Hi guys please i need your help and advice. sorry i had to create this new account for anonymous reasons. pls listen to my story and drop solutions. thanks in advance.

Way back in 2012, i met this girl on facebook. i wasnt the lover boy type but immediately i saw her photo on fb i fell in love. i cudnt get my head off her so i began plotting my graph and fortunately she replied me and that was how our relationship began. i was so in love with her that i asked her to be my girl even though we havnt met in person. mind you, i was 21 at that time and she was 17. after a while and with lots of plotting she accepted. it was scary and funny at thesame time. we would make midnight calls all through the night and it was clear that we were deeply in love.

2013 i went to visit her to see my love for the very first time. i was very anxious thinking of what would happen if we cudnt flow just as we did online and over the phone. well, finally when i saw her she was way beyond the pictures i saw that even made me fell in love in the first place. i cudnt believe my eyes. we huged and everything flowed well. i spent a week with her. we would hold hands while walking on the streets. it was as if weve known each other forever. same year, i invited over to my place and i introduced her to my family and friends and funny enough they all fell in love with her. my mom just took her in as her own daughter. she spent a week with us and went back to her place.

2014 i gained admission and school activities got me so busy. i still loved her and tried to keep the love flowing. she also tried too by always calling to check up on me. 2015 the heat was getting high and after an argument we had to call it quit. It was clear that we still had feelings for each other but i wanted to focus on my academics and get a good grade. once in a while she would call and we'll discuss for long and began to be advisers to each other as i would encourage her on the type of guys to date and she would advice me on the kind of girls to date.

Fastfoward 2018 am done with school. i still love her and its clear she still have thesame feelings and havnt settled with anyone. even my family keep asking about her and i just drop a story just to get them off. along the line i visited her and we hung out. i told her my feelings for her havent changed and would want us to come back together officially. she said she also feels thesame but i should try and find another girl to fall in love with. i asked why, she said she's trying to protect me from something and its because she love me.

when i asked what the thing was, she said her family has this juju stuff that wrecks any man that has sexual relations with the girls and not just making the man poor, the juju will put an end to such a relationship by making the man hate the woman. even when she said that, i wasnt afraid. i just told her that God is bigger than any juju. i was confident because i try my best to obey God and thats the reason i dint have sex with her the time we dated. she went ahead to give me example of a guy she dated during the time we broke up who had sex with her. she said immediately after that the guy went broke and he is struggling to cope. i wasnt still bothered. i told her that there is no problem without solution. later she told me that her dad is the cause because he dint do the complete rites when he married her mom. though she has asked her dad about it, he keep on saying he did everything. Going further, she said if her dad can agree to complete the rites of her moms marriage and she too duely weds before engaging in sexual relations with a man, everything will be well.

When i got home after the discussion, she kept calling like every hour to check up on me if what she told me was disturbing me. though i kept saying am okay, i was really worried. she just encouraged me that everything would be alright if we trust in God and do the right thing. I dont know what to do. But i know i still love her and would love to solve this issue. thats why am here. maybe someone here might have a similar story and give a solution. please help.

Nollywood on nairaland, make dem do the ritual and everybody go dey alright, but u can still av a plan b, but its very very important to nack ur first love or ur ex

she said she's trying to protect me from something and its because she love me.

when i asked what the thing was, she said her family has this juju stuff that wrecks any man that has sexual relations with the girls and not just making the man poor, the juju will put an end to such a relationship by making the man hate the woman. even when she said that, i wasnt afraid. i just told her that God is bigger than any juju. i was confident because i try my best to obey God and thats the reason i dint have sex with her the time we dated. she went ahead to give me example of a guy she dated during the time we broke up who had sex with her. she said immediately after that the guy went broke and he is struggling to cope.

Lmao this girl just played you... And you fell for it. Continue trying to Mr nice guy eh.. Chei. Some boiz are slow

Cutehector:



Lmao this girl just played you... And you fell for it.

How?... pls tell me

Lol when you're talking of exposure, girls get it earlier than guys although only few can handle it humbly. While you're focusing on ur studies, she must have been to places you've not dreamt to be in d name of going out or dating guys. Someone is pleasing her better than you ATM and she wisely used a very good tactic on you. Juju weh she no mention for all d yrs weh una dey together. All of a sudden d juju just show.

Sorry bro, focus on ur studies and work. What u had was first love infatuation meme, nothing more. Women be like paper, anywhere better dey, na there breeze dey carry dem go. If you're wise, you won't put ur mind on them at all. That's why some guys keep 2 or 3 of them so when one fumble, they switch. When you're made, they'll come for you with their wahala, then you'll carefully choose who you want.

Funny enough, when you're made, this same girl may come back to you to say her father have done the rites so d juju have cancel. By then she fit don abort like 5, then she'll capitalize on the soft spot you have for her pretending like angel to get thru ur heart.

Even ur parents didn't help matters. At a time they shd shun both of you before going far, they left you and allowed you to go far. How can u be spending one week with each other under ur parents roof as adolescents weh never start school.

Well sorry, na so ur own experience with woman take start. God is ur muscle

hefelove:
Nollywood on nairaland, make dem do the ritual and everybody go dey alright, but u can still av a plan b, but its very very important to nack ur first love or ur ex

i dont believe that. like i said in the post i have my principles and sex before marriage isnt one of them.

