DOAweb:

You are the official in-house adviser/consultant on the moral of this story!!

ITgurlie:

Men will always be men, some of them are scared of commitment , why carry the lady along when you could as well have told her in the beginning, Anyway girl just hold on I believe God has something better for you, better a broken courtship than a broken marriage. May the good Lord see you through and cause you to smile again, it's well

  Men will always be men - PLEASE STOP that rubbish thinking 

Ujujoan:

oh well, u r right! You know I can never give up an opportunity to demonstarte how useless me are . .   

Takes one to know one you know   

Shanice111:

That said, even though the girl may have been too forward as many have said, he should have let her know from the start that it wasn't serious. We all should stop leading people on, its the 21st century, if you want just intimacy say it, there are girls and guys who be down, if you are married say am married but I want to cheat on my wife with you and all that stuff! Lets be more open, I feel bad to see some1 I love suffer for a mistake that could be avoided if both parties were honest phew!

MRbrownJAY:

this story has many points that everyone seems to be overlooking:

first this marriage was the AIM of that gal as we can clearly see that from their first encounter drinking in the pub, she was already dreaming and planning for that damn wedding in her head.

second she wrote herself that she was ADDICTED to the guy, thats another point for concern as we all know how its difficult to deal with such people. NO wasnt an option for that gal andher BF probably knew that.

Third she clearly wrote that they talked about marriage like all couple do but that SHE thought she was ready and that SHE wanted a December wedding. what did HE want at that time? did she even bother to ask or was it just about achieving her fairytale wedding that was planned from the get go?! the guy might not have wanted to get married BUT since he loved her, and didnt want to loose her, accepted against his best judgment.

fourth [/b]the guy clearly told her that he loved her more than life but that they should postpone the wedding. at that point the alarm bells should have rang into her head and accept defeat but we all know that this"addicted"woman wasnt gonna let go that easily.

ROTFLMAO! The guy said he wanted the wedding to be postponed till he finished his program and got a job which makes PERFECT sense! How is that a call for alarm? Are you tell us to become unreasonable with you guys? When you give us a good reason to hold on we should take it as a red alert

[b]fifth is it just me or the statement she made after they decided to postpone the wedding made no bloody sense at all:"I agreed, even though I am in my late twenties, I am not desperate to be married."
a person that aint desperate WOULD have agreed therefore writing "even though" about her age says a lot!!!!

sixth [/b]the guy finally comes clean and said "i cant continue like this" ALLELUJAH finally the guy uses his brain and get some belle to come clean about how he feels (pressured) about the whole marriage thingy that SHE was going after from the beginning.
now, that should have been the end of the story but since she was addicted to the guy, had planned the wedding in her head a thousand times and wanted to "inspire people with their fairy tale" she had to fight back and make this guy marry her even if he didnt WANT TO !

You have never been left high to dry have you? By ANYBODY!

When that happens, come back and tell us what your first reaction was! (Not some refined idealized version oh, lol )

[b]seventh when he told her that he wasnt ready for marriage, she could have simply said:"ok then, lets continue dating until YOU are ready" but we all know how nigerian women put a timetable on dating and therefore it was either marriage or nothing for bridezilla.
she then begged:"dont break my heart?", "what about our friends/family?" etc but didnt ask the most important question. . . . . . . . . . "tell me the reason why you think like that so that we can fix it?!" this was clearly a one sided relationship where the guy couldnt put say a single word until he blew up.
just because SHE was ready, doesnt mean that HE was and if she wasnt willing to wait until HE was ready then she got what she deserved by being dropped.

eighth yes this guy could have done it differently but not all men have the skills/guts to look a woman dead in her eyes and kill her dreams.
after the CHAINS were finally off from this guy's neck, she still believed that he was going to come back?! that poor guy looked to the future and probably never looked back at the nightmare he lived and survived. . . . . . not all men are that lucky, ask any married men out there!
the funny part is at the end where she wrote that she is looking for someone who will love her for her. . . . . . . that guy did but she killed it all. she definitely didnt learn sh*it from this saga!
oh well.

Ujujoan:

^^^ Why you don't think such things ever happen?

She might have a flair for writing which would make her story appear unreal, but trust me, worse things has happened!

gregejige:

Some here are suggesting that the guy should've gone ahead with the wedding and suffer an endless marital life.
Guess what, the girl's life too wouldve have been hell and then we'll start saying

'If you knew you did not want to get married to me, why were you not man enough to say no?'

No some guy has said No and there's trouble.

spikedcylinder:

It'll be nice for women to realise that being in love and getting married are two very very different terms.
You cannot marry everyone you fall in love with. That way, issues like this will be milder on the heart.

debosky:

She sounds a bit unhinged to me - all she ever wanted was to marry the guy, we don't know what he wanted.
That he started giving some signals should've made her take a second look at everything, but she didn't.

That said, he should've had enough cojones to say something before the plans were concluded, IF he knew that was what he was going to do.

Ujujoan:

Are you blind or do you just lack the capacity to understand posts?

Who said the guy should have gone ahead with the marriage?

Most people her are blaming him for not pulling away sooner. The guys did a formal introduction for God's sakes, was he drugged into that?

He was a weakling whose cowardice brought shame and humiliation on someone else!

You are right spikes, but one would have though the man would have told her he wasnt down for marriage from the onset, instead of leading her on just to get free s3x.

I wonder what must have being going tru his mind!