Today on Link Up With Dan, We have a lady that is a stateof confusion as she has this to share with us.
Dear Dan,
From ****, I'm writing this with so much anger right now. But first I want to share my little story. I have been dating this guy for quite some months now. He was the love of my life and my perfect twin when we first met. There was no place or event he wanted to attend that he wouldn’t go with me… Same with mine. We were inseparable. We were best friends and had so much love for each other. Just few weeks ago I traveled to see him since I haven’t been to his new place since his transfer at work. I had planned to have the best of a crazy weekend of fun, hot sex and more outings. I was prepared for the fun but never the fight. Our first fight ever began the next day after I arrived. I woke up, made breakfast while he was still asleep and then went to serve my baby in bed. Just after eating, he started picking out his dirty clothes out of the clean ones he had. Just while I turned on the TV to watch, my boyfriend dumped his heap of clothes on the chair and told me to go wash while he strolls out. And I turned and asked what that meant? Only for him to tell me, I’ve been having a great stay and it’s time to work and I bluntly told him No. I definitely wasn’t going to wash his clothes. We’re just dating, I am not his house help or wife. I told him and walked off to sleep.With anger he stormed out of the house, called me later that day to get out before he returns. Guys, what did I dowrong? am I supposed to wash his clothes when his hands are not broken? He wants to end the relationship but I love him badly.What do I do? Are girls supposed to do wifey duties for boyfriends?
Please help me, ‘cus I am really confused.

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please let the idiot go

Dump the cow

All of u telling her to dump the guy something is legally wrong with u.

The guy wants a real wife material not indomie material.... Lazy ass motherf**ker

u are useless and not fit for the master use


So washing a man's cloth is now out of relationship.. U are really not well.. I won't be surprised u will have ego problem with him


And if that guy continue courting u all in the name of love. Then he is legally mad

jdluv:
please let the idiot go

my perfect twin i'll wash my cloth myself.kiki lovina

Iseoluwani:
All of u telling her to dump the guy something is legally wrong with u.

The guy wants a real wife material not indomie material.... Lazy ass motherf**ker

u are useless and not fit for the master use


So washing a man's cloth is now out of relationship.. U are really not well.. I won't be surprised u will have ego problem with him


And if that guy continue courting u all in the name of love. Then he is legally mad

bro all those oloshos above you are single and have never had a serious relationship... they are the type you see in church disturbing God

well me i don't concur with guys heaping clothes for their bae to wash...if he had started washing the clothes himself,the lady might want to join him.to make it romantic..

OneCorner:
Today on Link Up With Dan, We have a lady that is a stateof confusion as she has this to share with us.
Dear Dan,
From ****, I'm writing this with so much anger right now. But first I want to share my little story. I have been dating this guy for quite some months now. He was the love of my life and my perfect twin when we first met. There was no place or event he wanted to attend that he wouldn’t go with me… Same with mine. We were inseparable. We were best friends and had so much love for each other. Just few weeks ago I traveled to see him since I haven’t been to his new place since his transfer at work. I had planned to have the best of a crazy weekend of fun, hot sex and more outings. I was prepared for the fun but never the fight. Our first fight ever began the next day after I arrived. I woke up, made breakfast while he was still asleep and then went to serve my baby in bed. Just after eating, he started picking out his dirty clothes out of the clean ones he had. Just while I turned on the TV to watch, my boyfriend dumped his heap of clothes on the chair and told me to go wash while he strolls out. And I turned and asked what that meant? Only for him to tell me, I’ve been having a great stay and it’s time to work and I bluntly told him No. I definitely wasn’t going to wash his clothes. We’re just dating, I am not his house help or wife. I told him and walked off to sleep.With anger he stormed out of the house, called me later that day to get out before he returns. Guys, what did I dowrong? am I supposed to wash his clothes when his hands are not broken? He wants to end the relationship but I love him badly.What do I do? Are girls supposed to do wifey duties for boyfriends?
Please help me, ‘cus I am really confused.

http://www..ng/others/please-help-boyfriend-wants-wash-clothes

_lazy_gurl_yuh_cant_help_ur_jguy_again

Iseoluwani:
All of u telling her to dump the guy something is legally wrong with u.

