Saturday, May 15, 2010
Dear Kemi, I am confused on who to marry

Kemi Ashefon


I'm a single mother and I had my baby when I was 18 years old. I was in the secondary school then. When I was pregnant, my mother went to the boy's house, but his parents drove us away, with the boy threatening to hit me with an iron rod. That made me stop school till I gave birth. Though his mother came to see me and my baby, he never came. Then, we were all living in Jos and I later left for Lagos where I live with my baby and my mother. While my mother and my people were taking care of my daughter, he never showed up. I was able to move on with my life, went to school and now, I am a graduate. Now, my baby is nine years old. Four years ago, I met another man I fell in love with. It was rough when we started. But he really assisted me in my education and paid all my bills. Suddenly, the guy I had his baby for many years ago came and asked for forgiveness and has been nice to me. Meanwhile, my fiancé has proposed and I accepted. I have taken him to see my parents for the initial introduction which was successful. But due to some financial challenges, we have not gone for the proper traditional marriage.




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But this other guy now works in an oil company in Port-Harcourt and he has convinced me that he is a grown and changed person. I visited him once in Port-Harcourt and we have secretly attended one or two things together and he has proposed to marry me. I want to go back to him for the sake of my child. I know we parted ways 10 years ago. What do I do?

T.R