So…most of us by now as men have goals in mind to save a certain amount of money… it’s all about the money they say.

For some of us it is some material thing like a car or house or even simpler things like clothes and shoes, and just about anything that gives us that feeling of having arrived…or another state of happiness.

We come up with goals at the beginning of the year or at birthdays, thinking to ourselves what we might achieve at a specified date; we have heard that goals are SMART, Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic/Relevant, Time-bound…yes that is true.

Please don’t have goals if you do not have a system of achieving it. The goal may be to become a better father, the process may be to make sure you call your son and ask him about his day and talk about his friends, not about schoolwork and things that create a sense of judgement

The goals might be, to be a better son, and the process to call your father and send commit to sending him something every week/month, regardless of if he appreciates it

To make all A’s in the next exams, and the system might be to read 2 hours before the first class and 2 hours after the last class of the day

Every big picture can be broken down into smaller bits and as long as you concern yourself with the smaller bits regularly, then the big goal will be achieved.
However, your goal needs to be part of an ultimately bigger one, else by the time you lose that weight and you feel you have achieved your goal, the next thing you will do would be to order French fries and burger to celebrate.

I believe more in committing to the process and system, than the big picture, to become an adult all you have to make sure is that you keep alive and grow every day, and even without noticing the difference each day, you realise your dream of growing into an adult, just because you did the necessary things each and everyday… that is the difference between us and those who are remarkably successful.

http://blog.menstable.org/pleasedont-have-goals/