Amakababe:
you talk exactly like an experienced prostitute. No offence.

no ooo.She is a nurse that is why. Nurses generally are plane when they talk about sex.

RiyadhGoddess:






Once a week is fine for me. I'm not a sex person. He will understand that. More of fore play is cool for me. I won't even marry a man that loves sex in the first instance.

It appears you have never been taken there before, that's why you have no clue what you're missing nor what it feels like.

Sweetheart you really need a German machine in your life & certainly your life will never remain the same.

Amarabae:

Let me advise you.
Sex is good in marriage but overdoing it look odd and tiring.
For some women, 3 times a week is too much,
While for some, it's okay
What she is trying to tell you is "sweetheart it's not everytime there will be a penetration, we can do some pre-intimacy and romance each other and have fun.
It can be a good Mouth Action and then you both sleep without any penetration(if she likes Mouth Action)
You can give her a good head and you both sleep.
It must not end in penetration.
Too much full penetration sex will make both of you burn out and get tired of each other, and the thoughts of cheating will come in.
Give penetration sex some time gap so that you both can be refreshed and hungry for it again.
.
Oriaku Amara

Ada Oma.. u Sabi book and sound quite experienced. Nice one Amara

dat is how women are wired to be.is just like a law of diminishing return,she will gradually continue to reduce the nos of times she want sex and it has noting to do wit infidelity.my wife thus dat too,before i got married i was hapi i got a partner of desame or even hire libido than i do becos she do initiate sex even more dan i do.but now in marriage we are cool too but i noticed dat am always craving for sex more dan her.i was like is dis not thesame person dat can give me pleasure at any contact before?now is either once in a week or even in two weeks

SlayQueenSlayer:


Guy, I hope you get to marry her o. If not ehh, una don't cheat her husband finish o.

Wallahi.

ecgreb:
Good morning nairalanders. I have been married to my wife for more than 10 years now and we have beautiful kids. She was the first and only woman I have ever had sex with. Averagely, we have sex 3 times weekly and it has always been fun. I ensure that I carryout my manly responsibilities by providing for the family and trying to make everyone happy. Few days ago, she decline my sexual advances. Later, I ask to know why she did that and she told me that I love sex too much. I was embarrassed. She sleeps nowadays in the children room or in the parlour just to avoid me though she refuses to accept that truth. Please I wish to know ideally how many times couples here have sex with their partners weekly and how I can control my sex cravings towards her. I just wish I can stay away from having sex with her even for two months.

As usual most males here completely missed it! Most of our young men of nowadays are completely clueless about our modern women.

Oga I am so sorry to say it but one of your madams friends have introduced her to the pussy gang! Your wife has been introduced to Almighty LESBIANISM! The killer of every marriage! The moment she cums through fingering, licking and sucking of her pussy by her girlfriend then your lovemaking with her immediately becomes tasteless, uninteresting and tiring. Because you are not observant enough, you think your dick is Bae, lol! My brother from today, watch her activities carefully and you will be shocked what you will learn. Just divorce her when you make the revelation for yourself because no amount of your penetration will ever satisfy her again. She has tasted the forbidden truth, chase her away from your garden cos her eyes are now open and all is lost.

from personal experience, my 1st suspect is
FOUL PLAY!... an ex or a better John Thomas
is probably in the picture!

other factors (hormonal changes, monotony, etc) are SECONDARY.

ecgreb:
Good morning nairalanders. I have been married to my wife for more than 10 years now and we have beautiful kids. She was the first and only woman I have ever had sex with. Averagely, we have sex 3 times weekly and it has always been fun. I ensure that I carryout my manly responsibilities by providing for the family and trying to make everyone happy. Few days ago, she decline my sexual advances. Later, I ask to know why she did that and she told me that I love sex too much. I was embarrassed. She sleeps nowadays in the children room or in the parlour just to avoid me though she refuses to accept that truth. Please I wish to know ideally how many times couples here have sex with their partners weekly and how I can control my sex cravings towards her. I just wish I can stay away from having sex with her even for two months.

