Stats: 3,189,852 members, 7,938,481 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 September 2024 at 07:18 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. (12444 Views)
Man Dumps Wife For Being A Bad Cook / Married As A Second Wife For Child-Bearing / Man Dumps Wife For Sister Inlaw, Says Her Cooking And Sex Is Better (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by Kenyy: 6:44pm On Jun 10, 2010 |
. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by DrKnow1(m): 8:51pm On Jun 10, 2010 |
In the dark, there is no difference between the housemaid and the madam! |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by AloyEmeka5: 11:36pm On Jun 10, 2010 |
eldee: Nobody is stopping him for preferring his housemaid but he should be man enough to pay the prize. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by Osama10(m): 2:28am On Jun 11, 2010 |
Dr Know: Oh la la, so the housemaid is sexier than madam? |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by eldee(m): 2:50am On Jun 11, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka: What price?? Splitting his property into two and giving half to a woman that was only there to spend your money in the first place?? We have taken some useless things from UK law, but divorce settlements are on a whole new level. UK divorce laws are still stuck in the age-old concept that women are less able to work than men, hence the need to compensate them for divorces. But this is 2010, most women work/should work, so where's the justification for paying her that exorbitant amount of money?? I'm still yet to see someone that can bring a reasonable answer to this simple question. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by hbrednic: 3:30am On Jun 11, 2010 |
favouredjb: i believe God has more important things to care of. the word "stooping so low to fuk a house girl" is both derogatry and discriminating. housegirls are no less women than the so called madams ![]() ![]() |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by hbrednic: 3:39am On Jun 11, 2010 |
Osama10: for respect, they are called "thick madams" instead of "fat madams" ![]() ![]() yes the housegirls are slimmer and sexier ![]() ![]() |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by favouredjb(f): 10:31am On Jun 11, 2010 |
hbrednic: well,i know the house maid is human too, i agree with you,but do u think its fair? |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by idifu(m): 12:39pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
o ga o |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by eldee(m): 12:55pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
favouredjb: You know what I think is not fair?? Staying in a marriage when all you want to do is sleep with someone else. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by AloyEmeka5: 2:19pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
eldee: Why do you find it difficult to swallow the fact that splitting properties law has come to stay in Nigeria?. Are you threatened by it or what?. If you are not comfortable with the law, stop cheating on your wife chikena. The man may have made the money but he wouldn't achieve his full potential if the woman was not doing her job at home. So, she deserves half his empire as her share of their marriage property, child support to feed, clothe and shelter the man's children and alimony to compensate for the heart break and embarrassment. That is why I suggest she gets 80-90% of their business empire and everybody will be even. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by spikedcylinder: 2:32pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
eldee: Then why did he get married in the first place? To find someone to boss around? To be at his beck and call? Many men sleep around regardless, it doesn't mean they don't love their wives or that they want a divorce. Also, people are harping on the fact that he slept with his maid for the simple reasons in dating/marriage - it is quite unethical to sleep with your partner's friend, sister, brother, employee, mother or father. The fact that she's a maid and human is not the bone of contention here, she's an employee of his wife. Sleeping with her is not only disrespectful to his wife but his children and everything else his marriage stood for. If there are no consequences for certain actions, laws that need to be re-addressed and put in place etc, everything will just be exercises in futility. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by eldee(m): 2:39pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka: Dude, just because it's the law doesn't mean it's right. Yeah, it is wrong to cheat on your wife, but is it the job of the law to punish you for sleeping with your housegirl?? Since when did it become the job of the law to protect christian ideologies?? Are you being serious?? She deserves half of his property because she was cleaning the house and he was toiling hard building an empire?? This makes a whole joke of the UK-Wales and Nigerian legal systems, feminism and family life. Like seriously . . . you think people should lose 80% of their property for having consensual sex with other people just because they're married. Sometimes you guys just amuse me with this, copy the UK thing. And these are the same people that are planning to imprison people for being gay. Nigeria is a joke. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by eldee(m): 2:53pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
