LordKO:
Balderdash. I guess you only hold brief for small-minded people not aristocrats.

A virtuous woman who marries an aristocrat can never experience such.

Amarabae:
If a girl dreams of marrying a rich guy,
Should that be criticized?
Anybody can dream including me and you.
So let's reduce hands in shaming people on their dreams.

superhumanist:



You are wrong.

Virtue or virtuousness will not buy you class.

When I say "class", I mean the life-experience that a privileged life gives

LordKO:


Lol. Obviously you aren't writing based on experience For one, by virtue of being virtuous, A woman in this class automatically possess the attributes that'll endear her to her aristocratic companion and his family/relations/associates.

By the way, a true aristocrat doesn't live life to impress others, but he's always conscientious. Superficiality isn't part of aristocracy.

superhumanist:



You have been reading too many pompous fairy-tales. You have never experienced the "aristocracy" you are talking about. I say this because all wealthy and successful people understand that appearance and showmanship are sometimes even more important than reality.

Virtue will not give you the knowledge to understand rich people's jokes. When people who have travelled around the world are talking, will virtue give you any clue to contribute to the discussion when you have not even left the shores of Nigeria?

Amarabae:
If a girl dreams of marrying a rich guy,
Should that be criticized?
Anybody can dream including me and you.
So let's reduce hands in shaming people on their dreams.

superhumanist:




PLEASE, NOTE THAT THIS THREAD IS NOT TO SAY THAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT DATE RICH GUYS. THE ADVICE HERE IS THAT WOMEN SHOULD TRY TO BE INDEPENDENT WHEN DATING A RICH GUY TO EARN RESPECT. THEY SHOULD ALSO BRUSH UP ON THEMSELVES SO AS TO BE ABLE TO COPE WITH THE CLASS DIFFERENCE WHATEVER GAP IT MAY BE.

LordKO:


Small-minded people like you and your ilks and sarcasm are inseparable - to your type, by virtue of being on the same place with someone automatically makes you his equal. Lol. Yes, I'm an egalitarian, yet, egalitarianism doesn't mean absence of segregation.

Well, this discussion isn't about my person and the stratum I belong to. . . You don't know me from Adam. Peace out.

Fadiga24:
Broke and hungry nairaland leeches won't hear you.

superhumanist:
I have seen many threads and counter-threads here about women dating rich guys. These threads are not realistic and sensible as they are not written by either rich people themselves or people who have had experiences with "rich people romance". That being said, I want to give a proper write-up on this issue of women dating rich men and its drawbacks.

Many people are blinded by money and think that once you marry into it, you will be happy and set for life. This is not true, especially for women from humble backgrounds. My points on this issue are as follows;


1) Class discrimination from the rich guy's family and friends
Rich people have rich friends and this is a painful lesson that my cousin learnt when she dated a senator's son. When they have parties or meet-ups, she could not contribute when her boyfriend and his friends were gisting about the difference between life in Europe and the USA. She did not know that calamari was "italian/greek" for squid when they ordered it for everyone to eat at a seafood restaurant.

If you are razz or very local, it is a natural thing for rich people to sideline or mock you when you lack class. For instance, I know an elderly mother who got angry that her son's fiance could not use fork and knife to eat at their dinning table. The mother told her to go and learn how to eat properly before eating again with her son at her house.


2) Money will be used against you when the guy is angry
This one is very common in Nigeria and we should know it. If you are dependent on your boyfriend or husband for money, he will punish you the day you ask him for money when he is angry with you. You will hear things like=
"Am I a bank or ATM??", "Money, Money, Money, that is all you know", "Go and ask your father for money" etc.


3) You are the cause if he ever becomes broke
Untold number of women have been accused of being the reason for the demise of their husbands/boyfriends when the men fall from grace to grass. Even if you are innocent, the village people will ask, "why did you not tell him to invest the money well?" . In fact, the village people (haters) will start counting all the Gucci bags and ankara you bought while being his partner.


4) You will fight other ladies to keep him, even if he a dedicated/honest partner
Women are attracted to successful, rich men. That is a fact. Your rich boyfriend/husband will have girls chasing him whether he likes it or not. This is inevitable. This becomes worse if he is also handsome. It becomes worst if he travels a lot because temptation is stronger when there is distance between the couples. Promiscuous ladies will be bold when they know the wife is in another state or country.





PLEASE, NOTE THAT THIS THREAD IS NOT TO SAY THAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT DATE RICH GUYS. THE ADVICE HERE IS THAT WOMEN SHOULD TRY TO BE INDEPENDENT WHEN DATING A RICH GUY TO EARN RESPECT. THEY SHOULD ALSO BRUSH UP ON THEMSELVES SO AS TO BE ABLE TO COPE WITH THE CLASS DIFFERENCE WHATEVER GAP IT MAY BE.

Fadiga24:


You should dream of becoming somebody so that your partner benefits from you, relationship is a two way street.

shaybebaby:

Nice write up however you ruined it slightly buy advising women to brush them selves up and excluded men.

Self improvement is something everyone should aim for. I like my merlot and malbec, so yes a man could brush up to know the difference between the two.

LesbianBoy:
Are you guys not tired of threads like this?

superhumanist:



Madam, you are right. Everyone should aim for self improvement.


That being said, I couldn't give a shite about wine. I only care for vodka. That's the spirit.

Amarabae:
If a girl dreams of marrying a rich guy, Should that be criticized? Anybody can dream including me and you. So let's reduce hands in shaming people on their dreams.

Rubbiish:

Do u even have sense at all in your big head?
Must a girl dream of becoming a parasite??
Na wa for una o

Amarabae:
If a girl dreams of marrying a rich guy,
Should that be criticized?
Anybody can dream including me and you.
So let's reduce hands in shaming people on their dreams.

THIS IS MENTAL LAZINESS, TYPICAL AFRICAN WOMAN'S DOCTRINE.

DON'T DREAM OF MARRYING A RICH MAN AND BEING HIS DOG, BECOME A RICH WOMAN YOURSELF AND OWN THAT. WHY CAN'T YOU DREAM THAT?

swiz123:
The fact here is that this op is a very poor dude

LordKO:
Balderdash. I guess you only hold brief for small-minded people not aristocrats.

A virtuous woman who dates/marries an aristocrat can never experience such.

LordKO:
Balderdash. I guess you only hold brief for small-minded people not aristocrats.

A virtuous woman who dates/marries an aristocrat can never experience such.