May be she can not bear it any longer just tell her you will need a second wife to prevent extra marital affairs.my opinion

If my wife/not girlfriend but wife, says constantly that I like sex too much and avoids me for it , I won’t trouble her, but I’ll most certainly consider getting what I am not getting from her from somewhere else ..

are you married?

RiyadhGoddess:
Op you mean you have sex 3 times a week? That's too much mehn! You need to start learning how to live/survive without sex. Whenever she travels or whenever you travel, how do you do it? Do you go with her or ask her to go with you because you must mark the sex attendance? To me I think once a week is cool. Down there needs to rest or heal na. I can't imagine pounding the below thrice a week especially if you are the type that your egg plant is like that of a horse. That's wickedness you know. Once a week is OK while the rest can be some other sort of pre-intimacy. I think your wife will like that. Your wife might have been enduring all along but can't take it anymore or she likes it that way but there's something bothering her. Just sit her down nicely and both of you should discuss it. Ask her how she loves it or if there's anything bothering her.
That's my opinion o kilomode mo, mo mo nkan kan o

Amarabae:

Let me advise you.
Sex is good in marriage but overdoing it look odd and tiring.
For some women, 3 times a week is too much,
While for some, it's okay
What she is trying to tell you is "sweetheart it's not everytime there will be a penetration, we can do some pre-intimacy and romance each other and have fun.
It can be a good Mouth Action and then you both sleep without any penetration(if she likes Mouth Action)
You can give her a good head and you both sleep.
It must not end in penetration.
Too much full penetration sex will make both of you burn out and get tired of each other, and the thoughts of cheating will come in.
Give penetration sex some time gap so that you both can be refreshed and hungry for it again.
.
Oriaku Amara

Hey, the number of times you mentioned penetration in your comment compels me to conclude that you sef love penetration well well.

ealtutu:
Giv her space you killed the urge .you men are fond of having sex with your wife and not making love wht do you expect you have killed d libido already start thinking of something new ,show more affection .she is feeling jst being used I hav bn there.pray you will b able to bring her up again cos is not easy.

What's the difference between 'having sex' & 'making love'?

Subtly let her know that you dont want to have to screw outside

CorGier:
Hey enough of that nonsense all of you. The onus ain't on him to fix her. Funny enough sex is one of the motivating factors why most of you ímbeciles choose to put a ring on it in the first place, and what do we have here? An entitled bítch not only denying him his matrimonial rights but shaming him in the process.
These are the same lot who con men into walking them down the aisle should they want full unrestricted access to the puss.
If it's the general norm for women to loose interest in sex as they approach menopause or something, what plans has she put in place to ensure his sexual needs are met? Who else is he supposed to run to if not her?

I hate this.

These are two people who should have bonded by now, nothing else in the world should matter to them than their collective happiness.
Like really why do we even bother, I mean what's the point of all this marriage nonsense if after ten whole years of investment and sacrifice, it all comes down to this fúckery. I admire most of you with the level of shít you to put up with. I dare you that dear wifey to pull that stunt on me, there ain't even gon be a kids room for yo arse to run to.

Word

NokiaN8:
she is seeing another man.. from experience... watch her steps... maybe her ex called her a d they having a nice time at ur back... or smthing with a neighbor...

It is your type that break homes.so irritating

nwaanambra1:



as u fine reach like this na him u dey talk this kain yeye talk say u no like sex!



my dear you should prepare your mind to the fact that your hubby should be lashing you at least 7 times a week - that is on compassionate ground!


if you are lucky enough to marry a man like me - looking at your face will be giving me a boner every time and i will be lashin you like two times a day - one for breakfast and one for dinner - pre-intimacy will come only whn u r on your period and i think four or 5 days break for your period is quite good enough in all ramification.

as i dey look your profile pic self fuk don dey hungry me - and na to pour some clean thick akamu on top that ur golden teeth and that your fresh lips be the koko! i go love see how you go take lick am all and swallow the hot onitsha akamu!

Do you realize that the sexual urge is higher in women during their monthly cycle.

So I will advise you don't take her there & leave her there.

