCRIMINATE.


ANYTHING GOES.

humilitypays:
there is no rise in dowry, people just come online to rant when they knew ahead they weren't prepared to settle down.

How many Igbo men do you see complaining about paying whether Igbo woman o, Yoruba woman o, Hausa woman o, Fulani woman or Oyimbo woman dowry

In fact, Igbo guys are known for paying more than the usual bride price of their bride, why Because we so much value our bride and are happy to have her in our life.

Some tribe collect penny for bride price, but other expenditures will make you scream.

President Buhari collected 10naira or so as bride price for Zhara Buhari, but did u hear that the groom bought expensive jewelries, clothes, etc for the family which is how Fulani's does their own, why not go and tell them to reduce it

Yorubas collect penny for bride price, but the money they spend on the wedding party alone can build an estate. In fact, they spend a fortune on the wedding party which makes their own wedding higher in expense, yet Igbos don't scream and complain Yorubas change their party way.

Yorubas should learn to respect Igbos pls

CaptainG00D:


Pretty girl. ... yea i got u. Ok the girl is stupid. How u doing swwt

CaptainG00D:
Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!.
Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood..
By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap.

As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well.
Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids.

Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls.

NUFF SAID!!

gloria34:
my dear, i'm fine o, BEDC dey play with their selves