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Re: ElRazur Says Men Wanting Submissive Women Should Get A Grip. by baybbootz(f): 8:55am On May 19, 2010
Ivynwa,faher n elrazu
I wish more men could start thinking like you guys,seriously!
Its good to know peeps like you exist.
Re: ElRazur Says Men Wanting Submissive Women Should Get A Grip. by queeneve: 9:25am On May 19, 2010
Esph. 5

The entire chapter in the bible talks about WIVES AND HUSBANDS submitting to one another. If you are going to
quote one verse, you need to quote all the verses. There is no such thing as picking and matching verses. You either believe it or you don't ENTIRELY.

WIVES ARE TO SUBMIT TO THE HUSBAND AS HE SUBMIT TO GOD, IF THE HUSBAND IS NOT OF GOD THEN THE WIVES
DOES NOT SUBMIT TO THE HUSBAND FOR THE HUSBAND CAN LEAD THE WIFE AND FAMILY ASTRAY. IF YOU
ARE A GOOD APPLE AND THERE IS A BAD APPLE IN THE MIX, THE BAD APPLE TELL YOU TO EAT A PIECE OF BREAD
ARE YOU GOING TO EAT THAT BREAD SAID THE BAD APPLE OR YOU ARE GOING TO IGNORE AND FOLLOW ANOTHER GOOD APPLE BECAUSE BOTH SHARE GOOD QUALITIES AND THOUGHTS?

THAT WHAT Esph 5 were talking about and of course men who are not of Christ, will assumed it means a robot
wife! ARGGGGGGGGGGH
Re: ElRazur Says Men Wanting Submissive Women Should Get A Grip. by 28Schweet(f): 9:50am On May 19, 2010
grin

The most nigerian man way here by us, is submissive = doormat, if you show some ability to think for yourself and act for yourself, then God be with you, cause you'll be all alone,

Major bone of contention in my house this, why should I ask for permission to visit friends, shocked
Re: ElRazur Says Men Wanting Submissive Women Should Get A Grip. by ElRazur: 10:11am On May 19, 2010
What strike me here is the observation of two elements.

When men are challenged about wanting submissive woman, they either quote the bible or some religious book to back it up. Then when that is challenged, they result to saying what they want is respect. undecided

Let me tackle this one. Can the men who have such stance quit fooling themselves. Respect is not the same being submissive. They mean two different and it appears men will use them interchangeably to back up their indefensible view points. I am trying not to talk about the holy books like some are keen to quote, for very good reason. The holy books were written a long time a go, and not be honest human have moved on from those points. So please, avoid quoting the holy books as I will just not comment on them.

When men talk about Submission around here. It means, one thing and one thing only a woman who they can be dominated over in most places. For example, my own sister will answer "Yes sir" to her husband. I mean, wtf is this about? Surely, she wasn't saying "Yes sir" to him when he was chasing her. If anything, she calls him by his name, but as time goes by, it appears there is more submission going on, than respect. undecided

Another thing that I observe is how some females reply will suggest that have become brainwashed, or have ingrained into them that they have to be submissive. There appears to be a mentality of "acceptance" i.e well, it is what is expected of me as a woman or what the holy books have said and as such, I will do it without asking question". I mean, this is no different from those who think it is expected of them to kill infidels etc. I suppose these kind of females can do with trying to be who they are, than being what they is drilled in to them.
Re: ElRazur Says Men Wanting Submissive Women Should Get A Grip. by ElRazur: 10:17am On May 19, 2010
luap:

Dear Mr. Atheist,  Both men and woman must fulfill their gender functions in a relatoinship or they will be unhappy.  I you do not believe me, go put on an apron, do some cooking and give the wife a foot massage.  In time she will be disgusted with the big kitty between your legs and she will go out and find a real man on the side to make her happy.

What do you mean gender functions? So if woman opt to have a career and not have kids, you think she would be unhappy? Or conversely, if a man who stays at home to look after the kids at his own will, while the wife goes to work would be unhappy? Surely, you can see the problem with your logic?

