IamD18:
Zicoraads, I just don't want to believe that this writeup came from you. Even a demented and dimwitted slowpoke cannot stoop so low to scribble such rubbish.

>Relationship shouldn't be a financial means of a woman. It's should be relationship, not a job for a lady.

>The only set of ladies allowed to form class should be a lady who is rich and can afford her needs without depending on any man, which means classy ladies are not suppose to depend on men because they are rich and can fend for themselves.

Simply put: Hungry ladies who asks men for money in a bid to form classy are nothing but riffraffs and poor ladies.

Question is; Why should a poor lady live a level of life she can't maintain without depending on a man?

Gerrard59:
Lubayn said same last year and was maligned. I don talk am, people should date within their social stratum.



In other words, shoe get size?

zicoraads:

You are agreeing with me nau

A room is not up to that amount. But even if it is and you are earning 200k as salary, do you think it will be a problem to some whose basic salary is above 500k plus allowances?

Saintsquare:
Sad but true, when a lady is above your league and you swore by everything to always make her happy if she accept your proposal.While I agree many are materialistic,some are used to a comfort life and anything short of that is a No No.

zicoraads:
I've seen countless narratives on Nairaland about ladies and their love for money. The most annoying one was the one I saw today of a guy complaining that his girlfriend would always want them to eat out where he'll end up paying 2k or 3k. But let's be honest with ourselves, that narrative is very wrong.

Now I'll show you why it is.

There are different types of ladies in a university. As someone who comes from a modest home, go for the ones who are serious with their studies and are more into guys who know why they are in school. These ones are more of the future than the present. They don't even mind drinking garri with you. Others, however, are the ones whose houses off campus are tastefully furnished and who live in apartments worth 150k. They also dress to kill. You think all of these fell from the sky? She has a lifestyle that needs to be maintained. As her man, realize that you also have to contribute to that. Don't ask her out and if she starts demanding, you run to Nairaland, shouting about how ladies are materialistic.

There are also these types of ladies in the larger society. A working class lady will most likely not follow you to the woman who sells beans and bread around your area. She will most likely prefer to lodge or eat Golden Tulips, Jevinik, BluCabana etc. Not her fault, she is classy and has taste. She has probably passed that stage where she followed her university love to the beans and bread seller. She is not about that life anymore. She still loves you a lot though, her taste notwithstanding.

Point being, at every point in your life, know how to cut your coat according to your size. And if you want to punch above your weight, don't go shouting about ladies' love for money. They are most likely just above your league.

LilSfc:
Op you are right
I don't use to have problem with my girlfriend. She's a church girl and also very serious type academically. So anything I give her, no complaints even when I offered her nothing. We are still cool �

spiritedtete:
What a post... OP is this how you define "out of your league?" Eheheheheheheheh.

Shame just dey catch me on your behalf lol

kunleweb:



Hmm " out of your league "

IamD18:
Zicoraads, I just don't want to believe that this writeup came from you. Even a demented and dimwitted slowpoke cannot stoop so low to scribble such rubbish.

>Relationship shouldn't be a financial means of a woman. It's should be relationship, not a job for a lady.

>The only set of ladies allowed to form class should be a lady who is rich and can afford her needs without depending on any man, which means classy ladies are not suppose to depend on men because they are rich and can fend for themselves.

Simply put: Hungry ladies who asks men for money in a bid to form classy are nothing but riffraffs and poor ladies.

Question is; Why should a poor lady live a level of life she can't maintain without depending on a man?

IamD18:
Zicoraads, I just don't want to believe that this writeup came from you. Even a demented and dimwitted slowpoke cannot stoop so low to scribble such rubbish.

>Relationship shouldn't be a financial means of a woman. It's should be relationship, not a job for a lady.

>The only set of ladies allowed to form class should be a lady who is rich and can afford her needs without depending on any man, which means classy ladies are not suppose to depend on men because they are rich and can fend for themselves.

Simply put: Hungry ladies who asks men for money in a bid to form classy are nothing but riffraffs and poor ladies.

Question is; Why should a poor lady live a level of life she can't maintain without depending on a man?

geezyk:
But seriously speaking, you're not making sense here, the guy you used as a reference point explicitly told the girl that he sees a future with her after they are thru with studies which she jumped to accept, without knowing she had her own ulterior motive, she should have known that he's the modest type and he has little to live by.

You made a point about a classy lady not following me to a buka to eat, fine!! why would she accept to date me in the first place when she knows I'm really not her taste and can't afford to pay her bills, (because she's a gold digger) does that make sense? if you wanna date someone, date a person who sees the potential in you and knows your ambitions. but then a classy woman won't go for an "I neva chop boy"

zicoraads:
I've seen countless narratives on Nairaland about ladies and their love for money. The most annoying one was the one I saw today of a guy complaining that his girlfriend would always want them to eat out where he'll end up paying 2k or 3k. But let's be honest with ourselves, that narrative is very wrong.

