i was very close to a sec. school girl when i was in nigeria,she lives close to my house, though we never had intimacy.I was helping her out financially because she came from a dead poor family. At the said time,i had feelings for her. Am now 25 and she is 20
later,i left Nigeria and was still very well in touch with her and was still helping her financially.Now she is in her second year in the university, am still taking care of her and we talk almost everyday. Other things equal, i intend to marry her. i strongly think she has feelings for me and i really love her. I intend to come back this year after 5 years and see things myself. Am I doing the right thing, or just being a mug? is she hanging on just because of the help she gets from me?

nayef:

i was very close to a sec. school girl when i was in nigeria,she lives close to my house, though we never had intimacy.I was helping her out financially because she came from a dead poor family. At the said time,i had feelings for her. Am now 25 and she is 20
later,i left Nigeria and was still very well in touch with her and was still helping her financially.Now she is in her second year in the university, am still taking care of her and we talk almost everyday. Other things equal, i intend to marry her. i strongly think she has feelings for me and i really love her. I intend to come back this year after 5 years and see things myself. Am I doing the right thing, or just being a mug? is she hanging on just because of the help she gets from me?

The words in bold are really funny, haha.
5 years is a long time, dude. It's very likely she's been screwing someone else and chopping your money at the same time. So, I hope you don't expect to see her waiting for you or expect her to have been 'intimacy-less' because of you.

eva since and up till now she tells me she is a virgin

Do you believe her? My advice is: Get home and 'verify' if she's still a virgin before you 'catch' any feelings. If it turns out she's been lying, it's up to you to decide what to do next.

whether she is screwing sum1 else or not, what is clear to me from ur post is that you two are not in any form of relationship. So therefore, helping someone finacially does not equal owning her/being in a relationship. Go home and see then know whats next, Good luck

@Faher

You so harsh dude. I was feeling the guys anxiety, but you just had to say the truth. It is sobering.

Waaa Waaaa

so far what you have been doing for her constitutes charity work you did not define the r/ship even if she is seeing someone else i dont think she is in the wrong.If you want to marry her and be justified in not expecting her to be in any other r/ship or screwing someone else, define the r/ship.You can even define it on phone before you come home.

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@Faher

You so harsh dude. I was feeling the guys anxiety, but you just had to say the truth. It is sobering.

Waaa Waaaa

To the words in bold: That's me for you, o beating around the bush.
Guys need to know that Long distance stuff rarely works.