My marriage is a year and some months old, i'm 24, my husband will be 30 in a few months time,right now intimacy is still wonderful after a child but i can't help but wonder if it will remain that way or get boring with time. Married folks pls share your thoughts esp those who've bn togeda a while.I'm sure i'm not alone in my uncertainty.

hmm . . . it depends on you and your husband i think

It depends on what??How long have u been married Candy

Marriage has 2 do wit stages,i wil advice u 2 read d book named 5 love languages.it wil help alot.

Experienced married couples this is where u step in. thanks y'all that've contributed but no one has answered my question yet.

ofcourse it cant be like the gud ol' days cos as time goes by, u'll have too much on your mind and in most cases wont pay so much attention to the act. (my personal experience)

Beavyvan:

ofcourse it cant be like the gud ol' days cos as time goes by, u'll have too much on your mind and in most cases wont pay so much attention to the act. (my personal experience)

not paying much attention is where wahala will start oh!

^^^^^ up there!!!! is true up to an extent, you both need to make out time and pay attention to details, the acts and all that ish

It may always be good but not as frequent because many things will begin to take your time and attention but you have to ensure that an open unadulterated line of communication is always open between you and your hubby so that WHEN you begin to fell neglect it will be easy to talk about it.

as you begin to have more children, you will discover that there will be more cares and anxieties and this could affect intimacy. but then, like nikinash said, keep an open unadulterated line of communication between you and your hubby.
communication is really important. it is not all about sex

Thanks guys, but how about the size of a woman's vagina? Does it sag with time & no of kids? [color=#990000][/color]

Get married to a hot stud and remain a hot goddess yourself.

michelin89:

Get married to a hot stud and remain a hot goddess yourself.

ok oh. more comments pls.

ur intimacy will be and remain the way you want it to be. communication, spending time together, care, romance will keep you going in making it better and alright. try relaxing before sex and put ur mind there not worries around the home.

Mimicole:

My marriage is a year and some months old, i'm 24, my husband will be 30 in a few months time,right now intimacy is still wonderful after a child but i can't help but wonder if it will remain that way or get boring with time. Married folks pls share your thoughts esp those who've bn togeda a while.I'm sure i'm not alone in my uncertainty.

Will the intimacy continue being "this good"? yes it will, will you have the appetite for it all the time like you are having now? no you won't, life challenges have a way of engaging you in so much of a busy life, with kids, work and a family to take care of, i tell you intimacy sometimes will be the last thing on your mind, but in these case the couple should be ever ready to rekindle that fire when it's burning low, i will advice people to go on vacations, cos this helps alot,and I always tell women never to give up looking good cos you have kids, in as much as the urge for intimacy is not as crazy as the time of your honeymoon, you should never stop being a s:e:x appeal, cos that husband of yours married the s:e:x appeal in you amongst other things.

If a woman continues looking attractive it increases the man's sexual urge sometimes and the dude starts imagining things like  "hey whats she like without those clothes on, let me have a look" and they will be the very first people that will notice any changes in your body,hence wanting to see and feel the supposed change.

Mimicole:

Thanks guys, but how about the size of a woman's womanliness? Does it sag with time & no of kids? [color=#990000][/color]

There are women with tight womanliness's, i came in contact with one and found it difficult even inserting a speculum into her that i had to really lubricate it, some women, if they've got stitches after child birth could heal in a way that the womanliness becomes tight, even tighter than it was before childbirth, for some women nothing changes, but incase it happens , help yourself with pelvic exercises , it sure helps alot in tightening the muscles inside

But hey, no big deal about a saggy womanliness, things are bound to change sometimes in life you know

There are women with tight womanliness's, i came in contact with one and found it difficult even inserting a speculum into her that i had to really lubricate it, some women, if they've got stitches after child birth could heal in a way that the womanliness becomes tight, even tighter than it was before childbirth, for some women nothing changes, but incase it happens , help yourself with pelvic exercises , it sure helps alot in tightening the muscles inside Smiley

But hey, no big deal about a saggy womanliness, things are bound to change sometimes in life you know

The type of contraceptive measure you decide to use will also play a vital role in all this,

Demdem:

There are women with tight womanliness's, i came in contact with one and found it difficult even inserting a speculum into her that i had to really lubricate it, some women, if they've got stitches after child birth could heal in a way that the womanliness becomes tight, even tighter than it was before childbirth, for some women nothing changes, but incase it happens , help yourself with pelvic exercises , it sure helps alot in tightening the muscles inside Smiley

But hey, no big deal about a saggy womanliness, things are bound to change sometimes in life you know

I don't think it's anything s.exual; sounds like she may be a gynecologist or some other type of medical professional.

