Hello Nairalanders;

I created a thread about "Young men dropping some attitudes", which I believe it was from a genuine concern in order to reach out to some depressed and "disorganised" souls and to create a sense of self respect by correcting the mentality of young men in here through understanding the sacrifices that has to be made if one truly desires a happy ending.

We all want happiness, joy, gladness, love and fulfilment in life and as such I believe there are price to be paid in other to achieve these things.

Pleasures, sex, lust for power and even money are all means to an end and not what will give us the total satisfaction and fulfilment we truly desire (some don't know this yet).

Contrary to many folks thought about my previous thread that I was trying to impress or being an ass licker because I aired my views and it seemed to them that I was just being petty, that's a lie, in fact I don't like it when people praise me too much, it makes me feel uneasy and kind of crazy (well, this is not about me, so lets move on).

To sustain living (its total package): everyone has the responsibility of developing, growing, acquiring knowledge and skills. We shouldn't be ignorant about the fact that life doesn't give you what you want, it gives you what you work.

Men should be able to develop to a certain stage that you acquire enough self control to filter out what you truly need from just what you like because of your own lust.
If you want a very beautiful woman (beauty can be good too, it's not a bas thing to like it) be willing and able to pay the price and if you don't have that resource yet, you can wait untill you have acquired it (honest ways of course).
We all lust over somethings and our ability to set our priorities and stick to what matters give us an edge and this eventually gives you happiness.

Yes, we have female gold diggers and even some that are pests looking for who to drain but when you acquire the qualities you need to acquire as a man, you will be able to flee from such temptation being fully persuaded in your heart that it's not what you need.

Patience breeds control and if you're patient enough (not messing around while you're waiting), what you need will locate you or you will find it.

Females can be unstable, without understanding and unwillingly to evolve (not all) but we've found ourselves in a world where they don't need to do too much to achieve their aim (not every time).
If you agree that, they are weaker vessels and that they need to be treated with care, love and respect (we all have mums and sisters), you need to understand that sometimes when they get it wrong, you don't need to curse them, condemn them, lament because of their weaknesses, you only need to be patient with them and show them the way.
God knows what He's doing, He is not a confused God. There is a reason why we are wired differently, one is suppose to compliment the other.

Here is my bone of contention:

Men should develop well enough to take up their own responsibilties as men and women also should follow suit.
The bad ones (both men and women) needs a good example for them to change from their bad ways, but if the good ones (both men and women) are too weak to fight, we will all see life in the perspective of the bad ones.

I'm not being biased about anything, just stating my own views. If you read my previous thread very well, you'll see that.

Thank you all for your time reading my message.

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As a Nigerian, you need to understand a lot about life before you are 25. I ask myself, of what use is a 23 yr old guy going into relationship when you have no reasonable source of income? The little money you ought to be spending on your life, you are sharing with a girl that is secretly dating other guys. When you are 28 and above, frustration sets in if you are still hustling because motivational tips won't be making much sense as making money.

SillyeRabbit:
As a Nigerian, you need to understand a lot about life before you are 25. I ask myself, of what use is a 23 yr old guy going into relationship when you have no reasonable source of income? The little money you ought to be spending on your life, you are sharing with a girl that is secretly dating other guys. When you are 28 and above, frustration sets in if you are still hustling because motivational tips won't be making much sense as making money.

Valid point, bro. At least be able to do something before you get into a relationship, no matter how small it is. It gives you a sense of self respect and confidence.

I know there is this urge for young guys to get into relationship (we've been there), but it's not worth the time and effort it would have wasted (I was a victim of this).