Dear Jzhane,

How are you. Congratulations on your blog,I would say you have done very well. My wife sends her regards. Yes,my wife.haha…me and Ese got married last month and we thank God for this. You have my permission to post our story because we want to expose what is going on and hopefully help put an end to the stigma that is going on in our society.

Ese and I went to the same primary school in Warri. She was a very pretty and intelligent girl. But I was a very timid little boy so I never had the courage to talk to her. But as a little boy,I used to imagine that she was my girlfriend: she was my crush. As fate would have it,we ran into each other several years later. This time,I had become a very successful surgeon in the United States. I met Ese during a party thrown by a mutual Nigerian friend.I didnt waste my time to shoot my shot. Luckily for me,Ese was single. We dated for almost a year before I asked her to marry me. I must say,I am the luckiest man alive to be with such a smart lady as Ese.

So what is the problem you may ask? When I informed my people that I was going to get married to Ese,they told me they would look into her family background to ensure that she was from a well brought up home. They came back to say that I could not marry Ese cos they found out that something is wrong with the men that get married into that family. From their research,Ese’s grandfather died of mental illness,her Uncle ran mad and stripped in the market while Ese’s own father also died of a strange illness,hence the family is cursed. They rumored that all the men in that family always end up with one type of sickness or the other or even end up dead mysteriously.

With this discovery,my family insisted that I could not get married to Ese. Well,I didnt listen to them. I am a christian,even if I am not a serious one. I do not in any way believe that Ese’s lineage is cursed. Even Ese is a better christian than I am. In as much as it was sad,I and Ese visited her parents and did our traditional marriage rites in February. None of my family members attended the ceremony. Only my elder sister who lives in Canada attended our wedding in the US. Even as educated as my elder sister is,she is a Lawyer practicing in Canada. She also advised me that I should.....Read full story from the blog:


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... Only my elder sister who lives in Canada attended our wedding in the US. Even as educated as my elder sister is,she is a Lawyer practicing in Canada. She also advised me that I should take Ese to church for deliverance just in case the spirit in her family is following her. I laughed at her. My mom in particular has been going to different churches for God to deliver me from Ese’s family spirit. She is always crying,trying to blackmail me anytime I call her. She would say that Ese has bewitched her son whom she suffered to train. The painful part is that she always curses Ese and her family for trying to destroy hers. This has made me decide to stop picking her calls for now.

Jzhane,much as this whole situation is unfortunate,the much bigger problem in our society is that people think that mental illness is hereditary. They also stigmatize the family members of anyone with mental illness. According to Ese,her father died when she was just 7. She has no idea what killed him. She was told that he fell ill and died. According to her,part of the reason she moved to the US was to start a new life cos sometimes she feels ashamed to be known as someone who came from a family of mentally ill people. She feels very bad that my Nigerian family has cut off from me cos of her. In fact,she wanted to break up with me when she found out my family was not in support but I would not loose her.

Please this is the 21st century. Just because my wife’s father died of mental illness doesnt mean I will die of mental illness. Neither will my wife die of mental illness. Mental illness is caused by so many things which may not be spiritual. And with proper medication and therapy, people can live better even with mental illness. Even Ese,just to make my sister happy has agreed for us to go for deliverance. She says if anything were to happen to me,even if it is not mental illness,my family would blame her for it. Now,I expect most of your readers to advice me to go for deliverance just in case. Do you think that is necessary? That is the advice I need from you today. Should I go for spiritual deliverance just in case there is a spirit of madness following Ese? As someone who is into medical practice,I believe in science. But I also believe in God,so Should my wife Ese and I go for deliverance? I cannot wait to read people’s opinion on this one.

God bless you my dear sister,Jzhane.

Yours Sincerely,

Dr Ben

South Carolina,USA.