Hello Fellow Nairalanders,
I have been a nairalander for years but this would be my first post. I have a very serious problem and I need your wonderful suggestions to guide me along.
I have been married for like Ten years with kids. My wife is a very good, faithful and wonderful lady. I traveled out of the country for 2 years and just came back this last December. However since then I have this rather strange problem, which has never happened prior to this period.
My wife is frigid. She really doesn't like sex. I hate that aspect of her. I have a high sex drive while she has little to zero sex drive. This has of course brought all sorts quarrel over the years. I have since learnt to manage her that way and bear that as my cross, since that is her only weak point. But its not easy.
I made love to my wife the first day I came back. It was all good. But subsequent attempts to make love to her, my penis simply refuses to stand erect. Try everything in the book still it will not stand. It's like the penis is scared of my wife, because even a thought of her makes an erect penis go flat immediately. If I strive to put it in with lots and lots of efforts, hoping it will thicken inside, it will stay for 35 seconds, less than a minute and ejaculate.
I have had to go for tests and it shows no sickness nor venereal disease. But I have gone for an intensive treatment for all kinds of powerful venereal disease, known and unknown for 3 weeks just to leave nothing to chance. After that, the penis started getting up again.
I made love to my wife very powerfully again after the treatment. I lasted for 45 minutes or there about for a round which is my usual style. I was happy that everything is back to normal. However 2 days later we tried to make love again, the penis starts being shy of my wife again. It has been several days since then we have kept on trying, no headway at all. Am confused. The penis simply refuses to stand erect - Jeez this is scary ...
I want to take my wife for a test of her own though she has no symptoms of any illness as I also didn't have prior to all these.
However I want to know:
Is there any venereal disease that is strong enough to paralyze a penis just one day after enjoying it?
Could this be as a result of some other reason or factor which I don't know nor understand?
Note: My wife is a very faithful one and I trust her. However I just want to explore every possibility.
Also note that prior to this I could go for 3 to 5 rounds in a single night, with each round lasting for 45 minutes or there about. Am 41 if you care to know. (Well with my wife its always 1 round of like 1 hour duration)
I love good sex and this is frustrating the hell out of me. Please every kind of advice would be considered, even the weird ones lol

Bros, go talk to your doctor, Or better still your popsi.
NL is not the place for dis kin talk.

FTC for the first time

Lemme go and ask Buhari

Brb

You stated you were away for two years, who did you bleep while away for that long since your sex drive is high? Secondly, you stated you could go for 3-5 rounds a single night whereas with your wife, it's 1 round 1night. I still reiterate the question asked, who were you having 3-5 rounds a night with prior to this problem?

kimbraa:
You stated you were away for two years, who did you bleep while away for that long since your sex drive is high? Secondly, you stated you could go for 3-5 rounds a single night whereas with your wife, it's 1 round 1night. I still reiterate the question asked, who were you having 3-5 rounds a night with prior this problem?

maybe it used to be when he was living a single life before he knew his wife

dingbang:
maybe it used to be when he was living a single life before he knew his wife

Those questions beg for answers from him. We don't need "Maybe" 'cause he even insisted his wife is faithful, has he been faithful all the while too?

DonteMec:

Also note that prior to this I could go for 3 to 5 rounds in a single night, with each round lasting for 45 minutes or there about.

So if you go 5 rounds for 45 minutes each you will have spent 225 minutes (3hrs 45 minutes) on sex. Your thing sef don dey fear you.

Thorpido, eyinjuege, your medical expertise is needed here.

Oyb, your philosophical joie de vivre on all matters nacking will be highly appreciated in this very sensitive issue

DonteMec:

Also note that prior to this I could go for 3 to 5 rounds in a single night, with each round lasting for 45 minutes or there about. Am 41 if you care to know. (Well with my wife its always 1 round of like 1 hour duration)

Oga, are you drilling for oil? No wonder the woman is frigid. You have nacked the enjoyment out of her spirit.

Kindly go to hospital so that your enemy will not turn to a limp noodle at the tender age of 41.

5 rounds, 45 minutes sex per round, haba Bros.


The ancestors of your wife are the one behind your predicament, do you want to kill their daughter? If you continue with your wife with that rate you will _fuck her to her grave.




Shukusheka

it could be stress related. try doing some exercise & workout in the gym.

Nothing is wrong with you man!
your p went on voluntary retirement cos of overusage
how can a frigid woman Let you hump on her for close to 3 hrs.
you took the juice and oil out of her life and now want blood,Bros fear God biko...

