Good day Nairalanders.

This insightful topic, illuminates on how White lies and untold truth can help secure your marriage.

It’s arguable and untrue when people say

The marriage that is built on lies will eventually collapse.

It’s not everyone that can deal with the truth or manage it.

In marriage 70% of TRUTH and 30% of WHITE LIE, will help you protect your partner from unnecessary proactive behaviour.

As married couples telling your spouse certain things about your families, friends and colleagues can expose him/her to danger which will in turn destroy the marriage.

Majority of us are aware of the fact that women quickly react to things they hear about someone they’ve not met or barely know, and it can have a great impact on what her relationship with that person will turn out to become.
 
This thread focused on women attitudes or reactions that involves family matters,and at the same time conveying an important message to the men and not in anyway in support of deceit and dishonest to your partners but wanting you to understand how White lies which does no harm and that’s intended to produce a favourable result in your marriage.

FAMILY BASIC
First thing your girlfriend or fiancee want to know is your family members, that includes every living and non living things. She’ll ask about each and everyone, Name,Position, Marital status, Kids, Work/Profession and CHARACTERS.

The CHARACTER she inquiry about is a very delicate one which you need to be careful on things you say about them (your family).

Let’s elaborate further.

Example 1
 Wife: It seem Uncle Ajani is snobbish and arrogant.
 Husband: What happened?
 Wife: This isn’t the first time he’s snubbing me and he barely respond to my greetings.
 Husband: Oh! I forgot to tell you,you need to mind your ways around him, he’s a freak that never sees anything good in others.

Example 2.
 Wife: It seem Uncle Ajani is snobbish and arrogant.
 Husband: How do you mean?
 Wife: This isn’t the first time he’s snubbing me and he barely respond to my greetings.
Husband: Laughs!… Is that what you’re bothering yourself about? Everyone knows brother Ajani’s puts up some funny attitudes at times but that’s nothing to worry yourself about.

NB:  Truly Ajani is guilty of the allegation.
 
From the Illustrations above.
 The first example shows that the husband established the fact that his brother is indeed snobbish and arrogant, he went further to warn his wife about the way she’d relate with him.
Consciously or unconsciously he has......

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So long its spelled L.I.E.. it is sin against humanity and God himself, white or black lies, i cant deal pls..

OP i get your point tho, buh i believe in been plain, i'll tell her bluntly that uncle Ajani doesn't like her because its obvious she knows the truth even when trying to play smart with lies.

vchykp:
So long its spelled L.I.E.. it is sin against humanity and God himself, white or black lies, i cant deal pls..

OP i get your point tho, buh i believe in been plain, i'll tell her bluntly that uncle Ajani doesn't like her because its obvious she knows the truth even when trying to play smart with lies.

We commit sins every other day in one way or the other aside from telling lies, God knows we are imperfect, if he can forgive killers, armed robbers and prostitutes after they've confessed their sins and repent, He will definitely forgive you from lying to protect someone, because His the most merciful.

Kobicove:

Can we have your opinion? U can do better.

Why On Earth Would You Encourage Lying?

DeadRat:
Why On Earth Would You Encourage Lying?

Nobody is a saint here, we should stop claiming to be one. Did you judge by the title or you went through the post?

Let the experience people share their view and you'll understand it's not everything you tell your woman in order to save her and your marriage.

magnaija:


Nobody is a saint here, we should stop claiming to be one. Did you judge by the title or you went through the post?

Let the experience people share their view and you'll understand it's not everything you tell your woman in order to save her and your marriage.

I Saw Your Examples... The Truth Has Never Been Sweet And May Probably Never be

DeadRat:
I Saw Your Examples... The Truth Has Never Been Sweet And May Probably Never be

Yes. In the post I never supported deceit and dishonest. You need to comprehend the opposite of what u understood.

magnaija:


Yes. In the post I never supported deceit and dishonest. You need to comprehend the opposite of what u understood.

with Your Headline, I Find It Offensive... But From The Example You Gave, I Think You Should Say "Diplomacy" instead Of "Lies"...

Diplomacy Can Save A Marriage Not Lies

@OP

Words betrayed you. Lies can never be a good thing, therefore, will save no marriage. However, diplomacy is the ingredient required to garnish things in order to achieve harmony in marriage in particular and any other kind of relationship in general.

The difference between a lie and diplomacy is that while the former is detrimental to the recipient and at the advantage of the propagator, the latter isn't detrimental to the recipient but it surely protects the interest of the propagator.

All lies are detrimental to others but diplomacy isn't.

DeadRat:
with Your Headline, I Find It Offensive... But From The Example You Gave, I Think You Should Say "Diplomacy" instead Of "Lies"...

Diplomacy Can Save A Marriage Not Lies

If I had used Diplomacy we'll not be having this chat because you'll understand the body of the message seeing the title

Thanks for sharing your view.

You need another lie to cover your first lie.

magnaija:



We commit sins every other day in one way or the other aside from telling lies, God knows we are imperfect, if he can forgive killers, armed robbers and prostitutes after they've confessed their sins and repent, He will definitely forgive you from lying to protect someone, because His the most merciful.

In as much as God is meek in his ways, that does not give us an edge to sins, dont mock God because u think he is merciful.. i love the way my pastor put it, he called it DELIBRATE SINS.. The holy spirit dont find this kind of sin funny because he warns you before u indulge!