Wait.. what the hell am I doing here sef? Anyway...

OP, You must be a novice when it comes to ladies. You fvcked her once and she stopped picking up ur calls despite the fact that you're one making the calls. This is NO test. This is NO brainer. You wanna hear the bitter truth.. from a guy that's fvcked +250 women or even lost count?

Forget all that nonsense everyone on here is saying. Don't read too much meaning into it other than the below...

You simply didn't meet her expectation.

She didn't get the sexual satisfaction she needed,

Her ex did a better job than you... she probably needs something that matches her ex or better.

OP, my advice... Save whatever that's left of ur pride... just leave her alone, dust ur shoes.. and move on to the next chic..

Thank me later...

femi4:
Its because you people are always confuse not knowing what you want

cos someone is confuse atm,then you decide contribute destruction in that person's life?

Kingzaha:
The Same Week We Met, I Showed Her My Interest In Dating Her, She Opened Up Her Mind N Made Me To Know That She Is Presently Going Tru A Heartbreak. After Much Convincing N Showing Sign Of Seriousness N Care, She Gave Me A Chance In Her Life..
We Had Our First Sex D Same Week We Met And Thats The Same Week She Said She Finally Broke Up Wit Her Boyfriend.. She Only Allowed Me Just One Round Of Sex, She Started Crying Wit Lots Of Tears In Her Eyes. I Asked Her Why Bt She Said The Sex We Had Is Nt The Reason Bt She Dont Want The Relationship Again. She Said If She Doesnt Love Me, She Would Nt Allow The Sex, She Said She Appreciates My Care Bt She Is Nt Just Interested Again And Since Then , She Has Been Avoiding Me From Coming To Her House Where Lives Alone In A Self Contain As A Student. Pls What Could Be The Reason For This ?

Her actions could be from a myriad of reasons like:


a) You said something or did something that turned her off.

b) Something else happened in her life that made her less interested in finding a date. She could abruptly end all flirtations with you once she realized she wasn't over her ex and she feels it is not fair to lead anyone else on anymore.

c) You were over-eager. Girls want someone who is interested in them, not desperate for their attention.

d) You were self-involved. Someone who talks about themselves too much is not a good boyfriend. You may have thought you were opening up to her and sharing about yourself, but what she saw was someone who wasn't interested in her.

e) You said something rude about other people. You may have thought this was funny. She thought it was heartless. Possible taboo topics: ethnicity (e.g like the Igbo-Yoruba war in nairaland), weight, religion, family structure, politics. Try not to make strong comments about any of these issues, especially in earlier stages of a relationship.

f) You were boring.

g) You didn't have enough confidence. You thought you were being humble and complimentary by telling her all the things she wants to hear. She figured out all the reasons she shouldn't be dating you.

OP...

Just on the other note... from a dude that uses his d!ck to control ladies thought process.

Rule #3 on the 'Man-Law' school of thoughts..

*** Never let a lady take charge during sex.***

Most guys don't seem to understand this line. They mostly think it's all about masculinity or machismo during love-making. A lady takes charge when her actions / sensual moves during sex dictates the path / trajectory of the sex session. Mental stimulation!

You should be the one to set the tone and dictate the rythm of the session. This shows sexual alpha-ism from a mental and psychology perspective.

NEVER, I repeat NEVER call her immediately afterwards (other than to check if she made it home safe). Let her get mad, angry and jealous... then, youre already getting her wrappped up in your cobweb.

Thank me later!

I wonder how these girls manipulate stupid boiz using sex as a tool.

Yoruba4Life:
Wait.. what the hell am I doing here sef? Anyway...

OP, You must be a novice when it comes to ladies. You fvcked her once and she stopped picking up ur calls despite the fact that you're one making the calls. This is NO test. This is NO brainer. You wanna hear the bitter truth.. from a guy that's fvcked +250 women or even lost count?

Forget all that nonsense everyone on here is saying. Don't read too much meaning into it other than the below...

