Good evening Jzhane,

I am very sad and unhappy. Please post my story. I need help. I just got married last November but I am sincerely not happy in my marriage. I dont know what to do. Its too early to be complaining but see where I have found myself. I am so depressed and I dont know what to do.When I was dating and courting my husband,his siblings were always a problem for us. My husband’s father is late and he being the first son,he is responsible for his siblings. I was afraid this would be a problem for us but I was counseled by everyone to take it easy and be patient.

After our wedding,my husband’s youngest brother came to live with us two weeks after. I didnt like the idea considering the fact that we just got married. I asked my husband why,he said,he was on holiday. The annoying thing is that this boy is so spoilt,he does not do anything,all he does is eat and leave the plates for me to wash. In January,he left for school and the very next day,another sibling came. This time,his sister. This sister is very possessive. She enters our room anyhow ,like its hers. She also does not like to do anything but eat. She does not respect me cos she says we are age mates. I try and keep quiet for peace sake.

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She left in February and returned in March. This time,I couldnt take her disrespect anymore and I brought it up to my husband. My husband asked me to tolerate her. He said,his siblings are his family and he cannot abandon them cos he is married. He asks me to overlook all the sister is doing so I will not be seen as not wanting them around our house. I felt really bad cos my husband did not take my concerns seriously. One day,I got home from work and I wanted to make a quick dinner with the little chicken I left in the freezer. I found out that the sister had....Read full story from:


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don't u know dat blood is thicker than akamu

Madam!! His family is yours and yours His. His brother not washing plate is not an issue, even me self won’t wash plate sef. His sister entering his room!! That’s not an issue, they grew up together so you don’t know maybe it was normal for them. Try and understand his family and be a good, don’t create issue were there is non. Tips on Marriage 101. Go get . Cole album .

Lack of couselling b4 marriage playing out here

you just want to walk out of marriage like that. just like that?

Emvicprints1:
you just want to walk out of marriage like that. just like that?

imagine! Marriage not up to six months. Why go into it in the first place?

Seek marriage counseling from ur spiritual leaders. Ur marriage can and should work if u both will heed to counseling n advice drawn from the word of God.

You should learn to speak up. Tell him that he cannot be leaving his plates unwashed that you do not have a maid. If he just came to visit and was leaving same day, then it is ok. But as long as he is staying, he should wash his plates. And please say it when your husband is there and politely too, so that he will not twist the story to his brother.

You also need to tell his sister in front of him that she cannot be entering your room unannounced. It was his room before but now it is for both of you. You guys are married and she has to respect that.

They need to extend the respect they have for their brother to you. You should not be treated like an outsider because you are not one. You are their new sister and should be treated accordingly.

I am even surprised how your husband overlooks all of this. All this is his fault. I cannot even try it with my brother. Am i mad??

God bless you, I think this it. You nailed it. This are the kind of reply I love seeing on the blog. We have a lot of reserved, intelligent ladies here on NL. Am so impressed

ImaIma1:
You should learn to speak up. Tell him that he cannot be leaving his plates unwashed that you do not have a maid. If he just came to visit and was leaving same day, then it is ok. But as long as he is staying, he should wash his plates. And please say it when your husband is there and politely too, so that he will not twist the story to his brother.

You also need to tell his sister in front of him that she cannot be entering your room unannounced. It was his room before but now it is for both of you. You guys are married and she has to respect that.

They need to extend the respect they have for their brother to you. You should not be treated like an outsider because you are not one. You are their new sister and should be treated accordingly.

I am even surprised how your husband overlooks all of this. All this is his fault. I cannot even try it with my brother. Am i mad??