Amarabae:

Let me advise you.
Sex is good in marriage but overdoing it look odd and tiring.
For some women, 3 times a week is too much,
While for some, it's okay
What she is trying to tell you is "sweetheart it's not everytime there will be a penetration, we can do some pre-intimacy and romance each other and have fun.
It can be a good Mouth Action and then you both sleep without any penetration(if she likes Mouth Action)
You can give her a good head and you both sleep.
It must not end in penetration.
Too much full penetration sex will make both of you burn out and get tired of each other, and the thoughts of cheating will come in.
Give penetration sex some time gap so that you both can be refreshed and hungry for it again.
.
Oriaku Amara

Nice point but u wan come make look sey na porn dey wan dey act........he should just sit his wife down and talk to her mke she tell her as she want am that ends it.

Powerexpert:
are you married?

I'm not married

She dey madt?

Bible says a wise woman builds her home this one is using her own hand to destroy

NokiaN8:
she is seeing another man.. from experience... watch her steps... maybe her ex called her a d they having a nice time at ur back... or smthing with a neighbor...

Tell him man

RiyadhGoddess:





Awusubillahi

Awusubitrue.

geosegun:


There is no prove. Women loses libido with time but will never admit it. They will rather give a lame excuse or shift blame. A ara gave a good reason but half baked truth. That's why our fore father married more than one wives and there are less promiscuity in those days. Please note that I am not in support of polygamy just stating the obvious truth.

And what's wrong with polygamy?

You wife did the right thing sleeping away from you, because you think irresponsibly, if I were your wife and saw this post, more dire consequences await you. Now that you've shared your marriage problem, I hope you've found solutions from the many single people that commented. Your marriage lacks style, innovation and drive. Better call your wife and understand things from her standpoint and strike a balance and be looking for help over non issue.

U tink every man is like u?,i beleive d op die

CriticMaestro:
Extraordinary lie....after 10years of marriage you still have the urge to have sex with the same woman three times a week? So you must have had sex more than 1500 times over the years...what you deserve some accolades for that extraordinary lie

Amakababe:
you talk exactly like an experienced prostitute. No offence.

Why would you say that to someone's wife?

No wonder your GPA is 0.2.

MARKone:
10 years of marriage? 3x a week seems demanding.

I'm confused. Are they splitting wood?. What is 'demanding' in a pleasurable activity that mostly lasts less than 10 min each day in the 10080 minutes we have in a week. It's obvious the woman doesn't enjoy the sex anymore. Definitely not that the sex is too much.

queenfav:
Exactly.. I just laugh when i see some nairaland posts. Me when marry sailor, i for don die na. People just take this sex thing very seriously, that's why many get tired of their partners fast.

@bolded,

I try to imagine the battles you often face (in those moments) in his absence. You're missing in action while you're still young and full of energy.

By now, you're probably sexually relegated.

OP, see, check out the reverse, ‘all things being equal’, when a married man starts denying his wife sex, 95% of the time it’s because he’s having sex with another girl(s) outside or in love with another woman etc. So, same thing, when a married woman starts denying her husband sex, it’s either she’s already fxcking some guy(s) outside or about to. “ABOUT TO” means she’s already “talking to another nigga”, that is she is somewhere in between here: [the regular chats->hangouts->sex chats->nude exchanges->smooching phase]. Don’t let anyone deceive you, sex thrice a week with your own wife isn’t too much. Even everyday sex isn’t too much. When it’s not like the sex always last 6 hours per session. Time to do your COVERT investigation. Your wife is likely (98% chance) cheating on you already. Pretend as if everything is ok, don’t ask questions, so she won’t get suspicious and put her guard up. The goal is to hack her phone secretly. Once you do that successfully, sit back relax, grab some popcorn and cold juice, and watch the blockbuster movie that’s about to play out in your eyes.

mimimile93:



What does his wife really got to offer him apart from sex?

She probably avoid giving that man sex simply because she's giving it else where..

Fear women.
No ho.e would say she doesn't like sex.

omooba969:


Awusubitrue.

Lol olobe

omooba969:


It appears you have never been taken there before, that's why you have no clue what you're missing nor what it feels like.

Sweetheart you really need a German machine in your life & certainly your life will never remain the same.

Jisos!

vingeophysicist:
no ooo.She is a nurse that is why. Nurses generally are plane when they talk about sex.

Plane kwa.