Most persons find it difficult to let go of their ex, irrespective of the circumstances that led to the break up in the first place. If you are always thinking about the lovely moments you shared with your ex, then chances are your heart is yearning for a reconciliation. However, before thinking of getting back with your ex, you need to ponder over it seriously and even seek counselling if need be, to avoid a repeat of the past occurrence that led to your separation.

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If you honestly believe, with all your heart, that getting back together with your ex is a perfectly healthy and rational thing to do, then follow the steps below to get back into your ex’s loving arms.

Start off with an apology – Even if the breakup was caused by your ex, there’s still a chance that you let go of words that you wish you could take back. It’s always a good idea to apologize for the things you may have said and done that contributed to the end of your relationship. In apologizing, try to do it in person and be as honest as possible. The fact that your ex appears interested in talking to you may be a sign that there’s a likelihood that they will accept your apology and work things out. Apology of this sort is most appropriate if the breakup is recent.
If the breakup isn’t recent, send your ex a text or a private message – If the breakup isn’t recent, then it may not be right to just call or show up at your ex’s place. It may be too forward and confrontational, it may cause your ex to shut you down or even mortify you. It’s better to send a message, just to give your ex some time to ponder on whether to reply or not. If your ex replies politely enough, then you can proceed to the meeting stage, if not, then your ex might be suspicious of your message. Try to send another message at another time, and keep your fingers crossed that you’ll get a response.
Ask your ex out for a date over the phone – You can proceed to ask your date out on a date after you’ve passed the stage of messaging each other on a more or less regular basis. Give your ex a call. It’s up to you if you want your ex to hear just how smitten you still are with hearing their voice. After the opening chat, ask your ex to hang out with you, even if it’s just as friends. It may sound untrue to immediately confess to your ex that you are still attracted to them. So take it slowly and ensure you keep the date as casual as possible. Avoid any romantic settings, preferably take them to a restaurant or coffee shop and it should be during the daytime.
Reconnect with your ex’s friends – It may also be a good idea to get back in touch with your ex’s friends and family once you’re back to hanging out with each other. Don’t act like your breakup never occurred. Instead, act like someone who has been away for a while, but would just like to catch up. Keep your cool, and don’t act all grasping. One of the key ways you can try to get back with your ex is by getting to their friends. Your ex may be persuaded by a friend who appears to think that you’ve turned a new leaf and subsequently encourage your ex to accept you back.
Reminisce about the good times – When you’re on your third date, or maybe even on your first, if you want to take it fast, you may say a thing or two about the good times both of you shared before the breakup. Their response would actually give you a clue as to whether you still stand a chance of getting them back. If they recall the good old days, they might still see you as someone they can fall back in love with. Conversely, if your ex seems to see your relationship as a waste of time, then you need to work on convincing your ex that it won’t be like that if given another chance.
Show your ex how much you’ve changed – You can try to prove to your ex that you are really a changed person by emphasizing some of the things you’ve changed for the better. If you’re still the same person whom your ex decided to leave, then asking them to take you back is senseless. For instance, you may show signs that you’re now more sensitive to their feelings by showing understanding. You may tell your ex that you’ve decided to join a program for controlling bad habits like taking excessive alcohol, smoking, gambling or anger issues.
Try to entice your ex again – After showing your ex that you are a totally changed person, you also have to show that the parts your ex likes are still there. Look back at how you were able to catch your ex’s attention and use this to attract them a second time. You may have met during a music event, and you can go to another one to recreate the memories. Your ex may have fallen for your great taste in movies and literature, and you can entertain them with stories of what you’ve seen and read.
Highlight why you want to get back together – After all the romantic hints and dates, you may have to point it out to your ex why you’re trying to get them back. It’s clear that you’re not just after a tumble in bed, but you have to make it clear that your intentions include getting back together. This is eventually all up to you and your own personal reasons. However, one of the most effective things you might say is the fact that life just isn’t the same without their presence. You can explain how different it was after the split and how much better it could be, if you were to reunite.
The actual commitment – Most relationships pack up commitment issues. Your ex may have left because they didn’t think you had plans to marry them in future. You can change their mind by actually proposing marriage. And yes, even women can do this, but it takes a woman with a lot of guts to pull this off. However before you start planning a huge proposal, you have to consider the chances that your ex may or may not quite accept it. Don’t use your proposal to pressure your ex, as this may just lead to you getting let down.
Source: http://www.healthdiary365.com/2018/02/24/9-steps-on-how-to-get-your-ex-to-love-you-again/

My ex is my ex
We don't have any business being together again

Nigerian love is fake. It's a well packaged arrangement of lust & financial corruption.

So save dis "love" crap. No one loves anybody.

1. Dude wants b!tch for sex.. He says he loves.

2. B!tch wants dude for cash.. She says she loves.

Please.. Ex an ex. Move to the next person.

hmm, she is my ex 4 a reason na

Mtcheww