For your information, I cook good and damn good at it, and I have no problem whatsoever cooking for whoever I am dating. I have done it before. It is called "helping around the house". A concept that may be foreign to you as you may not have had a place of your own, or lived with a woman before. When you get to the point in your life, try cooking once in a while and see how appreciative she will be of you. It takes nothing away from you. If anything, it adds a romantic spice to your relationship. Just ask any female.
Re: ElRazur Says Men Wanting Submissive Women Should Get A Grip. by ElRazur: 10:28am On May 19, 2010
Igwe.:

I quite agree with you in the sense that the wife shouldn't be submissive to a good for nothing husband who does not know his left and right, only to drink and cause troubles here there, but why would any sensible woman marry such a man at first if not for a reason best known her of which she lives to regret at last?

Again your post will suggest you are still wanting a submissive woman. Regardless of whether a husband is good for nothing or excellent with everything, a woman should not be submissive. A slave is submissive to the will of his master. Just the same way mankind submit to the will of God. You see, a woman is neither a slave nor a man is a God, and as such, a woman should not be doing any form of submission - especially, not in the context it is used in Nigerian and African cultures.


submissive in this contest to me is nothing but the readiness for the wife to see her husband as king, the head of the family, listens to him when he is talking irrespective of who makes more money in the family, projects his name even when she's more intelligent than he's.

For you maybe, but from what I read here, from what I have seen, from what it is ingrained into us, I think you will have to agree that submission = submitting to the will of others.

For the record, a man is not a king, while he may be the Father in the family, or the male in a relationship, it do not make him superior in anyway to a woman and as such his will should not be the only one that supersede everything, as a woman have mind, need, will, emotion etc too.

People would rather respect a woman for the husband's wealth or his personality than the man for the wife's what have you.

I don't understand.


We only have one head in every family and that's the man, the success of any marriage chiefly depends on the man who's deemed as the head of the family,while the wife/wives is/are just there to assist .


No it is an archaic way of thinking. A man is no longer the "head". As without a woman, a man is nothing. A relationship have two people at the wheel just like you have two pilots at the control of a plane. You see, the world have moved on from those kind of view in my position.

Again you raised an important issue here - equality. Why is it okay for a man to have many wives, but not okay for a woman to do the same legally? I think if you can find an answer to that, I will be waiting. Whatever is good for the Goose, is good for the Gander too. smiley
Re: ElRazur Says Men Wanting Submissive Women Should Get A Grip. by ElRazur: 4:00pm On May 20, 2010
No takers? undecided

Meh, is this is about having seeexxx and how I want a wifey, I am sure I will get more decent response. Come on people, can we not engage in a bit of serious debate around here? undecided
Re: ElRazur Says Men Wanting Submissive Women Should Get A Grip. by brutal(m): 10:31am On May 21, 2010
only fools are wise in their own eyes. . some people here r trying 2 change what d bible teaches.
God have spoken,and so shall it be. .
Blame urselves if u don't end up with a good man. .Bible is d key;read and understand it.
God is not a dictator. .He instructs husbands to love,cherish,sacrifice,humble,praise and generally take care of their wives.
And wives should submit 2 d headship of their husbands. .she has d right 2 rejects her man decision if it violates God's laws.
Re: ElRazur Says Men Wanting Submissive Women Should Get A Grip. by ElRazur: 12:10pm On May 21, 2010
brutal:

only fools are wise in their own eyes. . some people here r trying 2 change what d bible teaches.
God have spoken,and so shall it be. .
Blame urselves if u don't end up with a good man. .Bible is d key;read and understand it.
God is not a dictator. .He instructs husbands to love,cherish,sacrifice,humble,praise and generally take care of their wives.
And wives should submit 2 d headship of their husbands. .she has d right 2 rejects her man decision if it violates God's laws.


Oh dear. Am the only one seeing something wrong here? shocked

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