Demdem:

There are women with tight womanliness's, i came in contact with one and found it difficult even inserting a speculum into her that i had to really lubricate it, some women, if they've got stitches after child birth could heal in a way that the womanliness becomes tight, even tighter than it was before childbirth, for some women nothing changes, but incase it happens , help yourself with pelvic exercises , it sure helps alot in tightening the muscles inside Smiley

But hey, no big deal about a saggy womanliness, things are bound to change sometimes in life you know

what's wt d fAce?

Travelista:

I don't think it's anything s.exual; sounds like she may be a gynecologist or some other type of medical professional.

I agree den. Either the above or lesbo
Anytin goes.

@poster, I have been married for 3 yrs and dated my wife for at least 4, the intimacy was over the first 2yrs of dating

It is not a bad thing, just that you are on a new level of intimacy that is not as hot-blooded in your early days of marriage. my wife had similar worries after our first child and for me it helps if you still try to look good and sassy (not that it is absolutely necessary,but sometimes you just want to look at your wife and still think of the old days of blind, hot passion)

I think with newer responsibilities and maturity, you learn that relationships are more than the intimacy (intimacy is just one important component), there is God, emotional support, career planning, relationships with in-laws, rent, other married couples etc all these can be a source of concern for most women as they find out that their spouse is not as un-occupied as in the early days of marriage. It is just a phase and it will pass as soon as some of the concerns are being addressed early.

Enjoy the present and let the future take care of itself!

Nice thread with great responses.

As most people have said life's pressures may not always allow your Intimacy to be good but then there lots of things you can do to prevent it. Plus all the advices people have said, I'ld say you and your husband must also be committed to ensuring your intimacy remains good e.g ensuring your romance remains, helping one another out, making sure your children don't come between you two etc

Anyway, you can always read these books with your hubby:

- How to Make Love to the Same Person for the Rest of Your Life - And Still Love it by Dagmar O'Connor
- How to have great sex for the rest of your life by Val Sampson

All the best in your marriage!

Why is the advice usually geared towards women to keep the passion alive? Look sassy, be hot, keep the tight. Wetin? It takes two to keep passion alive. So to men, step one. . . . . , . . . . , . . . lose the belly. Step two stop roaming around like a mountain man because you had kids.

ofcourse its geared towards them, they are the only creatures on the earth that i know can make a man and break a man if they want to, 95% of the success of that marriage falls on them, they can build a home and scatter a home, they are the only ones that can directly and indirectly control a man, na today

Let the man come we will advice him on his own level, but for now, na the woman come, so we give her,her's

Demdem:

I agree den. Either the above or lesbo
Anytin goes.

I would have replied you, but your post makes no sense, it's either you are delusional or just dumb, have fun as you wallow in your stupidity

as your relationship ages you will need to find ways to keep it new and exciting. what to do depends on the two of you. what are your boundries and his but your marrage is still in the honeymoon phase and this shouldnt be an issue yet

jennykadry:

ofcourse its geared towards them, they are the only creatures on the earth that i know can make a man and break a man if they want to, 95% of the success of that marriage falls on them, they can build a home and scatter a home, they are the only ones that can directly and indirectly control a man, na today

Let the man come we will advice him on his own level, but for now, na the woman come, so we give her,her's


I would have replied you, but your post makes no sense, it's either you are delusional or just dumb, have fun as you wallow in your stupidity

As if men ever ask for advice on such issues. If at all he does it will be something like "How do i tell my wife to lose weight?"

spoilt:

As if men ever ask for advice on such issues. If at all he does it will be  something like "How do i tell my wife to lose weight?" 

jhahahahahahahahha you no well

or "my wife is the reason behind my downfall"

OP

you have gotten many good advices from many here. everything depends on you. you have the power to continue having a healthy sex life and it will stop when you decide. if you let excuses and the likes get a better hold of you, it will of course suffer

Thanks y'all, i must say i've really learnt .