PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

ADHD.

Get him to see a psychologist who will prescribe meds.

This is the first time a Nigerian is coming out with this. Hopefully others in the same predicament will learn from you.

Unfortunately, you can't diagnose a 4 year old child of ADHD, since he may be displaying a typical behaviour. ADHD Diagnosis starts from 5 years. All the same, reduce sugar intake, and reduce any thing that stimulates the child.

Lucid1:
Na wah

My neighbours son is like that, I dey fear the boy pass SARS, I have to sneak in and out of their house to avoid him. He'll jump on my head, climb on the dining table, beat his elder sister up and many more.

The hyperactivity will wear off as he grows older, be strong and endure.

Peace

What if it's a problem that requires a medical professional?

Nigerians need to stop thinking people grow out of things. Many miscreants have such problems but in this end of the world people think they will grow out of them, and in the end these children become a menace to society and cannot function properly. This is not a phase from the description given.

In addition to all sensible comments up there , stop all forms of carbonated drinks and coffee

Leave d sharp kid alone Bros..... U do more dan dat wen u were still a kid ... Leave my nigga to use his time well...

OP,

Let me add my 2 cents from personal experience because my son was like that at his age.

Is he verbal? Mine had minimal language at that age

- Please keep the smacks to the barest minimum and only as a last resort otherwise you will keep frustrating him.

- Let him go out a lot to burn his energy in outdoor activities. Those may actually wear him out for you, which is what you want.

- As most people have said, reduce sugar intake.

- I found out recently that fish oil is good for children like him. It has a soothing effect on the brain. I use the Artic Sea product from forever living for my son and we have seen noticeable progress.

All the best friend. Your son will take his world by storm. He just has a lot going on his mind and hyperactivity is his expression. He will calm down over time. My son is 7yrs now and is becoming a gentleman.

Very special kids you've got. Do well to teach them cause and effects. You must imprint in them a sense of responsibility.

Similar traits with my 20 months old son.

Some kids are like that. There is a stage kids get to called Crazy 4. your son is experiencing crazy 4, he will get better. tell whoever is beating that boy to stop it. My 4and half boy does same. very active and intelligent. your son is a very smart boy. Stop saying your son is disturbing you, he is not, learn how to accommodate his ways but with single corrections. My son is exactly like that but one good thing is that there is a cartoon character he is afraid of, Zugor in Legends of Tarzan. if I want him to sit in one place, I will tell him Zugor is coming and he wouldn't move an inch, then sits in one place and be very gentle.

PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

my brother, pls take him as he is.that shows he's healthy.he'll outgrow it as he gets older.I complained about my own son too(Kelvin) and God took him away from me last year at 5 yrs+...I learnt my lesson

Lirqur:
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

Bruvvvvv. The bible wasn't joking with this advice man. Most kids have the tendency to become like that. Every child is an intending brat. Except the one way Ilah(God) send to earth to be prophet from birth. All thanks to my maalee. I been think say dem adopt me before the way she flog me. But if you see me now, i over normally calm. Me wey dey follow my lesson teacher fight!. I gentle bruv. No go follow that line of say flogging na "Child ABuse" FUc all that English classification of ADHD. All that ish is bunkum. It's the way the devil creates funny name to hide its sinister devises. If he aint calm, increase the whip, and fi owo osi famora . And before you know Kevin go become Wali.

Salaam.

Funny, but I don't agree with launching attacks on kids at the slightest whim - Haba, that na wickedness now! Seriously, I have observed that nowadays some parents aren't ready for the rigours involved in bringing up a child. How can you allow your child go astray and then blame the child for your abysmal failure to guide him/her?

Tellemall:


ADHD.

Get him to see a psychologist who will prescribe meds.

This is the first time a Nigerian is coming out with this. Hopefully others in the same predicament will learn from you.

This is how you turn healthy children into mumus , kids playing normally,happily and joyfully about . Yet you aren't happy ,you want them to be like the way you are ,after admistering drugs on them at an early age ,you will die off and leave those kids to be suffering the pains and agonies of the actions you took on them. If a kid that is hyperactive is giving ppl headache then maybe God should give such parents slowpoke or mentally retarded children so that they will know the difference

Blaksheep:


I love you man. No Homo. I wish all u stated up here was done to me by my parents when I was little, who knows where I'll be by now. But they all prefer hitting u. OP you boy is displaying tendency of being a genius. All you have to do us nurture him to be that. Engage him in a activities that will impro've his brain. Also monitor the school he is attending. If you are complaining his teachers will be complaining to. So make sure he is not being sedated in school. Talking from experience. Buy board games and teach your son. Monopoly, chess, scramble..... etc. If God has given u a dull child u would have come here to complain of how he is sleeping all day....

