Dear Cupids,

I am writing this with tears in my eyes. I hope they don’t become inks with which I will write this story of my life. Sometimes, I ask myself,”why are men wicked? “. I even wonder if I can love again. Even if I wish to, how do I get someone who will appreciate me even after hearing my story.

It all began this way, I kept my virginity for 25 years. Even while I was an undergraduate, I didn’t give in to sex. I had a boyfriend but we had an agreement to abstain from sex until we finished our university program. I graduated and got a good job. Things were fine but for some challenges here and there. There were pressures both from friends and family for me to get married. I didn’t bother to bow to that pressure because I believe I have my life to prioritize before all that, so I focused on advancing my career.

I live (and still live)in Ajah,Lagos,Nigeria. There were a few persons I said hello to, I loved being indoors. I also loved to respect myself because I hate any form of embarrassment. Things turned around when, for the first time, I noticed a gentle-looking young man. His clothes were spic and span. He asked me out; in my mind I said, “I think I like this one,even if I’d bow to pressure of getting married,it should be on record that I made the right choice". We started dating and as usual, sex was sacred—bed undefiled. I maintained my stance on being a virgin until after wedding. Wole loved me, He treated me like the apple of his eyes. He respected the ground I stepped on. In fact, I was an egg in his hands.

Two months into our relationship, he requested for sex, this time, I had fallen head over heels in love with him. So, I told him to become a member of my church even if I would accept his proposal. I did this to lure him into marrying me. He accepted but we never had sex. He was on probation. One thing that swept me off my feet was that he never showed any iota of displeasure. He just played along. Again, two months later, he proposed to me. He took me to his house in order to meet his parents and siblings. We were cool. Our wedding was going to be the talk of the town. He attended all the marriage counseling sessions, he practically never missed one.

On a very unfaithfully fateful Saturday, the cars where ready, the stage was set, a cavalcade of young beautiful ladies and an array of handsome men were set to see us off into our journey of a lifetime,it was our wedding day. Our pre-wedding pictures flooding the faces of Facebook and Twitter. Every friend’s timeline on Instagram was beautifully interrupted by our pre-wedding pictures. We were a beautiful couple to behold.

After the wedding, we made perfect love. It was the first I ever had. I was thankful for the kind of husband I now have. I even envied myself. I lost my virginity and it was worth it. My husband asked for permission to film our sexual intercourse. “Honey”,he said, “may I film this very romantic love making of ours for future purposes? “
“Yes, my love”, I replied, “you don’t need to ask, at least, am all yours now”

We laughed and the camera was on and we acted the personal "blue-film" as requested by my husband. I’m ashamed of saying this but I believe it’s nothing to be ashamed of now. I’ve lived in depression ever since my marriage was dissolved. To cut the long story short, 3 months into our marriage, my husband started receiving calls from unknown persons telling him that his rent was due, he needed to pack out of the house. Things started going from better to worse. I began to suspect that something was wrong.

One day, I entered my room and met my husband’s friends in our room watching the film we had made. At first, I was shocked to have seen them in the room. I noticed the face of one of them, I still recognized him. He had asked me out but I turned him down in the public. “What is he doing here? “ I muttered to myself . I look at this television, I was hearing the moan from the lady and the man on top of her. I was mad. “Why are they seeing that film in my room?”, I wondered angrily. A closer look at the television revealed my face and that of my husband. I became madder. I called my husband who was in the kitchen at the time . He came out and saw me crying but he wasn’t moved at all. He told me to take heart. He also told me that that guy that had asked me out owns the house. “What? “ I exclaimed, “so it was all a game? “. I went inside and shamefully packed my luggage and that was the end of my marriage. Some men are wicked! What did I do to deserve such humiliation? The family, the house, the car and all were all rented. Believe me, this is neither a cock and bull story nor a Nollywood script .

Please be kind enough to advise me. I am no longer ashamed to tell my story. One who has an ailment of the private part doesn’t hide it from one’s doctor. I need help. Please, I don’t want to die of depression. I need to move on. I don’t want to be a baby mama. I need a man that will support me even after knowing my story but first, I need to learn how to forgive ANYTHING called MAN and move on with my life.