spikedcylinder: There are consequences . . . moral and social retribution are powerful enough to handle cases of ideological differences. The law is not there to punish people for being 'unethical' with Spikedcylinder's moral standards. Truth be told, how unethical is it in a country where polygamy is not illegal. A marriage is not a prison . . .and we shouldn't financially cripple somebody because he realised that he made a mistake in his social life and he wants out. Fine she should get enough money to support herself and her children . . . but it should end with the amount needed to sstain the life of the average middle class Nigerian. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by spikedcylinder: 3:04pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
eldee: He should not be punished for sleeping with his maid, he should be punished for cheating on his wife within the confines of their marriage (which is ordained by the law) as should be the case if it were the other way round. My moral standards have nothing to do with an industrialist humping a tree, I was simply pointing out what was *common knowledge* regarding certain aspects of dating and marriage. Marriage is not a prison, definitely. He wants out, fair enough. He should pay for going out. It's not a regular man/woman relationship that you can drop like hot lead. That's why people need to think carefully before going into such institutions because there are laws guiding them. If you are not marriage material and know your snake cannot remain in your knickers, don't get married. Simples. ![]() ![]() |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by spikedcylinder: 3:07pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
Plus, he should not just pay her for upkeep of the kids and basic maintenance. Living for 30yrs with him, she'll be used to a certain lifestyle and going below that (I forgot the term for it - Relative Income Hypothesis, I think) is economically errr detrimental. He should pay her such that she can keep up with her lifestyle whilst taking care of herself and her kids. ![]() |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by AloyEmeka5: 3:24pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
eldee:Polygamy is only legal in Nigeria under the customary law. If you married in the court and cheats on your wife with another woman, she can legally kick you out of the very house you built before you married her and take over your business. It has happened in Lagos 2 times. So, be careful how you assert the law and zip up unless you want to end up under Ojuelegba bridge. Nigerian women of this age are no more ready to take BS from men like you. You cheat, you pay dearly. 93% of your net worth or nothing. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by Lovemee(f): 4:50pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
The man should pay dearly for his stupid act. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by eldee(m): 6:42pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
spikedcylinder: Under the law, a marriage is a contract. When contracts are severed, compensation is based on what you brought to the contract and not halving the defecting party's property. The law is not there to halve people's property because they made a simple mistake and arguably victimless, it makes a mess of the legal system. In your own logic, when I sign a contract to work for a company for a period of time and I quit without a reason, they should come and take half of my investments. Or isn't the workplace contract an institution ordained by the law too?? It is totally unreasonable and out-of-place for the law to be used as a tool for revenge when love goes sour. The law is wrong . . . and it needs to be fixed, it's already getting enough criticism in the UK, I'm sure Nigeria is waiting there like the obedient dog waiting for them to correct theirs first. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by eldee(m): 6:47pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
spikedcylinder: Oh I get it . . . so we should punish him for introducing the stupid woman to the good life?? WOW!!! How low can you guys go . . . this same woman did not go out and when he was building his business but now he should suffer for helping her out from her possibly poverty-stricken upbringing?? How then can we open our mouths and say we're helping women if we train them into becoming gold-diggers and all that?? Besides you say a marriage is not a prison, what's the difference between losing half your property and being locked up?? |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by eldee(m): 6:53pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka: You are being daft here. . . so because I support a change in the laws guarding divorce rights, I'm a cheating husband?? Let's be reasonable here and avoid personal statements please. As I said before, look at the big picture, the law is wrong. . . full stop. Just because it's the law doesn't mean it's perfect . . . you still haven't given a reasonable justification for these laws. These laws are as daft as the law banning improper positioning of stamps on envelopes. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by AloyEmeka5: 7:21pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