You simply didn't meet her expectation.

She didn't get the sexual satisfaction she needed,

Her ex did a better job than you... she probably needs something that matches her ex or better.

OP, my advice... Save whatever that's left of ur pride... just leave her alone, dust ur shoes.. and move on to the next chic..

Thank me later...

hmm OK Oooooo , what makes u think I did not meet up with her sexual expectations

UDUJ:


Her actions could be from a myriad of reasons like:


a) You said something or did something that turned her off.

b) Something else happened in her life that made her less interested in finding a date. She could abruptly end all flirtations with you once she realized she wasn't over her ex and she feels it is not fair to lead anyone else on anymore.

c) You were over-eager. Girls want someone who is interested in them, not desperate for their attention.

d) You were self-involved. Someone who talks about themselves too much is not a good boyfriend. You may have thought you were opening up to her and sharing about yourself, but what she saw was someone who wasn't interested in her.

e) You said something rude about other people. You may have thought this was funny. She thought it was heartless. Possible taboo topics: ethnicity (e.g like the Igbo-Yoruba war in nairaland), weight, religion, family structure, politics. Try not to make strong comments about any of these issues, especially in earlier stages of a relationship.

f) You were boring.

g) You didn't have enough confidence. You thought you were being humble and complimentary by telling her all the things she wants to hear. She figured out all the reasons she shouldn't be dating you.

I agree with your option B because she made me to know that she broke up with her ex that same week and it's a relationship of up to 2yrs that she never thought could end so soon

Baruwaaaaa:
are you based in lagos? we may have something in common here, is she a nursing student(luth precisely)

@kingzaha u did not reply to my message oo

highqueen:

cos someone is confuse atm,then you decide contribute destruction in that person's life?

who told u I want to contribute destruction in her life.. So because a guy gutted her means every guy would do the same?? Maybe that's what u really going try..

Baruwaaaaa:
are you based in lagos? we may have something in common here, is she a nursing student(luth precisely)

No bro she is not a nursing student or in Luth.. Besides is this Eddy baruwa

Tajbol4splend:
I think she needs to get over the break up with her ex, she needs time to heal the fresh wound, she needs time alone, but I think she may appreciate once in two weeks visit, at least for now

something like that.. You are right

highqueen:
allow the girl to think abeg,this is how you people will jump into someone's life only for you guys to mesmerize with it all over again,stupid lots.

If I never loved her or if I only wanted her for the sex, I wouldn't bother about her anymore since I already had the sex with her but I like her not based on sex.. stop using the word STUPID LOTS.. it's not every guy that jumps into a girls life to mesmerize and complicate it.. It shows the calibre of guys u have been dating @highqueen , you need to date men with purpose in life

Lolzz u r the side niggr.. Next chance u get start fvcking like u only there to kill the punna & watch what happens.... Thank me later
Pls dont get emotional.. She wont be able to deal.. Just be her living Love Machine & try to be fvcking good at it!

Cursedigbo:


All you stated won’t make a girl cut off a relationship so fast immediately after sex. It might add to it but can never be the main reason. They already existed so it’s a reason never to date the guy or was already over looked. I insist the may be a class below her ex status or the sex wasn’t as good as that of the ex. No other reason will make a girl regret sex actions. It’s simply about not being able to boast about the new to the ex. She of course will deny it but it is what it is.

Quite true. The op could just have been a rebound sex guy at a point she was feeling depressed and lonely, most rebound sex follow this part.

Like you said, she probably came to the realization of the class issue or poor sex issue after the act and decided to cut off. Good one

This your moniker name sha

Kingzaha:
Hmm Ok Ooo.. So Are U Sayin She Doest Lik Me ? If She Doesnt Like Me In D First Instance, She Would Nt Allow The Sex.. Thats Why I Said I Want To Know Why She Said She Doesnt Want The Relationship Again because If We Re In The Relationshp , Its Stil My Responsibility To Quench Her Sexual Urge.