The guy wants a real wife material not indomie material.... Lazy ass motherf**ker

u are useless and not fit for the master use


So washing a man's cloth is now out of relationship.. U are really not well.. I won't be surprised u will have ego problem with him


And if that guy continue courting u all in the name of love. Then he is legally mad

After they will say they are not sex dolls

If she can't wash the cloth she should get out. Simple.

Washing a boifrnd's cloth does not prove you are hardworking and neither does it guarantee he will marry you eventually..

Personally, I dont support doing that..if you wash out of your own volition, fine! but if he insists on you doing so for him, dont.

Dont because of husband scarcity turn yourself into one guy's slave. If you were my daughter, .....(lemme stop here )

kallmemrB:
bro all those oloshos above you are single and have never had a serious relationship... they are the type you see in church disturbing God

The type that have been visiting Shiloh since 19BC AFTER WASTING ALL VIRTUES , awon eleribu

midolian:
Washing a boifrnd's cloth does not prove you are hardworking and neither does it guarantee he will marry you eventually..

personally, i dont support doing that..if you wash out of your own volition, fine! but if he insists on you doing so for him, dont.

I hope you are never for once divorced [code][/code]

You just proved to him that you are a wrong person. If u love him as claimed, u shld be humble enough to wash his clothes - without protocol.

Knowing you are just dating and not his house help or wife, u shld as well know u shldnt be sleeping with him since u are not married. That's decency and pleasing to the Lord.

Proverbs 16:18 Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.

Shun pride.

Do you want to wash them? He's YOUR boyfriend after all.

Personally, I see nothing wrong with helping him out with his chores...if he is a good & supportive boyfriend himself. What I'm against, is when someone expects you to cater to him, when he doesn't cater to you. It should go both ways.

Mind Ur write I can even sense u have ego.....even if u are not going to wash his clothes, there are ways u can say this without fight coming up......if u love someone there shouldn't be anything u won't do for him or her...

na WA. wash his clothes for what. my dear don't start what you cannot finish, from wash my clothes, it will lead to clean the house, from there to go to my moms house to help whenever she need you, all these because of one guy, if he wants to leave let him go, do not negotiate with terrorists, before you know it domestic abuse. move on leave that situationship.

collinsfhk:
You just proved to him that you are a wrong person. If u love him as claimed, u shld be humble enough to wash his clothes - without protocol.

Knowing you are just dating and not his house help or wife, u shld as well know u shldnt be sleeping with him since u are not married. That's decency and pleasing to the Lord.

Proverbs 16:18 Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.

Shun pride.

If you truely follow the storey, you will find out that the boy in question neither welcome her nor talk to her first as he was asleep when she came.

When he wake up and saw her he immediately park cloth for her to wash or forget it.

To me what's a wrong approach.
Women washing their husband cloth is very important as a help mate.

The young man goese arrogant and need to retrace his step.

Dnt listen to all these chavunistic people telling you to wash the clothes. My dear, wash from now till tomorrow it wont change the fact that the yeye man does not respect you. Wash indeed. Imagine. Please get away from such destiny killers. After spreading leg and turning yourself to executive housegirl, he will still find another excuse for discharge. Nonsense and boyfriend. Silly love. Abeg. Use ur weekend to go to your family house and do the chores there

hisgrace090:




If you truely follow the storey, you will find out that the boy in question neither welcome her nor talk to her first as he was asleep when she came.

When he wake up and saw her he immediately park cloth for her to wash or forget it.

To me what's a wrong approach.
Women washing their husband cloth is very important as a help mate.

The young man goese arrogant and need to retrace his step.

Sorry, please read again!

Some humans self ehn, must you bring minor issues like this to nairaland? If you don't want to wash his clothes fine, if you want to wash fine.

hisgrace090:




If you truely follow the storey, you will find out that the boy in question neither welcome her nor talk to her first as he was asleep when she came.

When he wake up and saw her he immediately park cloth for her to wash or forget it.

To me what's a wrong approach.
Women washing their husband cloth is very important as a help mate.