Stop hitting your child. Both u and your wife.

Some of our parents and teachers were not really equipped with the right information. You can't really blame them.

merit1988:
my brother, pls take him as he is.that shows he's healthy.he'll outgrow it as he gets older.I complained about my own son too(Kelvin) and God too him away from me last year at 5 yrs+...I learnt my lesson

People are simply not grateful to God . He gave them beautiful wonderful healthy kids yet they are complaining maybe He should give them mentally retarded kids for a change so that they will know the difference

mu2sa2:
Hahahaha, funny but I don't agree with launching attacks on kids at the slightest whim - Haba, that na wickedness now!

Many barren couples are even praying to have kids who will be jumping all over and be super hyperactive yet one parent is complaining.
Kai God get patience I swear

momodub:
nice suggestions . But all the beating uncalled for na

I didn't suggest beatings na. I don't support it myself

PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

It's just a phase, have been there. Just put your eyes on him always to avoid sustaining injuries and one of the parent must be with him always aside when he is in school.

Treasuredlove:
Let us start by cutting his sugar intake

Don't listen when people say you must buy all those juice boxes, chocolate, biscuit for your kids and if you don't you are suffering them. Just don't listen to them. Natural fruits will do

I used to have this neighbor, her voice is on a constant high...her boys are extremely hyper...imagine actually tying them to a chair to keep them seated for homework....just saying, I don't think you have anything to worry about

Just practise a menacing look that you know will work
Or my all time solution was getting a needle-less syringe plastic and putting toothpick where the needle is supposed to be....oh my...once they start I just ask calmly who feels like having an injection and start acting like a serious nurse...they sit sharp sharp

Lol nurse eliza

IamaNigerianGuy:
Children will be children.
The human brain is the fastest growing organ in the body and consumes 20% of its blood supply and 40% of its energy. Young children have to deal with the consequences of a rapidly functioning supercomputer that is not only receiving input but increasing in capacity at the same time.

Many people talking about ADHD here. ADHD is over diagnosed even in the west and one key fact you have mentioned totally rules it out for your kid: he is quiet when watching his favorite cartoons.
Children want to be mentally stimulated. One of the early signs of high intelligence is extraordinary curiosity and energy. The worst thing you can ever do is tie down a curious child to a boring task. If cartoons distract him, give him cartoons for 10 hours a day if need be. Buy him computer games, story books and coloring books. There are hundreds in the market. Teach him to read and write so he can occupy himself. When he is older, offer him treats in exchange for peace and quiet. There needs to be an outlet for his fantastic mental energy and if you do not provide one, it will be channeled into disruption. Fighting with you is an indication that he needs attention and something to preoccupy his mind. An occupied child will not struggle with you for the remote control.

You want to limit sugar on general principles of obesity and nutrition and not because it causes any kind of mental effects. Give the child what normal children eat.

This is the age at which white people take advantage and begin the process of seeking and nurturing genius in kids. Music lessons, art, chess, maths, drawing, reading etc. Search for his passions. My niece was the same way and I taught her the multiplication table from 2 to 9 before she turned 5.
If you suppress their natural curiosity and energy at that age, you will be committing a crime against humanity.

Stop beating the child.

There is nothing wrong with him.

This is the best advice so far. You typed most of the things I have in mind already. I am surprised someone even mentioned autism. Lol. That kid is nowhere near autistic.
Dear poster, I'd pick an active kid to a sluggish kid any day anytime. Your kid is just bored. Find something that stimulates him and watch him excel. I can bet he's naturally intelligent, this is the time to shape him.

PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

I will advise you based on my experience with 2-4 years old.