eldee:It is the law accepted by the citizens of the Federal Republic of Nigeria and I think you should respect it. If it works for them who are you to come and tell them that the law in their Motherland is wrong? |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by eldee(m): 8:26pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka: I am Nigerian by birth, and if I am affected by a stupid law, I have the right to complain. If the law needs change then it should be reviewed. The fact that the daft Senators are more interested in stealing money while they just photocopy the UK Constitution isn't a valid reason. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by AloyEmeka5: 9:29pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
eldee: I wonder why you did not complain or demand for a change in the typical Nigerian culture that relegates women to the back seat. A culture where the man can wake up any day and send the woman packing to her fathers house with or without her children, replace her with another woman and still threaten to make life miserable for her?. How come you started complaining because your ego is threatened by the fact that women are over running the Nigerian judiciary and the law is slowly working towards their favor?. Just respect yourself and your wife otherwise your azz will be on the street. It is the new Nigerian order, get with the program as soon as possible if you know what is good for you. Bella-Power ebeano! |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by tayo4me(f): 11:12pm On Jun 11, 2010 |
With the way women are being treated, I dont think I will get married o, because I cant tolerate all the rubbish men dish out to women. After suffering with a man when he was a nobody, he suddenly wakes up one day after becuming somebody and decides to get married to sum1 else, and tell u to ur face u didnt contribute anytin to his life. I tell people that care to listen that if I eventually get married and then smell a rat, I wont hesitate to leave the marriage. Many women suffer in marriages especially in Africa but refuse to leave because of their children. Honestly the best is to leave, because the children you claim to be protecting will not forgive you later if the situation gets worse. After leaving, I will make life difficult for the man and the so-called new woman. Some men are just really ungrateful |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by Sagamite(m): 1:27am On Jun 12, 2010 |
~Sissy~: Because? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() So na monkey they work, Baboon dey chop? Aloy+Emeka: You don dey take Igbo? ![]() Shey na because of WC euphoria, abi wetin? A man should dish out his life's sweat to a woman to show he is a real man? ![]() stillwater: Ehn! I know. Na Nigeria's annual budget make she ask for. ![]() Seun: Thank you! I wonder where in the legislation does it state judges should make judgement on punishment for cheating. If she is hurt, then she should dump him. N1bn me arse! OYINKANSOW: Professor, I really did not know these is the secret to building a solid business. I used to think it was mainly due to brains, ability, knowledge, network, hunger and hard work. I didn't know all those were irrelevant. ![]() OYINKANSOW: There are a lot of rich men, who have servants doing this, whilst the wife lives her life. They did not pay a majority of their wealth to this servants. So I wonder how this is relevant to his success. OYINKANSOW: What is with all this whining? I am not too sure what part of Earth you live on, but where I live and I have lived, marriage is an option, not by force. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by Sagamite(m): 1:39am On Jun 12, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka: LWKMD!!! What contract? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Lets look at it. The traditional marriage vows would go as forth: “I, (Sarah/James), take you (Sarah/James), to be my (wife/husband), to have and behold from this day on, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; until death do us part.” “As God unites us in the presence of our family and friends, I give you my firm commitment to be faithful and loyal to you, in sickness and in health, good times or bad, in sadness and in joy. I do promise to love you unconditionally, to help you make your dreams come true and to respect and honor you. I cherish you, my dear (name) for as long as we both shall live.” Then if this is a CONTRACT, then surely courts should be applying punitive measures for contract breach to any individual instigating a divorce since the contract says "till death do us apart?" ![]() Mate, it is not a contract. It is just sweet, nice things you whisper to one another. Aloy+Emeka: She should live the life she can afford for herself or her (new) partner can provide for her. Why should any individual pay for your lifestyle because you are used to it? Aloy+Emeka: So if the jurisdictional arm is empowered to judge and punish for infidelity, and you can award monetary punishment on a partner for cheating? So what will be the punishment for a married woman that cheats on her wealthy husband? They will give him the 5m she owns to add to his 1Bn? Or the law should punish some and let others go scot free for the same offence? |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by Sagamite(m): 1:56am On Jun 12, 2010 |