U were played man.funny girl

whitebeard:
U were played man.funny girl

wats d play?
is it cus she had an affair with another guy?
if its that i dont mind.

After God, fear women

ifex370:
After God, fear women

talk na

Cutehector:




Lmao this girl just played you... And you fell for it. Continue trying to Mr nice guy eh.. Chei. Some boiz are slow

Is everything abou play? You think there isn't any possibility that she is real?....Find or think up a solution to the girl's play rather than make the niggie look stupid....



Op,, you believe in God, you believe in love, believe that everything will be alright....If the girl is truthful, these are drastic moments that demands drastic measures,, if it's something spiritual, you will have to go spiritual to fight it...Pray hard while dragging her along, I would be happy if things turns out positive....All the best man.

marc55:

wats d play?
is it cus she had an affair with another guy?
if its that i dont mind.

At least you now know she’s no virgin, a good starting base for the relationship. I assume she cooked up the tale to lessen the yoke of distrust discovering she’s no virgin might have on you. It shows she does admire you. I said that because I don’t bliv in fairy tales but that’s for me. Stay safe.

austyn0:
Is everything abou play? You think there isn't any possibility that she is real?....Find or think up a solution to the girl's play rather than make the niggie look stupid....



Op,, you believe in God, you believe in love, believe that everything will be alright....If the girl is truthful, these are drastic moments that demands drastic measures,, if it's something spiritual, you will have to go spiritual to fight it...Pray hard while dragging her along, I would be happy if things turns out positive....All the best man.

thanks man.. i appreciate ur kind words and encouragement.

front5line:


At least you now know she’s no virgin, a good starting base for the relationship. I assume she cooked up the tale to lessen the yoke of distrust discovering she’s no virgin might have on you. It shows she does admire you. I said that because I don’t bliv in fairy tales but that’s for me. Stay safe.

true she is quite truthful with me. thanks man.

RadicallyBlunt:
Lol when you're talking of exposure, girls get it earlier than guys although only few can handle it humbly. While you're focusing on ur studies, she must have been to places you've not dreamt to be in d name of going out or dating guys. Someone is appealing to her better than you ATM and she wisely used a very good tactic on you. Juju weh she no mention for all d yrs weh una dey together. All of a sudden d juju just show.

Sorry bro, focus on ur studies and work. What u had was first love infatuation meme, nothing more. Women be like paper, anywhere better dey, na there breeze dey carry dem go. If you're wise, you won't put ur mind on them at all. When you're made, they'll come for you with their wahala, then you'll carefully choose who you want.

Funny enough, when you're made, this same girl may come back to you to say her father have done the rites so d juju have cancel. By then she fit don abort like 5, then she'll capitalize on the soft spot you have for her pretending like angel to get thru ur heart.

Even ur parents didn't help matters. At a time they shd shun both of you before going far, they left you and allowed you to go far. How can u be spending one week with each other under ur parents roof as adolescents weh never start school.

Well sorry, na so ur own experience with woman take start. God is ur muscle

it was of recent she got to know of the juju stuff... she dint quite grow up with her parents to know of the stuff early. it was when she was 18 she began staying with her parents and that was when it became clear to her.

about her getting in many relationships and the abortion stuff she isnt that kind of person. not like am supporting her, but her kind of person wont engage in such a thing. she gave me good reasons why she had to date when we broke up.

sorry we dint live under same roof when she came to visit. she stayed with a female friend of mine and only comes to our house for visit then i walk her home when its evening. so u can see my parent's dint let down thier guard.

true i want to make myself more formidable, i should pursue my masters soon but no matter how hard i try i just cant get my mind off her. You can see that from the number of years that have elapsed and still my mind is thesame.

thanks for your contribution.

marc55:


it was of recent she got to know of the juju stuff... she dint quite grow up with her parents to know of the stuff early. it was when she was 18 she began staying with her parents and that was when it became clear to her.

about her getting in many relationships and the abortion stuff she isnt that kind of person. not like am supporting her, but her kind of person wont engage in such a thing. she gave me good reasons why she had to date when we broke up.

sorry we dint live under same roof when she came to visit. she stayed with a female friend of mine and only comes to our house for visit then i walk her home when its evening. so u can see my parent's dint let down thier guard.

true i want to make myself more formidable, i should pursue my masters soon but no matter how hard i try i just cant get my mind off her. You can see that from the number of years that have elapsed and still my mind is thesame.

thanks for your contribution.

Your matter be like that ileya ram weh I mention sometime ago, weh dem dey feed, he com think say him owner like am.

The girl don cloud ur mind finish. E be like say you no know woman. Anyway na so e dey be. You go recover with time

RadicallyBlunt:

Your matter be like that ileya ram weh I mention sometime ago, weh dem dey feed, he com think say him owner like am.

The girl don cloud ur mind finish. E be like say you no know woman. Anyway na so e dey be. You go recover with time

lols.. i wont lie to you i would love to recover from this but i havent. If only i have met someone else all these story wouldn't have bothered me.

marc55:

lols.. i wont lie to you i would love to recover from this but i havent. If only i have met someone else all these story wouldn't have bothered me.

Lol I understand you.

Talk to some girls maybe on Facebook thru location search, at least 2 out of 10 will be sensible to talk to. You can plan to meet and feel good together so as to recover as a gentle man weh u be.

My own time na for brothel I settle my heartbreak back then. Since that time, na triangle of 3 girls I dey always form. That's if you understand sha.