Go see a doc btw,Nl is not a hospital

kimbraa:
You stated you were away for two years, who did you bleep while away for that long since your sex drive is high? Secondly, you stated you could go for 3-5 rounds a single night whereas with your wife, it's 1 round 1night. I still reiterate the question asked, who were you having 3-5 rounds a night with prior this problem?

Bros I have a concubine outside the country. That is what has kept me in this marriage. Else my wife's low sex drive would have pushed me out of the marriage. It's with the concubine/ girlfriend that I do the drilling or hard work with. With my wife I take it easy as I know her capacity. Problem is that for 2 years and 72 hours prior to my coming back I performed optimally with the said concubine. Then back to my wife, after the first day, all of a sudden my JohnThomas does NOT stand up again. I need a real suggestion as to what could cause that ...

LadySarah:
Nothing is wrong with you man!
your p went on voluntary retirement cos of overusage
how can a frigid woman Let you hump on her for close to 3 hrs.
you took the juice and oil out of her life and now want blood,Bros fear God biko...

Go see a doc btw,Nl is not a hospital

Sis, I have already seen a Doctor and ran several tests already. Nothing was found wrong with me. Yet I still took a regime of 3 weeks total treatment/ cleansing. And after that the Manhood stood up and worked wonders on my wife again for one day. But just after that the manhood got paralyzed again. Am thinking that there is something inside my wife that is killing my manhood (if there is anything like that), but I don't know what ... Does anyone has any suggestion for me?

all i have to say is, YOU ARE A GERMAN MACHINE.

We Yoruba Muslims believe that when such diseases occur, your wife is definitely having an affair with several men. This is why i love Islam. All you need to do is to threaten to kill her and watch her confess how she has been sleeping with your neighbors

So you mean ur preeeek is now shy?

Is

I am a microbiologist with experience both industrial and medical microbiology.

When you subject yourself to too much of masturbation you tend to use your vigorous hand to to forcefully kill of the strength of the joystick.

The joystick of only meanth to be used on the female private part which has a natural grease to hold the joystick.

So when you contract joystick disease it is practically known as masturbyjoystick.

Please note that this name is from my research.

Spiritual veneral disease. The gods have struck

Ok

DonteMec:


Bros I have a concubine outside the country. That is what has kept me in this marriage. Else my wife's low sex drive would have pushed me out of the marriage. It's with the concubine/ girlfriend that I do the drilling or hard work with. With my wife I take it easy as I know her capacity. Problem is that for 2 years and 72 hours prior to my coming back I performed optimally with the said concubine. Then back to my wife, after the first day, all of a sudden my JohnThomas does NOT stand up again. I need a real suggestion as to what could cause that ...

They will finish you with this concubine comment. They'll soon be here

Ishilove:

Oga, are you drilling for oil? No wonder the woman is frigid. You have nacked the enjoyment out of her spirit.

Kindly go to hospital so that your enemy will not turn to a limp noodle at the tender age of 41.

You need herbal treatment.

It's probably a psychological problem.Change your eating habit,try to do more work out,do some body massage and moreso try to watch some sex film.

DonteMec:


Bros I have a concubine outside the country. That is what has kept me in this marriage. Else my wife's low sex drive would have pushed me out of the marriage. It's with the concubine/ girlfriend that I do the drilling or hard work with. With my wife I take it easy as I know her capacity. Problem is that for 2 years and 72 hours prior to my coming back I performed optimally with the said concubine. Then back to my wife, after the first day, all of a sudden my JohnThomas does NOT stand up again. I need a real suggestion as to what could cause that ...

It's a mental thing.

Test it somewhere else to know where ur problem lies. Just testing ooo then come back to ur lovely wife.

DonteMec:


Bros I have a concubine outside the country. That is what has kept me in this marriage. Else my wife's low sex drive would have pushed me out of the marriage. It's with the concubine/ girlfriend that I do the drilling or hard work with. With my wife I take it easy as I know her capacity. Problem is that for 2 years and 72 hours prior to my coming back I performed optimally with the said concubine. Then back to my wife, after the first day, all of a sudden my JohnThomas does NOT stand up again. I need a real suggestion as to what could cause that ...

This one na spiritual problem

DonteMec:


Sis, I have already seen a Doctor and ran several tests already. Nothing was found wrong with me. Yet I still took a regime of 3 weeks total treatment/ cleansing. And after that the Manhood stood up and worked wonders on my wife again for one day. But just after that the manhood got paralyzed again. Am thinking that there is something inside my wife that is killing my manhood (if there is anything like that), but I don't know what ... Does anyone has any suggestion for me?

Nothing is wrong with you bro
Just your mind playing tricks

I believe you didn't actually court your wife
That's very bad

Drop it mail

Treat yourself psychologically - that's the only problem I can see here

Opa Eyin