1. You could have a doctor check him out but NEVER let him have any medications he's given, he will become addictive to them and won't be able to function without them in the future, trust me you don't want to see him gentle. If he's gentle You will run from pillar to post finding out what's wrong with him
2. They are both boys and it's quite normal for them to clash, they both want to show they are supreme to each other. Fight of supremacy
3. Let him engage in productive activity at home, if he shows interest in the kitchen, let him wash some few plates with you watching him, he likes Computers buy him a tab and let him Use it. Teach him monopoly, shess, it will improve his spelling and it will improve his Brain development. Let him fill in the gap for spellings, any new word he can't explain let him use a children's dictionary and write it down if he can spell
4. Stop flogging him too much, he will grow so used to it that it won't have an iota of fear for you in his mind like shebi it's cane, i will only cry. When you flog him, make sure he knows what he did and let it be a thorough one that passes a message across, flog him on his hands and not all over his body Plsz Or you give him a nice punishment sit on the floor there, ground him don't give whst he likes And you tell him it's because you did this I punished You with this. Believe me they have the ability to listen well. For example if he curses at people, tell him to stop it that child of God doesn't do that, if he does it again tell him to stop, third time punish me by not giving him his favorite toy or flog him though i doubt flogging will work now, you have flogged him too much, just punish him well next time he does that just threaten him with that punishment You gave him that made him sad, belive me he will behave at that time and sub consciously he's would have it at the Back of his mind that this behaviour isn't acceptable
5. THE REWARD SYSTEM when he does something nice commend him By giving him something he loves, and kiss him on his head. If he does something not nice tell him you wont buy him his favorite snack and don't buy it, you could give his brother his And not give him his.
ABOVE ALL PRAY FOR HIM, CONFESS POSITIVE THINGS TO HIS LIFE EVERY MORNING YOU WAKE UP.
Hope I helped
P. S stop beating him as from now, don't beat him at all Because it has become a part of him and it will make him rebel seriously against you

cynthia1111:
Is good you are in Ibadan, take him to special education department in U.I for diagnosis. For the main time engage him in activities that will make him get tired and sleep. Think of something he can use his energy to do.you can tell him to repeat the activity until he is tired. All the best

I appreciate your comment ma but can I bring him to you to spend a day with you, I just need to meet a nairalander who can corroborate my story. This boy doesn't rest and hardly get sick

dominique:


Thanks. I suggest you go to UCH and check if they have a consultant child therapist. If they don't, they should be able to refer you to one. In the meantime, reduce his sugar intake to the barest minimum. Sugars can make children extra hyper

and noodles intake also.

PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

Eyah, I can relate. While it's normal for children to run around, there might be a disorder at play here e.g. autism. You need to get him to a pediatrician asap for a proper diagnosis. But first, STOP GIVING HIM SUGAR!!

classc25:
Please my niece acts the same, that is hyperactive her speech is not clear and yes she tip toes and has a bit of cross eyes. Does it means any thing please . She is 7 years.

See a Child Psychologist ASAP

dominique:
I'm not seeing any issue here, most children that age are naturally defiant. It's just a phase and he will grow out of it. You can consult a child therapist and have him checked for ADHD (Attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder), where are you based please?
May God be with your family

My wife gave birth to him at Molly Hospital Idiape with best medicare, I'm going to see some doctors there on Monday

My Brother, I can really relate to all you've written about your son and his 11 months brother,but want you to know that nothing is strangely wrong with them..It's a good sign that they are both healthy..I experience the same thing from my two boys everyday.Remember, if they behave the other way round,you won't be happy as a father.. With time ,they will outgrow such stubborn traits.. Most importantly, whatever behavior they're exhibiting now were behaviours you(their father) showed while you were like them..

Nutritional supplements have been used to help overcome ADHD in children. Megadose of vitamins is remarkably effective and improve the condition of the child. You can mail your number to me okeleyepaul@hotmail.com to discuss better I am based in Ibadan too.

Ranchhoddas:
Probably attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.

I'm just hearing this for the first time, I'm going to discuss it with some doctor friends

PurestBoy:


I appreciate your comment ma but can I bring him to you to spend a day with you, I just need to meet a nairalander who can corroborate my story. This boy doesn't rest and hardly get sick

Search for weighted vests on Jumia or Konga, it is good for Hyperactive Children.

ststyreal:
Your child might be displaying one of the autistic spectrum which is being hyperactive. I am talking from experience and if care is not taken the younger one will toll his path. Get a therapist to access him as soon as possible. God bless our children.

Lol, he even beat the 11 month guys, Kevin is left handed and his brother is already using his left hand

momodub:
nice suggestions . But all the beating uncalled for na

Bro, what's the essence of beating a child who would have calmed and ride on while you the beater is still resting from the beating exhaustion? I'm tired of beating

Lucid1:
Na wah

My neighbours son is like that, I dey fear the boy pass SARS, I have to sneak in and out of their house to avoid him. He'll jump on my head, climb on the dining table, beat his elder sister up and many more.

The hyperactivity will wear off as he grows older, be strong and endure.

Peace

Sure I believe cos it was worse than this when he was younger.