Sex and love, two separate thing... you can be having sex to someone you don't love... she's obviously not into you... stop forcing yourself on her... let her be.

Also, from your narration, one can easily deduce that you guys have not really started any relationship.

Cursedigbo:


All you stated won’t make a girl cut off a relationship so fast immediately after sex. It might add to it but can never be the main reason. They already existed so it’s a reason never to date the guy or was already over looked. I insist he may be a class below her ex status or the sex wasn’t as good as that of the ex. No other reason will make a girl regret sex actions. It’s simply about not being able to boast about the new to the ex. She of course will deny it but it is what it is.

I feel u bro

Cursedigbo:


A lot more girls will have sex with you if you know how to play your cards good. They on the other hand will not marry you with their reasons ranging from how wealthy you are, social class, how good the sex is n how presentable / handsome you are.

Do not stress yourself over them just be glad you had your share of the puma n move on at their slightest attempt to give reason to end the affair. If any girl want to stay with you even if you kill both her parents she will, c’est fini.

U are on point brov

She just broke up with her ex and needs sometime to get back to normal. That sex she had with you might just be what she thought she needed to heal but it made her felt even more bad. Sometimes when people break up, they need time, I mean enough time before starting again. And even when they Start again, the slightest thing might just make them feel you are taking advantage of them. She's not fully recovered and I tell you she can't keep a relationship till her head is clear. Just give her sometime. You can even advise her not to rush it. Let her take her time. You can be her friend for now not necessarily a lover.it will take time for her to dish out her love to someone else.

Manweysabi:


Sex and love, two separate thing... you can be having sex to someone you don't love... she's obviously not into you... stop forcing yourself on her... let her be.

Also, from your narration, one can easily deduce that you guys have not really started any relationship.

Tyats the thing. People can have sex for long without feeling anything for each other. But people can love eac other for long too without have sex. Most people think that sex come with love. They are two separate things.

Kingzaha, i currently have a girl telling me the same sh*t. I think we are being played by the same lady Are u in ph?

coolh3ad:


Exactly. He shouldn't have just made the "sex" happen....

Comon mechonugi there! gbenue so!

Marshalxv:


Comon mechonugi there! gbenue so!

Was I talking to.you?......I follow you talk? . Did I even quote you?. Face your front and mind your business abeg.....

highqueen:
allow the girl to think abeg,this is how you people will jump into someone's life only for you guys to mesmerize with it all over again,stupid lots.

Sign of frustration.
I suggest you try a glass of chilled juice.

...think its a similar situation. Did it happen in Benin probably this week

candyguyofficia:
...think its a similar situation. Did it happen in Benin probably this week

No I’m not in Benin bro

Marshalxv:



Sign of frustration.
I suggest you try a glass of chilled juice.

Brov u no lie oo, highqueen is going through a heartbreak. She is always bittered in her heart..

PrettyBoyBreezy:
Kingzaha, i currently have a girl telling me the same sh*t. I think we are being played by the same lady Are u in ph?

no Bro .. I’m nt in ph

MISSCONGENIALITY:
She just broke up with her ex and needs sometime to get back to normal. That sex she had with you might just be what she thought she needed to heal but it made her felt even more bad. Sometimes when people break up, they need time, I mean enough time before starting again. And even when they Start again, the slightest thing might just make them feel you are taking advantage of them. She's not fully recovered and I tell you she can't keep a relationship till her head is clear. Just give her sometime. You can even advise her not to rush it. Let her take her time. You can be her friend for now not necessarily a lover.it will take time for her to dish out her love to someone else.

hmm u re right but could it be because of the sex maybe she did not get the pleasure she wanted ‘?

MissRaine69:

But it’s not like you did not now this was the situation before? You walked into a messy situation and yokbare the third wheel here.
Like I said she is keeping you close as the rebound guy.

where can i submit my cv for the role of a rebound guy and what are the requirements?

You were only a rebound...knight in shinny armour when she was going through a heartbreak. Her eyes have cleared now.