The young man goese arrogant and need to retrace his step.

Are you sure you read the story at all?

Never ever assume the role of a wife when you are still dating. what is the assurance that he will marry you at the end of the day?
I never wash my cloth finish na another man cloth I go dey wash. Nonsense!!

Broke guys and their stupid mentality.

To the guys, asking your girlfriend to wash your clothes and do all that house chores and she does it, is not a guaranteed or pointer that she'll be a good wife tomorrow. In fact, it's even a dangerous move. What if she does all that house chores only as a means of facilitating her marriage, and not because she enjoy doing them?

I can do all of my house chores--everything. So for me, if a girlfriend chooses to help me out with any of them, OYO is her name.

Don't mind anyone talking trash here about you being the problem.
The first problem in that story was his approach, any sane mind would have picked that out first. He dumped the clothes for you to wash and strolled out.

Personally, I don't see it as wifey duties. So, your response was out of place TO ME.

I can wash for a loved one, but if he dares dump them for me to wash in that manner, I will go home, sit and think about my life. I need to know what gave him such guts [especially if it has happened before].

The guy should have make an attempt to wash the clothes, then if the GF did not join him, that's when he should react

912:


Are you sure you read the story at all?

I Wonder

pocohantas:
Don't mind anyone talking trash here about you being the problem.
The first problem in that story was his approach, any sane mind would have picked that out first. He dumped the clothes for you to wash and strolled out.

Personally, I don't see it as wifey duties. So, your response was out of place TO ME.

I can wash for a loved one, but if he dares dump them for me to wash in that manner, I will go home, sit and think about my life. I need to know what gave him such guts [especially if it has happened before].

Approach? Remember dis is her side of d story. Mind u, she is a proud person nd such pple ar defensive, always tries to cover every trace of blame. However, I doubt if she has any problem wit approach

to even consider doing it is madness, I'll not ask my wife to wash for me talk more of my gf.

I'm kuku a lazy girl before so I don't think he'll want to try it with me.

Imagine the arrogance in doing it. Dropping the heap on the floor and telling her to make herself useful.
If na me I go just vex use all the clothes clean fan. Such guts, mtcheew.

OneCorner:
. I woke up, made breakfast while he was still asleep and then went to serve my baby in bed. Just after eating, he started picking out his dirty clothes out of the clean ones he had. Just while I turned on the TV to watch, my boyfriend dumped his heap of clothes on the chair and told me to go wash while he strolls out. And I turned and asked what that meant? Only for him to tell me, I’ve been having a great stay and it’s time to work. I bluntly told him No. I definitely wasn’t going to wash his clothes. We’re just dating, I am not his house help or wife.

Very proper response!

What Impudence!!!

Even if you were married, a man still has no right to act in that manner.

This is a sign for you to tell the kind of husband he is going to be. A man who does this still has that archaic mentality that women are beneath men.

Which marital law even states that a woman has to wash her husband's clothes? In these days where many women cater for their kids in between full-time jobs

Yes, there are some primary matrimonial duties a woman is expected to perform but washing her hubby's clothes under duress is not one of them.

Two things:
1. Every man should buy a washing machine before he gets married. They are very affordable.

2. If you show your woman love and respect, she'll be willing to do just anything for you. Love does not dictate, it flows.


What you should do:

1. Wait for him until he returns so you can politely talk about your dos and don'ts and try and set boundaries.

2. Leave the house and return to your base if he refuses to see reason.

I know some people will advise you to apologize and wash the clothes to prove that you are a wife material so that he will marry you.

I also know that this sounds unafrican but trust me. 'It is better to stay single and happy until the right man comes than to marry the wrong person and be perpetually miserable.'

Hehehe like Wetin my new date asked me.
told her to help me clean d plasma and the home theater before she go.......and she asked why would she do that?? and that we don married??
Na so I ask her? Wetin come be ur input for d relationship ?? I just transferred 20k to ur account because u needed help* why can't u help with just cleaning?? to summary it all.... I go soon break up with her probably next week . I nor de for That kind Mumu relationship. sex is cheap if that's all u can offer...lol