Regards,
Anonymous

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so you marry 1 man who breaks your heart then go "why are men wicked"? did you marry all men?
if your father abuses you does it make all fathers evil? smh. i lay a curse on your stupid head.

Dis one is deep oh bt d man went far cus from dat story it seems d lady disgrace or insult his friend and dat is y dey came up wit d game bt its too expensive.. My only advise for her is to change her environment and move on.. Shit lyk dat happens and dere is nothing new in dis world, she just need to let go of her past and face d present and d future cus holding on to d past won't solve her problem and it won't take her to anywhere and am sure by d time she learn how to forget abt d past den she will meet anoda man dat will love her d way she is and she will b happy again. Peace.

Hmmm... Ma, though forgiving him won't be easy... You should forgive... And then, dedicate your all in all to God and pull closer to him at this point... It only takes time... You'll get over this for sure... Let go of your past because your future is definitely brighter! Focus more on the positive things in your life like your career and people you genuinely love... And those who genuinely love you too! Don't forget the God factor also... He heals every pain and mends every broken heart...

Lalasticlala, seun

Laughs....25years of celibacy,, only to lose it to a joker...

Nonsense.
She is very stupid.
Recording a sex session is a pure foolishness even in marriage,
It's silly and I can never try that rubbish.
If you want a sex video, go to a porn site,
What if the marriage ends in a bitter way and he leaks it to punish you?
What if his phone is stolen and the thief sees the sex video and leak it?
What if an intruder have access to his phone and sees the video and transfer it to his/her phone
.
Women let's wise up.
Nude pics /video is nonsensical.

Take heart sis. But u have to change your mindset about all men being wicked. Else you will only keep attracting the wicked ones to you. Not all men are the shame. Take heart, and move on.

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Who ever goes into marriage expecting to be disappointed? Everyone goes into marriage in good faith and with goodwill. She might not be totally wrong,
given the fact that she considers herself safe in the hands of the man she loves---her husband.

Amarabae:
Nonsense.
She is very stupid.
Recording a sex session is a pure foolishness even in marriage,
It's silly and I can never try that rubbish.
If you want a sex video, go to a porn site,
What if the marriage ends in a bitter way and he leaks it to punish you?
What if his phone is stolen and the thief sees the sex video and leak it?
What if an intruder have access to his phone and sees the video and transfer it to his/her phone
.
Women let's wise up.
Nude pics /video is nonsensical.

I hope u took the film with u?

vezi4real:
I hope u took the film with u?

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Let me spread my mat here first!!! OYA!! WHAT DOES SHE WANT NOW?

Aunty u can lie oh

If this is real,then am short of words,this is wickedness of the highest level

prettysassygirl:
If this is real,then am short of words,this is wickedness of the highest level

Wickedness indeed

Good morning. Thanks for the advice given thus far. Stay blessed

This story just sounds so stupid. I’m so sorry.

Saff:
This story just sounds so stupid. I’m so sorry.

Please explain,ma

I have watched this movie before and it's a Ghanian movie. I swear with God, it's not a lie.

Story for nairalandes, some people we believe this shit

honestly av watched d movie.



d guy will lata genuinely fall in love with her after she packed out

If you're gonna make up stories, at least be a creative writer. Bs story full of clichés and out dated metaphors.

LivingFree:
If you're gonna make up stories, at least be a creative writer. Bs story full of clichés and out dated metaphors.

The story above was sent in by a person presumably going through the situation as described in the story per se. To read from people with much acrimony only tells of the fact that there's need to attend to severe case of mental health challenges in our society. There are better ways to question the authenticity of a story, not by hurling insults ignorantly. By the way, what do you mean by "outdated metaphor". I can bet you have no idea of the words you're even using. If you have a mastery of the words you've used, please educate me on the word CLICHÉ in tandem with the story above, match it with your criticism, if you will.

Hector09:
Story for nairalandes, some people we believe this shit

This statement of yours goes to show the functionality of your mind. All I can say is this, an adage in Igboland says, "when the corpse of a man is paraded in public it looks like a log of wood to another man, until he himself gets a personal experience". You'll appreciate better when something similar occurs to you or persons closer to you. Then, it will dawn on you that is not one of those "poos" or Nollywood movies, it's reality.

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