Chaclaitmilk:


She said she can be forcibly thrown out and her children taken from her if she is not protected by the law. She isn't doing it for money.

blank:


End of the unnecessary drama. I had a cousin who went to Church for her wedding and was still insisting they did court. I tried to explain to her but she no hear. Eventually, they went to the court and those ones said that they already had the record as the church had dropped a copy. Unnecessary drama.

nabegibeg:

your wedding needs to be validate by the law of the land ( which is the FG)

madam your sister's husband has skeleton in his cupboard


She needs to validate her wedding in line with FG guidelines or else if anything happens to the husband, heaven forbids, she will lose everything you both worked for that is in his name to his husband family.

if both of you must own property he must put it in your name or both of you must be signatory to it

Chaclaitmilk:


She said she can be forcibly thrown out and her children taken from her if she is not protected by the law. She isn't doing it for money.

openmine:

If that's her reasoning then its either she is a house wife or unemployed.... that's why its very important for a lady to get a job rather than restricting herself to her Hubby's belongings...

A wise woman once told me that "what is yours is your and no one can take it away from u"!

baby124:

Did your sister have the discussion of polygamy with him before marriage? Is she ok with polygamy? If she’s not then this is her chance to run away. Divorce after court wedding is more expensive, time consuming and tedious than divorce if traditional marriage or religious rites. If she cannot deal with or agree to a second wife then she should walk away from the sham.

Chaclaitmilk:


Personally I think he wants to keep his option of getting a second wife open. Am just guessing though since the guy is from a polygamy family.

Chaclaitmilk:


She said she can be forcibly thrown out and her children taken from her if she is not protected by the law. She isn't doing it for money.

Chaclaitmilk:


It's very funny how African men always reiterate that women should have jobs and not take money from their husbands but they will flare up if you suggest that husbands should cook and cleanup after themselves instead of depending on their wives for it.

NgwaManNaija4LF:


Who nonesense FG help, law of the land is the village law, the bitch ain't loyal and should go and hang. No court wedding.

Chaclaitmilk:


It's very funny how African men always reiterate that women should have jobs and not take money from their husbands but they will flare up if you suggest that husbands should cook and cleanup after themselves instead of depending on their wives for it.

linearity:


Am surprised that, you have your answers and are still here asking.

As to her saying ‘it is not for money’, the truth is the protection come as a package....and it is usually ‘not for money’ until it becomes ‘for money’ down the road.

If she did not do court marriage, she is still protected by customary marriage laws, but not as strong as the statutory protection that comes with court marriage or if she is given a FGN certificate during the church wedding.

Since her husband insists on not doing it, she should drop the issue, the longer she dwell on that issue, the more the husband would start thinking that, she have an ulterior motive behind the marriage all along....The purest of men will think so!

Chaclaitmilk:


She said she can be forcibly thrown out and her children taken from her if she is not protected by the law. She isn't doing it for money.

Chaclaitmilk:


I will even advice her to not pressure him into court marriage because I found out from this thread that the husband can take his wife's money if they divorce after court marriage.

I see men here angrily saying her husband should not do court wedding so she won't get his property after divorce, well the tables can be turned.

Since she has enough moola to retire permanently I will even beg her to stop asking for court marriage

In case of divorce (God forbid) she gets to keep everything she has, all the money and houses and cars to herself. No sharing properties.