chaircover: And how is that worth N1bn? chaircover: The ones she is asking the courts for custody of? ![]() ![]() ![]() So she did not GIVE him? ![]() I can swear in most cases, she also wanted to have children it was not his sole choice. chaircover: And so? So do close family and friends, do they also deserve N1bn? chaircover: And so? chaircover: And so? chaircover: And so? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() This one is funny. So it is part of the reason to be paid his sweat? So when he sleeps alone what is his compensation? chaircover: I am not going to go through the rest one by one. Basically, my point is, she should be collecting what her effort and contributions is worth. What IF SHE HAD NOT done, he would not have made his wealth. That is fair and square. If he had been single, that does not mean he would not have made his wealth, he would have just used domestics. It is ability that makes money, not because you have a wife that cooks and clean. Otherwise Simon Cowell mush have stolen his wealth. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by Sagamite(m): 2:05am On Jun 12, 2010 |
Outstrip: I hope you realise a lot of women dump men because they no longer find satisfaction in him and have found men that would pay them more/better "attention"? And all you hear from other women is them blaming the man for not "doing his job". ![]() Should courts also punish such women for not staying in the relationship? Outstrip: If he is working for and the money is coming from his salary to pay for it. She uses her salary for something else, then it is his. People should work for THEIR assets. Not say we were married so you work, I chop because I am used to you providing the chops. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by Sagamite(m): 2:13am On Jun 12, 2010 |
chaircover: Humans of both sexes can be heartless. Also laws that are in itself injustices lead to such fighting. it makes one party think of how they can exploit and others to get too defensive to prevent it. I think every country should in this day and age make it mandatory for every marriage to have a pre-nup. So you know what you get before you get into it. Shebe if na contract for real, make you kukuma know in advance within be the penalty of each breach. |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by Sagamite(m): 2:41am On Jun 12, 2010 |
texazzpete: Thank you jare. ![]() I ask the question above. So what happens to an adulterous woman married to a rich man? The court still pass her assets to him as well? Or she escapes punishment, or worse still, even still get him to pay "for the lifestyle she is used to" despite cheating? So what of the lifestyle he is used to? Does she continue to provide this too? E.g. constant s<x? If she is a housewife, there should be some assets (but capped at a reasonable max for average national need) allocated to her and certain alimony for a short period until she gets her feet together (except she is at an age where employment is no more feasible, then alimony for life) If she was a working woman during the relationship, then she should mainly take what she put in and live the life her ability can afford. Instead of looking for free lunch. You share when you are in marriage, you stop sharing when you stop being married. bish-2: I don't feel sorry for Tiger or McCarthney. Why did the bloody foools not sign pre-nups when they are already stupendously rich pre-marriage? Let the women milk them jor. eldee: Thank you jor. Most of the argument of the women here is just a subterfuge. What they really are saying is that they are unhappy and feel insecure that it is inevitable they would lose their looks and they feel betrayed if a man leaves them after that and can pick up another woman whilst they can not really compete as effectively anymore. Hence the want the man to compensate them (or they milk him) for their biological foibles if it unfortunately happens. Women dump guys for another guy that makes them happier, but the thing that surprises me is that, it is these same women who will turnaround and blame the guy that "he did not give her enough attention". They will not remember that "marriage is a contract then". But if a man does it: "He must not get away with it, he used her". ![]() |
Re: Industrialist Dumps Wife For Housemaid. by Sagamite(m): 3:17am On Jun 12, 2010 |
Renoya: I don't think there is any original thought to this. You just regurgitated whatever western philosophy you have heard. I don't know since when housework is worth or can generate billions of naira, no matter how hard you do the housework. |
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (Reply)
Teenage Boys And Hormones. / Are Extra Lessons Really Necessary For School Children? / Learn To Live With This: Men Owns Women.
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 137 |