Now I'll show you why it is.

There are different types of ladies in a university. As someone who comes from a modest home, go for the ones who are serious with their studies and are more into guys who know why they are in school. These ones are more of the future than the present. They don't even mind drinking garri with you. Others, however, are the ones whose houses off campus are tastefully furnished and who live in apartments worth 150k. They also dress to kill. You think all of these fell from the sky? She has a lifestyle that needs to be maintained. As her man, realize that you also have to contribute to that. Don't ask her out and if she starts demanding, you run to Nairaland, shouting about how ladies are materialistic.

There are also these types of ladies in the larger society. A working class lady will most likely not follow you to the woman who sells beans and bread around your area. She will most likely prefer to lodge or eat Golden Tulips, Jevinik, BluCabana etc. Not her fault, she is classy and has taste. She has probably passed that stage where she followed her university love to the beans and bread seller. She is not about that life anymore. She still loves you a lot though, her taste notwithstanding.

Point being, at every point in your life, know how to cut your coat according to your size. And if you want to punch above your weight, don't go shouting about ladies' love for money. They are most likely just above your league.

SonsOfLiverpool:
I still have not understood the term "above your league" what does it mean? Can you give a good explanation?

IamD18:
Zicoraads, I just don't want to believe that this writeup came from you. Even a demented and dimwitted slowpoke cannot stoop so low to scribble such rubbish.

>Relationship shouldn't be a financial means of a woman. It's should be relationship, not a job for a lady.

>The only set of ladies allowed to form class should be a lady who is rich and can afford her needs without depending on any man, which means classy ladies are not suppose to depend on men because they are rich and can fend for themselves.

Simply put: Hungry ladies who asks men for money in a bid to form classy are nothing but riffraffs and poor ladies.

Question is; Why should a poor lady live a level of life she can't maintain without depending on a man?

zicoraads:

Let's try and keep it civil, shall we?!

That said, I'll tell you my reasoning. I totally agree that relationships should never be a financial avenue for anyone, man or woman. I also agree that the only woman agree to form that level of class should be a financially independent woman.

Since we have agreed on the above, I'll like to ask you some few questions.

I think we can also agree that a lady like Linda Ikeji falls into that category. Now if, for instance, you ask her out and she agrees to date you, do you think because she is financially independent, she wouldn't want diamond necklaces, wrist watches, original designer shoes and bags as gifts? Or won't you surprise her by taking her to the best restaurants in town, or even a getaway weekend at a good and expensive hotel or even to other places abroad?

I'll love you to answer the questions above.

Getting her those things won't change the fact that she is financially independent.

But how about when you date the lady in your street? Will she want all of that? Of course not!

So why ask a "Linda Ikeji" out? Instead of asking that lady in your street out. Which one do you think will be more financially draining on you? The answer you have is the reason why this thread was created.

mfm04622:


Summary, if a lady demands or request you eat at a certain place that is expensive, she is not materialistic, just that her standard is higher than yours.

It is not about a lady demanding MONEY, it is about levels

zicoraads:
I've seen countless narratives on Nairaland about ladies and their love for money. The most annoying one was the one I saw today of a guy complaining that his girlfriend would always want them to eat out where he'll end up paying 2k or 3k. But let's be honest with ourselves, that narrative is very wrong.

Now I'll show you why it is.

There are different types of ladies in a university. As someone who comes from a modest home, go for the ones who are serious with their studies and are more into guys who know why they are in school. These ones are more of the future than the present. They don't even mind drinking garri with you. Others, however, are the ones whose houses off campus are tastefully furnished and who live in apartments worth 150k. They also dress to kill. You think all of these fell from the sky? She has a lifestyle that needs to be maintained. As her man, realize that you also have to contribute to that. Don't ask her out and if she starts demanding, you run to Nairaland, shouting about how ladies are materialistic.

There are also these types of ladies in the larger society. A working class lady will most likely not follow you to the woman who sells beans and bread around your area. She will most likely prefer to lodge or eat Golden Tulips, Jevinik, BluCabana etc. Not her fault, she is classy and has taste. She has probably passed that stage where she followed her university love to the beans and bread seller. She is not about that life anymore. She still loves you a lot though, her taste notwithstanding.

Point being, at every point in your life, know how to cut your coat according to your size. And if you want to punch above your weight, don't go shouting about ladies' love for money. They are most likely just above your league.

cruchenutii:
Oh OP. Just shut up please.

Did I hear you say Golden Tulip? A single room cost 40k minimum per night. Even If you are earning 200k as Salary. You can't eat there more than once.

zicoraads:

You are agreeing with me nau

A room is not up to that amount. But even if it is and you are earning 200k as salary, do you think it will be a problem to some whose basic salary is above 500k plus allowances?