I am married for 3 years to a lady who i am 10 years older than.

We got married because she became pregnant and i did not want her to remove the pregnancy, even when i had a serious relationship then . I am a christain while she is a Muslim. I have never even forced her to change her religion because i do not want issues in my marriage even though i do not approve of it. and she has said many times she cannot change her religion ever ..Now we have a son.after she gave birth ,i decided to further her education to the higher institution because she has issues with the university she was before because i did wanted a graduate to be my wife

Over the time, she has become very difficult in her attitude towards me. I dont have a job but i do business ,I work very hard just to make her comfortable,I even deprive my self of comfortable things and life just so that she can pull through school without stress, we do not stay together because she schools in another state. she only comes during holidays.

Over time she started exhibiting malicious attitude, and very uneasy quite attitude when she is angry and when she is angry ,u cant hardly know . I Also noticed she knows how to keep things in her mind and you need to be very vigilant for you to know whats goes around in her mind. She is very stubborn but this has increased over time

I feel there are things people should not do despite your age or location when you are married. When we are not together..when i talk to her through the phone over her attitude concerning some issues, she always put up this defensive attitude ,she is rude, and shows quiet disrespect and she claims a man and woman are on the same level. she one day told me if i want respect..i should go and marry my age mate, she is quiet and hardly talks,but when she talks .her words are like bomb.

i have talked to her so many times when she is around..and her response to my long sermons are OKAY.

and she walks away....but when she is in school and i talk to her through phone or chats...she is very defensive in her words.


For few months now ,she takes pictures of her and her male class mates with funny postures, and post them on facebook, or whatapp status, i have complained about this even my family and friends do call me and ask me that if we are still together because of the inappropriate pictures she posts on facebook. i called her to notice and she says the male classmates her just her friends. i told her to take it off Facebook,she says i am controlling her. and she sounded rude.. i have complained many times to her family about her attitude, when her parents talk to her,,,she apologizes and after 1 week, she returned back to her attitude.

One day when we got into an argument and she walked out on me,,,and i called her and told her if she realises i am d one training her in school and she is my wife and i can tell her not to go back to that school..then next things she said was (I HAVE HEARD MR PAYER )

Few days ago. i messaged her on my watapp because it has been a while i was online on whatapp.. i sent the words HELLO HONEY..and her response was WHO IS THIS.

I Ignored.. later i told her brother who lives with me that i am surprised ur sister does not have my number on her phone, he also replied defensive, In the evening, i stumbled on her brother phone and quickly checked his Facebook chat and there i saw he was asking her why she does not have my number on her phone, Her response was "MAKE JEFF PARK WELL, WHEN HE DEY DO IMM OWN ..HE DOES NOT KNOW".. This made me realize that all her attitude to me has been deliberate.

i am so hurt and has caused me so many sleepless night.. because this is someone i take care of like my own blood and love..
i do not know what to do.
i need advise.

Start a similar attitude, if she doesn't feel hurt, then know that something is wrong somewhere in her school.

Bite you of course

Sit her down and ask her why her attitude has changed, maybe she's hurt over what you did to her cos you guys are cheats... Who knows, she might be paying you in your own coin and your here crying like a baby. Check yourself Mr man.

mehn this is strong, its so strong that I dnt know what advice to give..

If am in ur shoes? I will gently remove d shoe and give it back to you.


On the other hand my guy, just find time to take her out to a quiet cool place and gently, lovingly, peacefully infact maturely discuss ur worries with her and then tell her about some of dis issues.
IMO, every stony heart can be conquered if only u came tame dat heart and make dat heart love u. Come to think of it, did she ever love u b4 d pregnancy?

99foxxy:
Sit her down and ask her why her attitude has changed, maybe she's hurt over what you did to her cos you guys are cheats... Who knows, she might be paying you in your own coin and your here crying like a baby. Check yourself Mr man.

"u guys are cheat", if I say u are harsh now, u will start complaining.

I will move away from your shoe

99foxxy:
Sit her down and ask her why her attitude has changed, maybe she's hurt over what you did to her cos you guys are cheats... Who knows, she might be paying you in your own coin and your here crying like a baby. Check yourself Mr man.
"u guys are cheat", if I say u are harsh now, u will start complaining.
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i dont cheat,

i have talked to her so many times when she is around..and her response to my long sermons are OKAY.

and she walks away....but when she is in school and i talk to her through phone or chats...she is very defensive in her words.

What i think:
1. Your marriage was accidental, hence, you could not study each other.
2. You can't solve a problem with your wife when two of you are far from each other.

3.i suspect your wife is been bang by her so called male friends

4. Call a family meeting.

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What are you waiting for

Divorce her immediately

You will not be the first and the last to do that

Even Dangote divorce his wife.


But incase you are a strong Christian wait God will change her.

dump the cheat Jor,all this weaklings always asking for advice,better man up, I can bet she getting banged by that guy. I encountered this type of women during my school days. your wife knows you're a sissy and you love her very much hence the attitude.

this ain't marraige man, this is something else.


if i were in your shoes, which i pray not to ever be I'd threaten to divorce her sharp sharp and if it doesn't make her change then i will divorce her.

i have said my mind countless times, the slightest headache...and i mean, the very slightest headache from my wife, and i will just walk away.
no time for divorce sef, i will just pack my things and flee.
cos i hate being stressed.